MSE Pregnancy Club 26

lobey

I'm finishing work at 36 weeks and I'm really struggling already. I think ideally I'd finish at 34 weeks but if you can hack it and it isn't wearing you down then maybe you'd prefer to push through to the bitter end?

Toothfairy4

I'm finishing at 36+1, starting to feel really tired now so hoping the next 4 weeks go quickly! First week and a half of that is annual leave so mat leave really starts at 38 weeks

Lola888

With my last pregnancy I worked until 39 weeks, hardcore me!! lol no I just had a gut feeling I would go over and I felt okay so I kept going so I could have more time at home with DD1.

I was in a sedatary office job, but I was still working in a busy Chinese takeaway on the weekends as well. I used to get really swollen ankles, haven't experienced that yet with this one touch wood!!

I think this time round I will go off at 37/38 weeks using some a/l for the last two weeks otherwise I'll lose the a/l as the new financial year would have started by the time I get back. It was different last time I tagged on a/l to the maternity leave so officially I can back in Dec, but physically I went back in Jan.

Lola888

WalkingOnADream I was lucky with my parents they have never been the suffocating type, they came over when invited and would ring me to see if I could go over to them, but it was always pre-arranged. I don't have a lot of family who live close, almost all of them live abroad- luckily!

MIL and FIL are completely different (separated so double the trouble!! :rotfl:) MIL had the audacity to come to the hospital within about a hour of me giving birth!! :mad: she made a crappy excuse of needing to drive her nephew to the hospital as he had hurt his knee- he'd done it almost 18 hrs previously!!

Now her favourite thing is to ring and turn up 10 mins later, she knows DH won't say no. It always seems to be about 60 mins before bed so she gets in the way when we are trying to feed her or get her ready for bed.

FIL is just as bad he always rings on a Sunday morning, he used to ring at 7.30 saying oh I thought the baby would be up, regardless if one of us was up and the other was trying to have a lie in and even now even though DH keeps telling him LO doesn't get up until 8-8.30. It's funny how he can't see our LO any other day of the week!! He's gets arsey if we have made plans- how dare we try and do things on the weekend when we are both off work!!

I would tell them where to go myself, if they don't like the name they can get stuffed. I called my daughter Isabella and I've told everyone I don't like Izzy she doesn't look like an Izzy. I used Bella or Isabella, DH's aunt deliberately calls her Izzy and has told me to my face she does it because she knows it annoys me!!!

No you won't be coming over for tea, on the days they are supposedly coming over go out they will soon get the idea!!

I breastfed and our house was flooded with DH's family he is one of about a million family members. I would deliberately go upstairs and sit in our bedroom and if anyone asked I would always say I was feeding, I didn't care if I !!!!!! them off. I didn't want to entertain people and I got annoyed with them playing pass the parcel with my DD who sometimes would be trying to sleep. I got annoyed with people making endless cups of tea and then leaving the cups in the sink. It sounds mean, but I just wanted to bond with my baby with DH on our own.

You haven't mentioned an OH or a DH in your post so I'm not sure if you have one who will be taking paternity leave. If that is the case then I would make it clear to your mother that she would be a third wheel as the three of you want to bond as a family unit. If she doesn't listen then get DH to speak to her as well, it sometimes takes someone else saying something to get it through.

I really hope they listen the stress isn't good for you. I wish I could move miles and miles away from DH's family they are all idiots!!!

Wow just realised I have written a huge rant- thanks if anyone has got this far!!

Catty212

Hello folks. Just want to introduce myself.

I'm Cat and I'm 14W 4D pregnant with out first baby.

welsh_cosmic

Good luck MV... Been a couple of weeks behind you on all the threads!!!!

Congrats to all the new babies that have arrived but it has pushed me very quickly up the list!!!

This is my last week in work... So will be 38 weeks when my maternity starts and have tagged most of my annual leave on to the end!!!! Feeling a tired but can't sleep past 7.30 and I am not feelin too bad at work... Did have a little slump today!!!

Spent most of the day yesterday crying... Hormonal or what!!! Up early on Saturday, went to a wedding and didn't get hone to 1.30am!!! OH rolling over all the night, then up early again yesterday.... Oh then decided to have a BBQ last night as bought a new one!!! Crying really kicked off then... Tired and didn't want to deal with people as did all day Saturday!!!

Midwife appointment this afternoon then came home and had an hour sleep... So feel better now and not crying!!!!

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fluffysox

Welcome Cat and congrats on the pregnancy

Welshcosmic I have found that a nap is usually the cure for my hormonal meltdowns. Have plenty of rest and don't judge yourself harshly its normal.

Got a headache and have spent the evening putting birthday hampers together for two friends of ours (a couple) and cursing myself because they have annoyed me over the past 12 months. They've generally been very self involved, and without going into detail I was cursing myself for making so much effort for them. :mad:

Claree__x

I don't wanna leave this thread, I miss you guys! Can I stay 'till I'm out of hospital? :rotfl:

BeNiceToMySelf

Hi Cat, hope you have a lovely pregnancy

fluffysox I know what you mean. Now I'm pregnant tho I think it's a good excuse for missing birthdays and not sending cards - I have so little energy. You must have a lot of energy to make hampers at midnight!

Claree please stay I love hearing about people having healthy babies cos it makes me more positive. It also gives me hope if people have the time and energy to post despite having a newborn! So many people describe having a baby as some sort of awful shocking sleep deprived experience but I would like to enjoy having a baby.

Angelmommy

Congrats Cat.

Bangton - my maternity leave starts the day after I am due but I have tagged 3wks annual leave on beforehand. I had planned on 2wks before and a week on the end of maternity but unison have warned that the council I work for are contemplating changes in sick pay/maternity etc and I can see having a wk on the end may be something that's changed so instead of a possible row over it, have decided to take it earlier so I will now leave at 38wks.

WalkingOnADream - I'm 30+2. I mean this in the nicest way but you need to 'man up'. It is your baby, your rules. I regretfully, allowed my mom and sister to talk me out of a name for dd1 when I was 20 and regretted it until I had dd2 and got to use it for her. I'm now 37 and pregnant with a boy and have had people slating names we liked so now we've told everyone that his name is Herbie - it shuts them up. Once baby is born and we announce the name, people won't be so rude. As for them coming for tea - only if YOU want that; it's your home, not theirs and like someone else said; just don't be in or tell them when they suggest it again that they can turn up if the like but you won't be there - may put them off making the journey.

Lola - haven't heard a thing from my MIL & FIL. Am dreading when baby comes as we don't get on (they're the most horrendous in-laws ever!) yet they'll expect to see baby etc. I expect they will turn up when they want or very last minute. I have told DH to advise them that this is not acceptable and as I'm breast feeding, will leave him downstairs for the whole time with them, if they turn up. Tbh I would be happy to tell them they can't see him at all as they don't bother with our two girls anyway (forget them at birthdays and Xmas sometimes yet lavish other granddaughter) but hubby is from 4 boys and having the first grandson to pass on family name, is awesome to him. He adores our girls to bits but after 7yrs of trying for this one and it actually being a boy - he is over the moon and very proud. For me to stop them seeing this one when he's born would upset DH so much more than them so I can't do it....but, step a foot out of place and they'll know about it - I don't put up with their carp anymore :-)

Congrats on all the babies and yes, please can I see pics too - I love a baby photo. Pigpens was adorable. I've ordered a couple of cheap crochet outfits from eBay to do my own baby photo shoot when he's sleeping. And check me out; one is a Santa outfit and will use it as our Xmas cards.

Good luck MV - how exciting! I cannot wait for labour, I love it.

Xx