Bay 3 months chucked into FULL time nursery

Cherry_Bomb

Oh bore off!

I expect the next post will be 'breast feeding vs formula' or maybe run off to the benefits section and ask for advice on your signing on date clashing with your holiday.

*yawn* at your amazingly original attempt to wind people up

trevorsminted

Clearing out - I completely get your situation when kids are older and able to walk/talk and go to breakfast club/after school club I am talking about a baby being planned knowing it will be put into 9 hours a day nursery whilst parents work when they could have the option to leave a few years and one (NOT THE MUMMY MAYBE) to take a while off to watch the child, I totally agree some dead beats walk out and mum has to go back to work when it was never part of the plan I am talking about the full time care (unsure of what nursery) being planned before actually pregs!

trevorsminted

Cherrybomb - the wife was a breast feeder but I stuck to bottle thanks :T

atrixblue.-MFR-.

why do you refure to a baby as an IT?

perhaps it was not a planned a pregnancy, and their religion and or personal beliefs did come to conclude with the option to terminate, or not wanted to get judged by people for having a termination making suggestion such that there is an option of nursery, or nanny.

what would your suggestion be to remedy that situation?

not have a child?

have an abortion?

a parent quit woriking?

leave it till later in life to have a child when their careers are solifidied and stable? althoug this bears more risks having child in later life.

did you not considder that this was A. not planned, B.possibly the earnings they have coming in pays for the life they sustained, bearing in mind they worked hard to get them, why should they have to downsize, why should they have to give that up? because your judging them because thats what you want them to do because thats what you would do?

or should they remain in their jobs contribute to this poor econemy we live in, have alife, and provide whats best for their childs future and keep what they have.

Gigglepig

So Trevor, did you take a year off work yourself, or didn't you bother to fully appreciate all those precious moments? i assume you did more than 3 months full time leave yourself? Stones and glass houses and all that.

lika_86

I don't plan on having children as they bore me but I'd rather put a baby in nursery, go back to work and then one partner take time off work once it became older and therefore more responsive and needed more in terms of development than just food and sleep.

GwylimT

trevorsminted wrote: »

Clearing out - I completely get your situation when kids are older and able to walk/talk and go to breakfast club/after school club I am talking about a baby being planned knowing it will be put into 9 hours a day nursery whilst parents work when they could have the option to leave a few years and one (NOT THE MUMMY MAYBE) to take a while off to watch the child, I totally agree some dead beats walk out and mum has to go back to work when it was never part of the plan I am talking about the full time care (unsure of what nursery) being planned before actually pregs!

Some people actually want to work, others cannot afford not to work, if a parent needs to use a nursery of course they are going to organise a nursery placement before the child is born unless they are a complete idiots.

Do you really think everyone can just save for a year or two and be able to quit work for a year? If my partner did that she wouldn't be able to return to her career unless she was able to spend £9K a year at uni and while having zero wages.

If only those who could afford not to work had children we would be up !!!! creek, including you!

trevorsminted

Atrixblue - I refer to the 'child' in question as IT as no one is aware of the s*x of the child so to suggest it is a boy or a girl would be slightly presumptious don't you think but between you and me I reckon it will be a boy or a girl :rotfl:

onlyroz

How about teaching your kids about a good work ethic?

clearingout

trevorsminted wrote: »

Clearing out - I completely get your situation when kids are older and able to walk/talk and go to breakfast club/after school club I am talking about a baby being planned knowing it will be put into 9 hours a day nursery whilst parents work when they could have the option to leave a few years and one (NOT THE MUMMY MAYBE) to take a while off to watch the child, I totally agree some dead beats walk out and mum has to go back to work when it was never part of the plan I am talking about the full time care (unsure of what nursery) being planned before actually pregs!

because they met later in life and threw all their money at a family dream home in an expensive part of the country and had children as fast as they could because if they didn't, it might never happen? because the longer-term view is more important to them - hard work now means that they'll retire on a £50k a year pension at the age of 45 with the mortgage paid off and therefore all the time in the world to spend with the children? because the idea of being stuck at home with a baby is both mum and dad's worst nightmare (it's not much fun, you're supposed to like it but many people struggle with it, it can be incredibly lonely)?

And my youngest was full time from about 18 months - nursery, not just breakfast and afterschool clubs. It's not ideal. It is something I feel very guilty about but needs must. People shouldn't have to explain their situations not to be judged. Or indeed, have to explain to be judged!