Real-life MMD: Pay for mum's hotel room or risk her absence at christening?

mandragora_2

You two have a lovely night in a hotel - the nicest one you can afford. Leave the kids with both sets of grandparents, and they can all have a bit of bonding time, knowing that their respective children are investing in keeping their own relationship strong - which is good all round - while you treat yourselves to a bit of 'just us' time. Leave them to get on with it - feed and bath sprogs, put them to bed and feed/entertain each other. Hopefully they'll all behave like civilised adults and have a lovely evening. If not, then let them sort it out and don't get dragged in.

mr_bonio

I would put both lots of parents up in your house and leave them to baby sit the kids and take the wife away to a posh hotel for the night without he kids. I would then thank both sets of parents for being so generous staying to babysit the kids :rotfl:

BobbinAlong

+1 to above - let the parents babysit and go out and enjoy an evening together!
You and the wife sleeping on a lilo on the sitting room floor is probably the best option though.
Alternatively put BOTH sets of parents up in the cheapest hotel you can find (even if it's a drive away) - there's plenty of £19 and £29 room offers around - and tell them you're paying for them all to hotel as a treat and so they won't get woken up by crying babies etc.

Dexter2013

Did your mum only ask after you told her you had already offered the in laws the room? If so, she is just being awkward (as mothers of men tend to be), so just let her sort her own hotel out. Remember, mums often see their sons wife as the evil woman that took their baby away - something to bear in mind if you do decide to side with your wife

happyinflorida

Say you can't afford to pay for a hotel room but that you've got a friend who will let them stay and make sure it's a really horrible place, that will teach her not to lie and make hell for you and try to get all the attention when it's meant to be a christening day and she should be Christian and behave like a Christian which she obviously hasn't got a clue about.

How far away does she live? Anything less than 600 miles and she can drive there and back in one day!

Don't put up with crap off mothers, they are not worth it.

poet123

happyinflorida wrote: »

Say you can't afford to pay for a hotel room but that you've got a friend who will let them stay and make sure it's a really horrible place, that will teach her not to lie and make hell for you and try to get all the attention when it's meant to be a christening day and she should be Christian and behave like a Christian which she obviously hasn't got a clue about.

How far away does she live? Anything less than 600 miles and she can drive there and back in one day!

Don't put up with crap off mothers, they are not worth it.

There speaks someone with a back story, or a bitter person, depending on your view point.;)

auntie_sal

I wonder if your mother feels left out in any other way? Sometimes the maternal grandmother is given preferential treatment as the new mum doesn't mind her own mother giveing advice and support but sees the mother in law as interfering. It's not easy I know from experience of having both a son and a daughter. Still the grandchildren are all loved the same. Could you ask your mum to compromise this time and ask her to visit you for a weekend soon after or before the christening? I do think you should let your mum know that she is as important a grandmother as the other one so that she doesn't continue to be 'difficult' and ruin your relationship.:A:A

sugarbaby125

Listen to your wife without dismissing her point of view, then do the same to your Mother. It is what they both want most from you.

Explain to your Mother how much you love her and can not wait for her to be part of your child's christening, then ask your Mother if she is willing to pay for her hotel room. You may find that once your Mother is reassured, she will see sense (hopefully)

meher

if it was my mother and mother in law, i'd definitely ask my mother to stay at the hotel (my mother can afford it as well and she would refuse to accept anything from us anyway) and let the in law stay with us because i'd have the freedom to tell my mother but my husband might not take any such privileges

This couple here made a mistake of comitting to the in law to stay at theirs. Now their only choice is to pay and put the mother somewhere else and the son has to pay and not listen to this selfish daughter in law who wants a place for her mother but not happy about the husband paying for his own mother to stay in a hotel! I cannot believe how difficult some people can be.

aliberry

tell her to use the money she would have spent on a LOVELY christening gift for a hotel. No child ever appreciates a silver mini cutlery set.