Breakup envolving a child.

Williamf1989

Gigglepig wrote: »

People don't break up for no reason at all. She is probably really hurt and sad about her relationship breaking down?

I find it very odd that you can't think of any reasons why she may be angry with you. Are you either a saint, or completely oblivious to your own flaws? I am happily married, but am aware of the aspects of my personality and behaviour that upset my partner.

No.

We have mutually agreed to breakup... neither of us are perfect. The difference is i would never stop her seeing our daughter and she knows it.

thorsoak

Williamf1989 wrote: »

Theres no reason for her to be this angry, the reason she has stopped contact is because her aunt is a qualified syc?? Shes told her before to not speak to me, turn phone of, ignore me etc and they are doing it ahain

IN YOUR OPINION, there is no reason for her to be this angry - but there are always two sides to an argument. You have been given good advice - get expert advice - from CAB, local solicitor, families need fathers etc.

We cannot answer your question as to why she is acting in this manner - we can only advise you to get expert advice. You are in a horrible situation, and you do need this advice.

Williamf1989

Mojisola wrote: »

Does your post on here - https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4664129
mean that your partner was unfaithful?

If so, she may be going on the offensive, worried that her behaviour will put her in a bad light in the separation proceedings. You don't know what she's told her aunt about you!

She was, years ago.

Mojisola

Williamf1989 wrote: »

She was, years ago.

Are you sure she hasn't got someone new that she wants to live with which means she's got to get rid of you?

thorsoak

Come back to us and report when you've taken expert advice!

Guest101

As her aunt will have told her, until an order is made by the court as to visitation, living arrangements etc. You both have a right to see and live with your daughter.

Possession is 9/10s of the law, and they know that if you take her home to look after her, she (your ex) cannot come back and take her back. You could call the police.

So they're playing the 'we're holding the cards' game, part of it is to wind you up, get you to say or do something silly, and that's then used against you.

The best thing you can do:

1: arrange to pay, via cheque or bank tranfer 15% of your weekly or monthly wage. Before she makes a CSA order.
2: Contact a solicitor and instruct them you are either seeking custody, or visitation (unsupervised - as you have no record) for your daughter.
3: Be 100% civil. DO NOT TEXT, DO NOT EMAIL.

Williamf1989

Tomorrow im "allowed" to see her at her aunts because my partner is going out.

What can they do if i turn up and say ok, Im taking her for the day, and ill be back at 7oclock? Can i get in trouble? Can i be arrested for kidnap or whatever?

Gigglepig

Williamf1989 wrote: »

Tomorrow im "allowed" to see her at her aunts because my partner is going out.

What can they do if i turn up and say ok, Im taking her for the day, and ill be back at 7oclock? Can i get in trouble? Can i be arrested for kidnap or whatever?

And why would you deliberately cause a ruckus and further inflame the situation, in front of your child? Save the drama for the counselling/mediation session with your ex.

Williamf1989

need to type sometime for edit,

Gigglepig

Williamf1989 wrote: »

ok ive just logged into her facebook. (wrong i know but..)
This is what she has said

"i am going out in the morning at like half 6. So that means u NN and mum will have to baby sit. NN said she will pick NN up at 12 from mums coz she going to do a supervision contact so will can see NN but NN is supervising"

I am outraged, a supervison contact?

You are outraged? You just hacked her account!

you don't seem to take on board anything that people are posting, either.