I thought Id buy you a gift, but didnt.....

neverdespairgirl

Netwizard wrote: »

I would have no problem if my GF / wife / mistress or whatever purchased stuff and just said to me "this is what I wanted for xmas. I bought it myself to make your life easier, just give me the money for it"

Result is she gets what she wanted, paid for by me, and it saves me the headache of trying to figure out what to buy, everyone is happy

I'd have thought that having a wife, GF AND mistress would not result in great happiness all round.......

poet123

Men are quite simple creatures really (no offence) you have to be really clear with them. Just commenting on something is not enough, you have to say "I really want those earrings" not just "those are nice!" that does not get through I am afraid. They are never really sure if you are just making polite comments or really do want them.

Frith

I'm completely flummoxed by this thread! If you have a husband, and you see something you like in a shop, is it expected that he would buy it for you???

Don't you just buy it for yourself?

Would you actually say "That would be nice for my Christmas/birthday present?" (unless it was a couple of days before the event) ?

What a strange concept!

Netwizard

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I'd have thought that having a wife, GF AND mistress would not result in great happiness all round.......

Just got to pray they dont find out about each other :eek:

poet123

Frith wrote: »

I'm completely flummoxed by this thread! If you have a husband, and you see something you like in a shop, is it expected that he would buy it for you???

Don't you just buy it for yourself?

Would you actually say "That would be nice for my Christmas/birthday present?" (unless it was a couple of days before the event) ?

What a strange concept!

I agree, if you want them enough buy them yourself, or if they are not top priority, understand why he hasn't.

Pechow

Jinx wrote: »

II just don't understand why you would highlight NOT buying something your other half liked........ why not just keep your mouth shut?

It sounds like he highlighted it as why he didn't get them-you hinted, but didn't say outright that you liked them. He probably thought that since you didn't say that you wanted them, you were just commenting on how nice they were (or whatever), but then later thought about it and realised that you could have been commenting on them because you wanted them after all. Still uncertain whether you did want them or not, he thought to clarify with you that if you had wanted them, you should have said so-and so in the future if there's something that you like, you now know to just say so.

That's how it came across to me anyway

Person_one

Lou67 wrote: »

He has fixed ideas in his head about what people want. He was determined to buy an ipad for our daughter's 18th; even though she never said she wanted one! When I told her about it (before her birthday,) she said, she DEFINATELY doesn't want one! And if we have that kind of money to spare, she would rather have the money! I had to get HER to tell him she didn't want it, and he said to me that she is 'ungrateful.' So weird!

I'm with him on that one, he wanted to buy her something nice and very expensive, and she ordered him not to and to hand over cash instead? That's practically the definition if ungrateful!

Dunroamin

Jinx wrote: »

LOL are you married netwizard? My hubbys been working away for ages, if he wanted to buy me something I would have allowed it.....They weren't expensive, he can afford them. But we hadn't gone out looking to buy jewellery, its not high on my priority list...

I wish you'd make up your mind! First you say that it isn't the time for buying luxuries because of saving for a special holiday and having work done on the house, then you say that they weren't expensive and he can afford them! No wonder the poor bloke's confused!

Treevo

So lucky to be gay.

lostinrates

Treevo wrote: »

So lucky to be gay.

Lol, some of my gay guy friends are WAY worse than any of my female straight friends about this sort of thing.:D.