Daydream thread... without the rose-tinted specs

rozeepozee

Although I eschewed an arranged marriage, I've always thought that it was very sensible that in Asian marriages, it is as important to check out the in-laws and get on with them, as it is for the partner....

I_have_spoken

Anyone get plants in the sales?

I picked up a distressed Christmas Cactus for 99p and this Cordyline for £3, both from Homebase. A good drink and foliar feed with epsom salts will hopefully cheer it up and it'll then go into the conservatory until June!

lostinrates

rozeepozee wrote: »

Although I eschewed an arranged marriage, I've always thought that it was very sensible that in Asian marriages, it is as important to check out the in-laws and get on with them, as it is for the partner....

Oh no, DH and I would never have been allowed to go ahead.

When people who know my parents and know/ knew dh's ...as seems to happen in this small world , find out they have been known to laugh until they cry.

Its about as opposite a match in political/ parental aspirational outlook as possible really. I think the only child in law that my fil likes is my husbands brothers wife. I haven't met her but I hear great things about her.

I was the first, and the first non of religion....though none of the others are either as it turns out. I got the brunt of the aggro. That I am so 'other' in background and aspiration other than religion is further unhelpful.

I actually like my in laws as people, just not as family! We deal with things very differently, and I am only prepared to go a little over half way these days, not turn myself into someone else. If people aren't prepared to meet somewhere near middle ground its their prerogative. Mine is to wave DH off to visit them while I get on with other things . I'm not going to take on more stress over the situation. . My family are bad enough, worse probably, so I'll deal with them and leave DH to his....:rotfl:

Davesnave

rozeepozee wrote: »

Although I eschewed an arranged marriage, I've always thought that it was very sensible that in Asian marriages, it is as important to check out the in-laws and get on with them, as it is for the partner....

The status of my DD2 and her partner isn't fully known to his parents. Revealing it would be too financially risky while he's at uni....and his course is 5 years long! :eek:

Technically, he's Hindu, but he's the first from the family to regard religion as optional. DD has learned how to field telephone conversations with his Mum. For example Mum might ask something apparently innocuous like "What are you having for dinner tonight?" and her answer mustn't be "Spaghetti Bolognese," or any meat dish at certain times. :rotfl:

Luckily DD is very adaptable, so she has an encyclopedic knowledge of Bollywood and she paints traditional henna designs on her arms and legs as if she's done it all her life.

alfie_1

tomorow i am off to berkshire to pick up a sofa ive bought...:o
its a nice 2 seater leather [not shiney but hide] one.. bought it xmas eve when everyone was obviously asleep after eating
its worth £20 fuel to fetch it

im doing an airport run tomorow and i rang the guy and said can i take him in the van as its enroute he said "as long as there are no mutts gonna sit on me or lick me to death" :rotfl::rotfl:
hes great tho...good sport

i have some serious sorting to do , new years res... de carp

gonna drop off some stuff to LIR soon so get baking gal

its very cold here and the wind has dropped...:cool: false sense of security...:think:

lostinrates

Ok, what day? I need to tell my baking tins we have work:). I want to use my Christmas tree tin which I didn't use this year....

alfie_1

lostinrates wrote: »

Ok, what day? I need to tell my baking tins we have work:). I want to use my Christmas tree tin which I didn't use this year....

new years day ?????

lostinrates

alfie_1 wrote: »

new years day ?????

What better way to start the new year?:D

alfie_1

lostinrates wrote: »

What better way to start the new year?:D

what , getting a delivery of my "precious items" aka carp....;) :rotfl::rotfl:

did you spy anything that you "didnt like to ask for" ??:D

lostinrates

alfie_1 wrote: »

what , getting a delivery of my "precious items" aka carp....;) :rotfl::rotfl:

did you spy anything that you "didnt like to ask for" ??:D

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Omg alf, Yeah, I'll just take every thing you own in boxes. Seriously woman, these are YOUR treasures.

I dreamed last night about washing herbs and veg on my pear garden. . Just got to grow some herbs and veg now, rofl!