I thought Id buy you a gift, but didnt.....

Netwizard

marisco wrote: »

Sometimes women's logic baffles me, and I am a woman. :

Im fooked for the rest of my days then if even women dont understand womens logic :eek::D

elsien

The thing about hints is knowing if it's really a hint or not.
I look in shop windows fairly regularly and say I like things. Doesn't mean I actually want them though, just making conversation.

Jinx

Okay the word 'hint' here is obviously misleading.

I saw the earrings and said I was going in the shop. Had a look round and a chat with the owner. Asked him for a business card so I could give it to hubby (who was in shop with me) to note the earrings for future purchase. The owner was out of cards and he actually said the website is pretty poor - heyho. Hubby noted the shop name and I knew he would ask our daughter to go get the earrings at some point as she works near there. I do it this way so I get what I want in general knowing men find it hard to choose for us women. Daughter always gets sent to collect.

We left the shop and I didn't give it another thought because I don't spend my life expecting my husband to just add to my jewellery collection on every day out.

ETA - I don't play games with my husband - well not head games anyway lol

I am not annoyed I didn't get the earrings.

I am annoyed he brought up the subject at all. If he had wanted to buy me a gift he should have done or not mentioned it. To say oh I thought about it but didn't is just stupid -as I say zero brownie points.

And I would not have asked for the earrings, Im saving for a special holiday and we're having work done on the house - not the time to splash out on luxuries so again, why even mention it?

Lou67

Yep, men are rubbish with hints. My hubby is a love and a great hubby, but rubbish with gift buying. If i want something, I get it myself. Every birthday and Christmas, i can guess what he is going to get me... A bottle of booze, a DVD, (usually something *he* likes) a CD that's been advertised on telly of 70s or 80s dance music, (even though I have most tracks already,) a soft toy and a box of chocolates. I like several different perfumes, I love jewellry and I like animal ornaments and a number of other things; yet he always buys me the same routine gifts, that frankly, I could do without...

He bought me a flying lesson for my 40th, but I found out it was my daughter's idea!

He has fixed ideas in his head about what people want. He was determined to buy an ipad for our daughter's 18th; even though she never said she wanted one! When I told her about it (before her birthday,) she said, she DEFINATELY doesn't want one! And if we have that kind of money to spare, she would rather have the money! I had to get HER to tell him she didn't want it, and he said to me that she is 'ungrateful.' So weird!

Lou67

Sorry Jinx. Just saw your last post after I posted the one above ^^^ I was composing this last post when your post (No. 14) came through, and didn't see it before I posted my post (No. 15.)

Jinx

marisco wrote: »

Sometimes women's logic baffles me, and I am a woman. Your husband could win if he had basically ignored your hints, said nothing and never bought you the earrings. Yet he is on a fail because he is thoughtful and said if you want something just ask me and you can have it. Hmmmm okay :cool:

He didn't say at the time, if you want them I'll buy them now. He said later this evening, 12 hours and 50 miles away - if you had said I would have bought them for you.... If he had said that in the shop, I would have said 'fine, thank you for the earrings '

lostinrates

Netwizard wrote: »

I dont do hints. Either you want something or you dont.

I agree on this issue, mainly.



But sometimes what one part of a relation ship 'doesn't do' needs to be flexible.


I hate surprises, DH loves to give them. (And receive them) I feel I cannot say 'I like that' in case he thinks I'm hinting its a good gift so we have developed a sort of code and subtext and sometimes I'll just browse on line and send him pictures of things I like so he can refer to it if he wants to in the future at some time.

It works for us.

Better_Off_1983

Buy them yourself if you like them so much. If he brought them for you now, you will always be reminded of being annoyed that he didn't buy them for you at the time.

Netwizard

Jinx wrote: »

If he had said that in the shop, I would have said 'fine, thank you for the earrings '

I dont understand this. Surely you would have said thanks but no thanks, as you said above "now is not the time to be shopping for luxuries" as you have other things to spend the money on.

So did you want them or not? :undecided

Jinx

I wish Id never stopped to look at them now! lol

I don't care about the earrings.

I just don't understand why you would highlight NOT buying something your other half liked........ why not just keep your mouth shut?