I thought Id buy you a gift, but didnt.....

Jinx

Netwizard wrote: »

I dont understand this. Surely you would have said thanks but no thanks, as you said above "now is not the time to be shopping for luxuries" as you have other things to spend the money on.

So did you want them or not? :undecided

LOL are you married netwizard? My hubbys been working away for ages, if he wanted to buy me something I would have allowed it.....They weren't expensive, he can afford them. But we hadn't gone out looking to buy jewellery, its not high on my priority list...

Netwizard

Jinx wrote: »

LOL are you married netwizard?

No thankfully!

Jinx

:D:D awww hope I haven't put you off for life!

Georgiegirl256

Hmmm I'm getting mixed messages here, did you really want the earrings or not?

Personally I hate surprises, so me and the DH don't do hints either, we either want something and mention it or send links to it, or not as the case may be. Why !!!!! foot about?

SavingSassy

Aww Jinx! I understand your frustration.

I once hinted for a well known bracelet for about 6 months before my birthday and didn't get it..... instead I got a pair of earrings that were double the price (and I don't wear earrings!), never mind - still a lovely thought. So I this time I asked for the bracelet for christmas - hinting cleary didn't work the first time..... I got a necklace!!! Neither hinting or asking doesn't work with my OH, I just don't think he even listens!

If he turned round later on and said 'if you wanted it, you should have asked' I'd have gone booloo!

Funky_Bold_Ribena

Jinx wrote: »

He didn't say at the time, if you want them I'll buy them now. He said later this evening, 12 hours and 50 miles away - if you had said I would have bought them for you.... If he had said that in the shop, I would have said 'fine, thank you for the earrings '

What were you supposed to have said exactly? If you liked them, and took down the name of the shop, the website etc etc...just for a pair of earrings that you wanted...what else are you supposed to do in order to communicate that you did indeed, want them?

Mojisola

Funky_Bold_Ribena wrote: »

What were you supposed to have said exactly? If you liked them, and took down the name of the shop, the website etc etc...just for a pair of earrings that you wanted...what else are you supposed to do in order to communicate that you did indeed, want them?

Maybe just buy them?

Funky_Bold_Ribena

Mojisola wrote: »

Maybe just buy them?

I was asking the OP and she has said on more than one occasion why she didn't buy them herself.

zaksmum

It's a waste of time hinting to my O/H for Christmas or birthdays.

I have to choose what I want, take him to the shop, point it out, tell him the size or whatever...!

If I left it to him he'd be all sheepish on whatever special day it was with "I didn't know what you wanted...!" No effort whatsoever.

But I've been married to him for 42 years and he's the nicest, most loyal and protective guy. He's just got a mental block where presents are concerned and when I look at the big picture - and some of the guys out there - I still consider myself lucky to have him for my husband.

Netwizard

Funky_Bold_Ribena wrote: »

I was asking the OP and she has said on more than one occasion why she didn't buy them herself.

Surely its better than not having what you want at all though.

I would have no problem if my GF / wife / mistress or whatever purchased stuff and just said to me "this is what I wanted for xmas. I bought it myself to make your life easier, just give me the money for it"

Result is she gets what she wanted, paid for by me, and it saves me the headache of trying to figure out what to buy, everyone is happy

Just my opinion