I thought Id buy you a gift, but didnt.....

Dunroamin

Treevo wrote: »

So lucky to be gay.

You are allowed to wear earrings.;)

BugglyB

I think what you have had is a misunderstanding, and it's never wise to get angry over a misunderstanding. I don't think he deliberately meant to upset you.

You may find now that you have kicked up a fuss about this, that every time you say 'oh thats nice isn't it' in a shop window, he is thrown into a tizz wondering if you want something bought or if you are hinting or if you are merely passing comment.

TopQuark

Jesus, talk about first world problems.

OP, why don't you take a step back from the situation to see how utterly ridiculous and petulant you're being. You are angry because someone offered to buy you a present. Seriously? Your opening post makes you sound like an ungrateful little girl. How often do you offer to by gifts for your husband?

And I dislike all of this gender pigeon-holing around men not taking hints, women not knowing what they want etc. Absolute tosh.

marisco_2

Netwizard wrote: »

Just got to pray they dont find out about each other :eek:

Not understanding women's logic would be the least of your worries if they did :D

peachyprice

Treevo wrote: »

So lucky to be gay.

Some of my gay friends would give the most awkward women on the plant a run for their money, don't assume you've had a lucky escape

This_Year

Reminded me of a mahoosive row we had on one of my birthdays. A birthday ending in a 0.

On the day he said that he hadn't got me anything as he thought we might go out so I could choose. Marginally disappointed that there wasn't a giftwrapped box to open on the breakfast table, I agreed.

We went into town and wandered around some jewellery shops as I was considering a necklace. I didn't know how much he wanted to spend, so I asked what the budget was; he replied "whatever you want you can have." I would have much rather he said, up to this amount as at the time we were in goldsmiths and everything I looked at and said, "that's nice" he said, "if I had known you wanted to come here I would have got tesco vouchers to make it cheaper..."

So I took it that his budget wasn't that high after all and looked at the lower priced items, he was by then looking at necklaces and bracelets costing £000's. Baffled, I asked him again how much he wanted to spend and he said "I told you whatever you want but you obviously don't know what you would like or you would have chosen by now".

I replied that I wasn't about to choose something costing a thousand pounds only for him to say he wanted to spend fifty, and likewise I didn't want to be looking at the cheaper ranges if he really intended to spend a lot more and he said "forget it then. You don't want anything". And walked out of the shop.

Much later he did buy me a necklace but tbh it was too late.

poet123

This_Year wrote: »

Reminded me of a mahoosive row we had on one of my birthdays. A birthday ending in a 0.

On the day he said that he hadn't got me anything as he thought we might go out so I could choose. Marginally disappointed that there wasn't a giftwrapped box to open on the breakfast table, I agreed.

We went into town and wandered around some jewellery shops as I was considering a necklace. I didn't know how much he wanted to spend, so I asked what the budget was; he replied "whatever you want you can have." I would have much rather he said, up to this amount as at the time we were in goldsmiths and everything I looked at and said, "that's nice" he said, "if I had known you wanted to come here I would have got tesco vouchers to make it cheaper..."

So I took it that his budget wasn't that high after all and looked at the lower priced items, he was by then looking at necklaces and bracelets costing £000's. Baffled, I asked him again how much he wanted to spend and he said "I told you whatever you want but you obviously don't know what you would like or you would have chosen by now".

I replied that I wasn't about to choose something costing a thousand pounds only for him to say he wanted to spend fifty, and likewise I didn't want to be looking at the cheaper ranges if he really intended to spend a lot more and he said "forget it then. You don't want anything". And walked out of the shop.

Much later he did buy me a necklace but tbh it was too late.

I would guess his point was that if there was something in that shop that you had fallen in love with at that point he would have said if it was too far out of his price range.

I don't know if you are married to him, but I would know how much my OH could/would spend and have looked accordingly, unless I was drawn to one specific piece.

Men are often black and white, you haven't gone gaga over something so to him this means there is nothing in there worth him buying.

This_Year

poet123 wrote: »

I would guess his point was that if there was something in that shop that you had fallen in love with at that point he would have said if it was too far out of his price range.

I don't know if you are married to him, but I would know how much my OH could/would spend and have looked accordingly, unless I was drawn to one specific piece.

Men are often black and white, you haven't gone gaga over something so to him this means there is nothing in there worth him buying.

Yeah, we hadn't been together THAT long by then so were still in the getting to [STRIKE]put up with each other's foibles[/STRIKE] know you stage LOL I was trying to be considerate in not expecting him to necessarily fork out £000's as that was how my ex worked. Every present he would announce how much he had spent on it! :eek:

I've since learned with my OH to tell him exactly what I would like as I now know how much he would want to spend.

Melaniep101

My husband is rubbish at taking hints or picking up on the fact that I would like something. It's a lot easier these days if I just say "would you buy me these for my birthday/christmas/anniversary/etc". More often than not, he'll buy it "just because".

Just be straight down the line and spell it out!

poet123

We use Amazon wish lists in the run up to Christmas and Birthdays, it makes it so much easier and you can use any shop and add them to your list.