MSE Pregnancy Club 26

an9i77

Am I the only one who IS enjoying the heatwave? It's so rare we get Mediterranean style weather in this country for any length of time - I'll willingly trade a little discomfort at night for clear blue skies and sun. last time I was this pregnant, it was the middle of January and raining/cold so I'd take this over that any day!
Does anyone know when you can get this whooping cough vaccination, is it any time after 28 weeks? They forgot to give it to me last time I was at ante natal clinic.
OH has been looking for work now I'm off (he's usually full time carer for our son but we're swapping roles), after four weeks fruitless searching he has a day's work today - only one day but it's a start. Hopefully it will lead to something a bit longer lasting as we really need the money now that I've finished work.

NoAngel

yumyums wrote: »

NoAngel, is he always like this or is it a recent thing? Have you been to antenatal classes or are you planning to attend? I've found them good because they get all the partners talking to eachother and I think it helps them realise they have a big part to play in the baby's life too. You will need support when the baby comes. Is there really no one you can talk to?

We are going to antenatal classes in a couple of weeks, NCT classes. I talked to my friend but as our DHs are best mates neither of us like to moan too much. And I feel bad for being mean about him. He's very excited about the baby but I'm unsure whether he's slightly in denial about how much its going to change our lives. You're right that attending the antenatal class might be a wake up call for him though!

BeNiceToMySelf

NoAngel both your worlds will be turned upside down once baby arrives so he will change a lot when that happens. I hope for you that it will be in a positive direction.

My OH loves Call of Duty on Xbox and tinkering with his car but does realise that these are the last few weeks when it's just us and likes going out on dates, chatting and deciding on baby stuff together. I figure we'll need the good memories for when we're screaming at each other in a sleep deprived state! He can go through phases where all he does is xbox and car but that's when we both stop talking to each other and stop spending quality time with each other. I find if we don't have quality time we become room mates that don't like each other very much and nag/ scream at each other.

Metranil_Vavin

NoAngel wrote: »

We are going to antenatal classes in a couple of weeks, NCT classes. I talked to my friend but as our DHs are best mates neither of us like to moan too much. And I feel bad for being mean about him. He's very excited about the baby but I'm unsure whether he's slightly in denial about how much its going to change our lives. You're right that attending the antenatal class might be a wake up call for him though!

Being pregnant and actually being handed a real baby, are 2 completely different things!

I know that possibly sounds like I'm stating the obvious or being really patronising, but I clearly recall how I felt being handed my son for the first time, looking at OH and saying in shock 'oh my God, it's a baby'!!

Nothing prepares you fully for your first baby..all the antenatal/NCT/DVD's etc are great, but it's only when you have your baby in your arms you realise what it entails.

He needs to get his head out of his ar5e a bit now to avoid him having a very rude awakening! You sound lovely and like you've looked after him and the house more or less on your own..that's going to have to change though.

Listen shall I just come over and kick his butt for you? I quite enjoy that sort of thing and can be quite scary so I've been told!)

xx

NoAngel

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Being pregnant and actually being handed a real baby, are 2 completely different things!

I know that possibly sounds like I'm stating the obvious or being really patronising, but I clearly recall how I felt being handed my son for the first time, looking at OH and saying in shock 'oh my God, it's a baby'!!

Nothing prepares you fully for your first baby..all the antenatal/NCT/DVD's etc are great, but it's only when you have your baby in your arms you realise what it entails.

He needs to get his head out of his ar5e a bit now to avoid him having a very rude awakening! You sound lovely and like you've looked after him and the house more or less on your own..that's going to have to change though.

Listen shall I just come over and kick his butt for you? I quite enjoy that sort of thing and can be quite scary so I've been told!)

xx

You're totally right, I still can't quite imagine having a real baby at the end of this! It's going to be a wake up call for me too!! But offers of butt kicking are much appreciated!! Think I'm going to plan a date night tonight (staying in as I've got dinner already!) and a day out tomorrow and see how this goes.

kandfs_mam

Morning all, had MW check up this morning - all's well. BP normal, swelling normal for the heat, bump measuring right for dates, baby has engaged now which is what the low pelvic pain was so we're set and ready to go... come on baba, I'm getting impatient now lol

Claree_x - hope you're home safe and sound

On the subject of OHs, mine is a good dad but can be a lazy sod about the house - I think it comes from being spoiled as an only child. When I was pregnant with DS, we had words and I said he would have to stop going out as much but that didn't really happen. It was different then though as we had an 11yo and a baby; this time we will have a 14yo, a 3yo & a baby so I am damned if he is going out Tue, Thurs, Sat & Sun nights.
Tue night is a club that him and DD go to so that's no problem, and I don't grudge him his Thur night couple of hours cos he doesn't go out til after 9pm and is home by midnight, but the Sat & Suns need cut back. For the last month he has only done one or the other but seems to think he should have some sort of medal for staying in with his family on a Sat night! The problem is all of our friends have teenage / grown up kids so the fella's are all getting their lives back and able to have more freedom, like we did when we were first married and childless but they were tied down with babies/ wee kids.

Ah the joys! Right I'm off to raid the freezer for more ice pops (my latest addiction!!). x

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nessie216

After reading some of the comments about all your partners - i feel extremely lucky

Although DH has OCD which does cause problems - he is very good around the house (i was never allowed to touch the hoover or washing machine at one point!) - we normally have disagreements as he thinks i should do more (not so much since becoming pregnant)

The only thing that lets DH down is that he doesn't like to/can't cook - he would much rather have a takeaway lol

But considering DH will be giving up work after my maternity leave - he will have to learn to cook!

Feeling quite good atm, even in the heat (air con at office helps!), but bump is starting to become a little uncomfortable at times - but more than managable!

Only 7 more weeks at work!

Work is slow on the nursery - going for Daffodil White on the walls & tempted to get the Lollipop Lane Safari bed linen & curtains to brighten the room up a bit - carpet is going down on 30th July so should have some pictures to show you all soon

29+1

neneromanova

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

I used to be amazed that some of the girls from my NCT group thought it ok that their OH's would sleep in different rooms so they weren't disturbed in the night when the baby woke up!! !!!!!!???? OH and I took turns, and ok if your OH is back at work and needs to be getting up early, fair enough you may do the late shifts so they can get some sleep, but this seemed to be happening during paternity leave/weekends etc!!!
Also the amount of 'nights out' some of the blokes seemed to do, to me was not on.

You need the support in those early days, just keep reminding your mnfolk that these are their children too!!!

DH didn't get up for any night feeds through the night at all. Even when she was bottle fed at 6 months old. I just thought in the first months, he couldn't exactly pick DD2 up and place her on my boob without waking me up anyway so there was no point in him waking up. (Couldn't express so couldn't do bottles) But he did take her out during the day so I could get a snooze if i needed one at all.

I suppose it's each to their own really.

On the subject of games, I can understand being addicted. Especially if the game is entertaining. I would start putting my foot down though and say "right, you can play tonight, but tomorrow is my night and we do what I want. Then you can have your own night after that." That way you're weaning him off of it. But if you don't nip it in the bud soon, I highly doubt he'll help out when the baby is born. If he's like a lot of men who do as your OH does, the baby will cry during the night, he will huff and roll over. Baby will carry on crying, he will huff some more, then get up and go sleep somewhere else or go back to his game as "He's awake now".

Good Luck to you NoAngel.

AFM well I've finally got my letter through from NI office so I can pay that and hopefully apply for MA to start 5th August. Fingers crossed anyway.

pigpen

I've had words with the inhabitant about it needing to be evicted.. I can barely walk.. not only is the SPD horrific now but my feet are so swollen and painful too. I have taken my shoes off already as they were hurting so OH will have to take DS2 to do the school run later because there is no way I am getting those back on!!

My OH isn't much use with housework etc.. he needs a rocket BUT.. he doesn't go to the pub.. unless DS1 drags him , he goes to sword fighting class once a fortnight.. it is almost 2 hours driving each way and we can't afford the fuel for him to go weekly. He deals with the 2 littlies mostly.. he does all the nappies because Dot falls off my lap when I try to change her and I can't reach the floor to do her down there! He gets up with them in the night and while he does moan a LOT!!!! he is ok on the whole.. totally negative about the pregnancy and claims to not be interested in the children or even to like them but it is all a façade .. he wouldn't really be without them..

I may need to go slap moisturiser on my feet... see if it makes them less uncomfortable.

And.. I have thrush

OH also does shopping and school runs and plays taxi whenever I ask him.. and usually when my older ones ask him too!

neneromanova

I thought they were forcing Eviction on you PP due to something wrong?