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Husband wants to loan step-brother 600. How to make sure we get it back?

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  • Dovah_diva
    Dovah_diva Posts: 539 Forumite
    Arnie123 wrote: »
    No we are on a VERY LOW income. I run a business but it does not make much cash as it is only just over a year old and husband does not work.

    If he doesn't work where is he going to get £600 to give away?
  • You-kip
    You-kip Posts: 499 Forumite
    Arnie123 wrote: »
    We have looked into these payments off the social. Apparently you have to spend the cash and then present the invoice to the social who will cover it.

    And that is the problem, they cannot pay upfront.

    I have spoke to the hospital bereavement specialist and tehy have said tif they cannot raise fund upfront the hospital will arrange a basic funeral.

    however this relative wants a burial.

    my response is he should get a job. there are lots of things i would like but cannot afford them. perhaps if he had not walked out of the job i gave him he could have afforded it (unlikely for a pot smoker)

    DWP website.
    If we can pay you a Funeral Payment and you have used a funeral director but their bill has not been paid, we will usually pay directly into the funeral director’s bank account.
  • matttye
    matttye Posts: 4,828 Forumite
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    Arnie123 wrote: »
    I have nagged him into a corner and he has backed down! He is mega-sulking now but I would rather have the mother of all sulks then putting 600 down the drain...

    Well that's quite a callous way of putting it...
    What will your verse be?

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  • JuicyJesus
    JuicyJesus Posts: 3,831 Forumite
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    matttye wrote: »
    Well that's quite a callous way of putting it...

    Seems like a decent way of putting it. If I lived with someone and I loaned £600 to someone who would never in a million years pay it back, I'd fully expect the next funeral that needs paying for to be mine.
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  • matttye
    matttye Posts: 4,828 Forumite
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    JuicyJesus wrote: »
    Seems like a decent way of putting it. If I lived with someone and I loaned £600 to someone who would never in a million years pay it back, I'd fully expect the next funeral that needs paying for to be mine.

    It's still money to pay for a funeral, hardly 'throwing money down the drain' but whatever :) you're entitled to your opinion.
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  • JuicyJesus
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    matttye wrote: »
    It's still money to pay for a funeral, hardly 'throwing money down the drain' but whatever :) you're entitled to your opinion.

    That confuses the OP's husband with a charity that pays for other peoples' funerals.

    The person they were putatively "lending" the money to has a proven track record of being given an inch and taking a mile. They'd "borrow" this money and it would never be seen again. Warm fuzzies that they've paid for a funeral for someone who they apparently don't really know are not going to bring back £600 which they need to live on.
    urs sinserly,
    ~~joosy jeezus~~
  • Dimey
    Dimey Posts: 1,434 Forumite
    OP your husband seems a bit of a liability.

    He has no financial sense and no respect for you on this occasion, especially as you're the family breadwinner.

    I hope husband doesn't give his step brother the £600 behind your back.
    If he does that will open the door for lots more requests for money from the daft "cash cow".
    And the money will probably all be smoked up the step brother's nose.

    I hope you take control of your family finances from here on.

    Did the stepfather not leave any money in his will for funeral expenses?

    As other posters have said, if your husband is determined to pay for the funeral and (with you suckered round to agreeing) is eligible for some government assistance towards it, he could apply to the DSS for funeral expenses himself. Cut out the risky middle man.

    I hope your husband can see the warning signs about his step brother and keep him at a respectful distance.
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  • eskimo26
    eskimo26 Posts: 897 Forumite
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    I think you need to pose as someone else and scam your Husband for as much as you can, then put the money aside and every time he tries this kind of nonsense remind him of all that money he lost and get really angry!

    :money:
  • Caladan
    Caladan Posts: 378 Forumite
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    Ouch. People in this thread are brutal. Some people aren't financially astute, I come across them every day at work but I don't look down on them because of it!

    They are right though OP, lessons need to be learned or you could end up with much bigger losses than a few hundred pounds.

    Kind regards,
    Cal
  • dealer_wins
    dealer_wins Posts: 7,334 Forumite
    OP you have married a numpty, good luck in life caus your gonna need it big time!!!
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