Bay 3 months chucked into FULL time nursery

barbarawright

I imagine there are many people nowadays who would never be able to get back into their profession if they left their jobs for a few years. Trevorsminted clearly isn't one of them though - lucky him

j.e.j.

Do people want, hand on heart, to go back to work and leave their baby with someone else? Some are happy to, I expect, but many are probably not.

I can't help thinking 8 till 5 (or 6) is a long day for an adult (!), let alone small children.

mountainofdebt

Personally I think people who feel their children would be better educated by simply travelling the world and not receiving any structured education are being cruel.

trevorsminted

Gigglepig - I did not take anytime off work but did permit the missus to take a few years off to let the kids be brought up by people they knew as apposed to strangers, I appreciate I have irritated some on here it was not my intention I reckon a few may resent their male counterparts for not being able to financially support them to spend more time with their offsprings when young, no problem I appreciate and have resumed the answer I required and realise some don't really worry about their child being with strangers for longer than they actually see them a day merely for them to go to work because they need to, I get it!

sulkisu

trevorsminted wrote: »

Yeah fair enough to all comments I was talking re family both work full time and have decided to have a child and put it to full time nursery from approx. 3 months for 9 hours a day just curious as to why, I appreciate some have no choice but they do!

As you all say each to their own a guy I work with puts his 2 dogs to a kennel daily before work and picks them up on way home so I guess similar idea, each to their own I guess!

Why don't you ask him - face to face? Or is he bigger than you
Seriously though, somebody else's choices don't need to 'cut it' with you. They have a choice and that is theirs. Focus on your own life.

mountainofdebt

sulkisu wrote: »

Why don't you ask him - face to face? Or is he bigger than you
Seriously though, somebody else's choices don't need to 'cut it' with you. They have a choice and that is theirs. Focus on your own life.

Because probably the OP would be told to take a very long walk off a short pier.

GwylimT

trevorsminted wrote: »

Gigglepig - I did not take anytime off work but did permit the missus to take a few years off to let the kids be brought up by people they knew as apposed to strangers, I appreciate I have irritated some on here it was not my intention I reckon a few may resent their male counterparts for not being able to financially support them to spend more time with their offsprings when young, no problem I appreciate and have resumed the answer I required and realise some don't really worry about their child being with strangers for longer than they actually see them a day merely for them to go to work because they need to, I get it!

Firstly your wife is an adult she doesn't require your permission to do anything, secondly by your own reasoning as you chose to work instead of raising your own children you actively decided to make yourself a stranger to them and actively chose not to spend time with them.

You are calling out those who have jobs who are also parents, yet you had a job when your children were young and happily admit that you didn't take off any time at all.

bossymoo

I can see both sides, 3 months is very early. But who knows the circumstances behind the decision? Our nursery wouldn't take a baby younger than 6 months.

lika_86 an awful lot happens with babies at all stages. They are developing physically in their grasp, head and neck control, rolling over and so on. I certainly wouldn't say a 4-6 month old needs only sleep and feeding.

I do think its a shame, I accept some mums prefer to get back to work sooner but I should think the majority of mums would find it hard to be away from such a young child for 5 days out of 7.

trevorsminted

Sulkisu - Completely agree his wife told mine he has insinuated she needs to go back to work full time as he cant afford to look after them both and the child will need to be in full time care, his wife is upset and wanted her first time with her newborn to be special but feels this will not be the case, my wife has told her to take birth control until THEY are in a position for possible part time nursery and mum to spend some quality time with new baby once here (IT/BOY/GIRL) but he wants her pregnant within next 3 months.

I am amazed at negative feedback from this site but then appears to be a lot of guilt driven "I needed to" or "some don't have a choice" I get that but they actually do!

mountainofdebt

trevorsminted wrote: »

I reckon a few may resent their male counterparts for not being able to financially support them to spend more time with their offsprings when young, !

Oh go back under your bridge.