Breakup envolving a child.

thorsoak

Keep on doing this - but make sure that you have it documented - ie keep detailed receipts for things like nappies, etc, and make sure that a receipt is given for rent paid - and keep gar & electric bills in your name for the time being.

Williamf1989

thorsoak wrote: »

Keep on doing this - but make sure that you have it documented - ie keep detailed receipts for things like nappies, etc, and make sure that a receipt is given for rent paid - and keep gar & electric bills in your name for the time being.

I will do.

To be honest i think i have abit hasty coming on here so soon.

The breakup is still fresh and i guess emotions are high, she is usualy a reasonable person so i am hoping once all has calmed down a little she will stop the access nonsense.

MarilynMonroe_2

Could it just be something like the tension of having a baby that has made her split from you, cos you're making it sound like youre a darling to have around and after 8 yrs together for her to just up and be like this for no apparant reason (petty arguments, everyone has them) sounds really strange.
If she came on here what would her story be do you think?
If youre on the birth certificate you have equal rights as the mother which is why you need to see a family solicitor to get regular contact and not rely on a visit here and there at their whim. x

thorsoak

Williamf1989 wrote: »

I will do.

To be honest i think i have abit hasty coming on here so soon.

The breakup is still fresh and i guess emotions are high, she is usualy a reasonable person so i am hoping once all has calmed down a little she will stop the access nonsense.

Keep calm, just accept whatever is offered at the moment - if its a couple of hours, it is a couple of hours after all. Make sure that you are the reasonable person!

Williamf1989

MarilynMonroe wrote: »

Could it just be something like the tension of having a baby that has made her split from you, cos you're making it sound like youre a darling to have around and after 8 yrs together for her to just up and be like this for no apparant reason (petty arguments, everyone has them) sounds really strange.
If she came on here what would her story be do you think?
If youre on the birth certificate you have equal rights as the mother which is why you need to see a family solicitor to get regular contact and not rely on a visit here and there at their whim. x

Hi, no ive not said im an angel, ive said we have started arguing more and more frequently and that we have mutually decided to end the relationship. we both have our faults but at the end of the day we found that our child was in an environment and decided to do something about it, not stay together for the sake of our daughter.

We both love each other still, but the relationship is a no no and we had tried to solve it but no luck. I think she might be cutting all contact to get over the split. The only problem i have (because i agree with splitting) is how she is being with our daughter, its not something i would of said she would be capable of.

Guest101

Williamf1989 wrote: »

And in no way shape or form have i wrote anywhere that i want to take over the main role... She is a wonderful and loving mother, who in there right mind would want to take there child away from that? All im saying is the restricted access, under supervision is ridiculous. I would understand if i was a violent person, or if i took drugs, or i was a big drinker, but im not. There is no justification to it.


As for the legal advice, i spoke to this guy, http://www.cyriax.co.uk/advice.htm

He seemed to know what he is talking about.
Have a read through the first page and you shall see what i mean by losing most rights.

Whoever that guy is, is a hack. Giving the worst case scenario as standard to drum up business.

I'm not saying the court system is always fair, but he's using extremes as examples of the 'average' result.

Williamf1989

Guest101 wrote: »

Whoever that guy is, is a hack. Giving the worst case scenario as standard to drum up business.

I'm not saying the court system is always fair, but he's using extremes as examples of the 'average' result.

Really? But he kept saying the worse scenario is to NOT go to court. And to work it out mutually? Hardly the kind of thing someone looking for business to say?

DUTR

Williamf1989 wrote: »

Really? But he kept saying the worse scenario is to NOT go to court. And to work it out mutually? Hardly the kind of thing someone looking for business to say?

You best check the child is yours!
You're only 25 , so over the years you will find women can act irrationally funny for more than one week of the month, in the meantime as others have suggested, get some professional direction and don't get yourself into trouble by doing the 'right' thing, as hand on heart in the long run, it just ain't worth it.

Guest101

Read the bootm third of that link, these things can take years to achieve. Years of him charging you fees for advice, letters etc etc etc.

By all means, try mediation, contact CAB, see if things work better when your ex has calmed down.

But do not listen to that guy. Years to get substantial contact? Not at all.

You show you are reasonable, calm, professional, providing for your daughter, (try get a job quickly, any job, better than none), and that what you are asking for is to be a part of her life and to have the rights a father should have.

Keep records, detail everything.

Every situation is different, you can sort it out amongst yoursleves (which may not last once you/both/she finds a new partner)
Try mediation, which the court does take into account.

Start off at CAB, then find a Family solicitor.

Remember Legal Aid has basically all but gone. Your ex will not want a fight in court any more than you do. Show you are reasonable to her aunt (who seems to have quite some effect on her).

lolly_896

So mother cheated, father moves out due to not getting on and is made to have supervised contact with child?

How is that even remotely fair?!? I'm pretty sure that if it was the mother writing these posts the replies would be completely different.