Don't know what to do!

sharnad

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

I agree, there have been other inconsistencies. I have been reluctant to call time on this, in case OP is genuine, but this story just doesn't hang together for me.

I am hoping that its not true or I'm very sad for the op.

Confused01

Typical of this place, getting accused of being a liar or a troll.

I got what I needed from a few posters who addressed the main concerns I had, which was nothing to do with money, although some posters don't seem to get that it wasn't what was occupying my thoughts.

I'm done with this thread. I'm not interested in being jumped on.

SavingPennies_2

Your post didn't sounds like a troll to me. I hope you got some useful advice and managed to talk things over last night.:o

FBaby

Frugalista wrote: »

This was posted yesterday at 5.29 ...



.. and this at 6.41



.. so you ate your dinner and ..... when did you have the chat???? :think:

Surely something so important would take more than 72 minutes to resolve (and whilst eating a meal, to boot)?? And then you jump straight back on here to defend him?

Something is definitely not right here.

I agree with confused. This is a bit of extreme detective. Where did OP say that they were going to cook dinner as soon as they got home? Maybe they decided to have a take away and OP decided they could have a chat later. It's not an easy discussion to start just like that.

More importantly, how does this detail matter is the scheme of things?

marisco_2

OP the people who have replied to you on this thread have gone out of their way to offer you really useful advice and perspective. Some of it possibly not easy for you to read, when you have to apply it to a relationship you are in, however that doesn't make it any less valid. Seanymphs post in particular was excellent and raised many pertinent points, which you would be wise to take on board and consider. If you always do what you've always done, then you'll always get what you've always got. A scenario that clearly doesn't sit well with you or you wouldn't have started this thread in the first place.

tinkerbell28

He's married or in a serious relationship elsewhere. I'd bet on it, with a 2nd phone. Working away in the week, then going home.

None of it makes sense at all. Was probably told by his family to knock it on the head with you. Which would explain the odd meeting and nothing since. Hence his reluctance to admit what has happened.

Person_one

Confused01 wrote: »

Typical of this place, getting accused of being a liar or a troll.

I got what I needed from a few posters who addressed the main concerns I had, which was nothing to do with money, although some posters don't seem to get that it wasn't what was occupying my thoughts.

I'm done with this thread. I'm not interested in being jumped on.

So after 8 pages of posts trying to help you, 2 that question a couple of inconsistencies mean you're dismissing the whole lot?

I know that what we've told you isn't pleasant to hear, but we don't know you, we aren't out to hurt you. Don't use those two posts as an excuse to ignore the very very sound advice and warnings you've been given.

If you do, don't come crying to us etc etc...

paulineb_2

Confused01 wrote: »

Typical of this place, getting accused of being a liar or a troll.

I got what I needed from a few posters who addressed the main concerns I had, which was nothing to do with money, although some posters don't seem to get that it wasn't what was occupying my thoughts.

I'm done with this thread. I'm not interested in being jumped on.

I think people may have got a bit too close to the truth about your OP and I think you must know it.

Btw, I spent almost 2 years dating someone who had a gf and I didnt know until they got married. And I only found out they got married when my mums friend who works with her went to his wedding, thats the bare bones of the story. I do hope your bf isnt seeing someone else but he could very well be.

It happens. Sometimes people can invent ridiculous excuses for why they cant see you on certain nights

Even if he hasnt got a gf, hes taking the !!!!, big time.

tinkerbell28

Ofc they've got too close to the truth. It makes zero sense, op knows it too. You don't just randomly google your partner because you think he's got a secret family.

WRT to showing his brother pictures, I read that as bragging rights. You'd be surprised how many blokes do this, then even have the front to introduce to family. Family disapproves, op is never seen by them again.

Not on his Facebook....yes ok then.

Frugalista

FBaby wrote: »

Where did OP say that they were going to cook dinner as soon as they got home? Maybe they decided to have a take away and OP decided they could have a chat later.

Confused01 wrote: »

He's just got in not too long a go, so we'll be having a chat while we wait for the dinner to cook.

Pardon me for asking a question!!!

I hardly think it's a reason for the OP to throw her toys out of the pram - though it's a common diversion tactic .

BTW OP, I did not call you a liar nor a troll - I simply asked when (if at all) you had the chat. Maybe I misinterpreted your post, just as you have mine.