Bay 3 months chucked into FULL time nursery

Treevo

trevorsminted wrote: »

Oh my goodness I come back having been away to find my thread is still riding high in the top threads :j

Ok once again I am very grateful and thank you all for the feedback, good and bad. I have taken the fact I am illiterate, chauvinistic, a troll that lives under a bridge etc etc etc but I will again reiterate I was merely asking on behalf of my equal life partners friend, frankly I couldn't give two hoots in fact I actually agree with the ones that said what about the fathers contribution to spending time with the kids, in my case I was able to provide a salary to compensate my wife working and I agreed I did work approx. 35 hours a week possibly leaving my DW to do the majority of work. Anyway have added some full stops for the lovely OP who was tickled pink at my longest sentence they had every seen, and well done all you girls who work you show hubby whos boss and burn that bl&&dy bras you want to work and leave your kiddies at nursery with only strangers until the kids are used to them then good on each and every one of you!

Keep up the thread, me and me wife take off in the motorhome but I shall pop in to see your interesting threads, I have requested my wife keeps opinions with friend to herself and lets her make her own choices, whether my wife does or not I have no idea there is only so far my chavanistic controlling powers will go :T its up to her and her OH to decide what is best for their child to be after all, my wife and I have decided to leave them to it.

PS. I did coach the school rugby on a sat/sun morning if that counts as bonding time with my boys but who knows!

You've decided to let someone else make their own decisions?! My god you should be given the Nobel Prize!

trevorsminted

Many thanks for reply yes we have, it is a shame as my wife's friend was upset about the whole thing as was meant to be coming round over the weekend but quite frankly I have a sneaky plan to do a trip in the van to Poole, sorry but she has made her bed she has an option to not get pregnant to him or she can and do as he says or not I don't care me and the wife are happy to be out of it, well I am I told the wife we would be back Sat morning but have no intentions, silly woman has her husband if she is willing to do as he tells her (as another poster said) she deserves all she gets!

Anyway logging out now thanks again peeps be back next week enjoy and remember there is a world out there away from here where you can experience lots of things, maybe I should give pregs wife to be the details so she can ask advice on here, personally I would recommend each and every one to give a good old laugh at the debates, priceless!

PS.... Come on now that's even a bigger sentence, happy holidays!

Treevo

Somethin' about vans?

moneysaymoneydo

Ok babies different they cant walk/talk and yes I agree they need mum or dad for a while when they enter the world but pre-school kids yes they are different!

We have a static caravan and so wish we had a motor home so we could move sites but yes I agree leave them to it, her mistake she married him let them sort it out amongst them!

mortgagenomore_2

Trevor I agree re babies but I think after maternity leave all dried up say when baby a year old that some mums need to return to work even part time and its good for baby to have social interaction with likeminded kiddies, but yes newborns if preventable should be with mummy to be breastfed, nurtured at such an early age I would imagine mum would be devastated to be parted at this age!

Teevo I think the van you are getting confused with is their motorhome they have mentioned several times they tour in their caravan home. Once our mortgage is paid off we aim for a motorhome to do family holidays.

DevilsAdvocate1

lostinrates wrote: »

I too can see the opinion of people who want to stay at home parent. What I cannot see is that it better to impose the choice on all. Very personally, I also think that the terms in which one poses ones choices impact on the children too. So a go to work mother with compassion for others choices probably teaches her child more about social compassion, for example, than a sham who is derogatory and closed minded about other people's choices.

On the one hand you say you can see the opinion of those who are stay at home parents. However, on the other you often do comparisons and each time you compare the most wonderful working parent against the worse stay at home parent. You are comparing apples with pears.

If a parent (male or female) has chosen to give up work so that they don't have to put their child in childcare, then I think it incredibly unlikely that that parent will be a bad influence on their child or will just ignore their child and not stimulate him / her. That parent is not going to sit their child in front of TV all day.

Working parents and stay at home parents can be bigotted. Equally, they can be open minded. Its not down to whether they work or not. We are all people, we have just made different choices.

neverdespairgirl

DevilsAdvocate1 wrote: »

Working parents and stay at home parents can be bigotted. Equally, they can be open minded. Its not down to whether they work or not. We are all people, we have just made different choices.

Absolutely, and each family (whatever it consists of) makes choices in light of its own circumstances, opinions and beliefs. Difficult to say that half of those are "wrong" by default in some sort of all-sweeping way.

lostinrates

DevilsAdvocate1 wrote: »

On the one hand you say you can see the opinion of those who are stay at home parents. However, on the other you often do comparisons and each time you compare the most wonderful working parent against the worse stay at home parent. You are comparing apples with pears.

If a parent (male or female) has chosen to give up work so that they don't have to put their child in childcare, then I think it incredibly unlikely that that parent will be a bad influence on their child or will just ignore their child and not stimulate him / her. That parent is not going to sit their child in front of TV all day.

Working parents and stay at home parents can be bigotted. Equally, they can be open minded. Its not down to whether they work or not. We are all people, we have just made different choices.

I think my personal stand point is lost in the standalone post. If I were a parent I would have been sah.

FBaby

If a parent (male or female) has chosen to give up work so that they don't have to put their child in childcare, then I think it incredibly unlikely that that parent will be a bad influence on their child or will just ignore their child and not stimulate him / her. That parent is not going to sit their child in front of TV all day

A number of friends/colleagues decided it was time to have a child when they had enough of their job. They saw it as the chance to stay home and not go to work. That doesn't mean they were good (or bad) parents, but that they didn't stop working just because and only because they believed that babies shouldn't go to nursery.