Does 'no gifts' aways mean no gifts....

ska_lover

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Well said.

My problem is that unless they make it clear with the invitations then I don't know that the couple specifically don't want gifts. I have never felt it necessary to check with someone what to buy so no opportunity then to tell me.

I see what you mean, that would be difficult. I think we have our bases covered with everyone having been told, but to be honest, I won't be majorly suprised if we end up with a toaster anyway :rotfl:

Turtle

We got married in Vegas recently with only our parents and we haven't had a party. Regardless, we've still received nearly £500, mostly in vouchers and a small amount of cash from both family and friends. I've been quite overwhelmed by this to be honest and didn't expect anything at all.

I have to say however, that just because people have lived together a long time doesn't mean they don't need anything. We've lived together for 13 years and we did need some new stuff. I have bought some lovely expensive pans and towels that I wouldn't otherwise have bought because they would have seemed like an extravagance. So from that point of view we're both really very grateful to have received these gifts.

ETA: I still sought out good value in the items, the pans were half price but still just over a hundred pounds and the towels were Christy but from TK Maxx. We still have 2/3 of the money left and I'll make sure we get equally good value to make the most of people's generous gifts.

burnoutbabe

ska_lover wrote: »

I see what you mean, that would be difficult. I think we have our bases covered with everyone having been told, but to be honest, I won't be majorly suprised if we end up with a toaster anyway :rotfl:

if anyone bought us a toaster, i'd find it a very un-thoughful present. Why would you buy one for a couple who live together, who presumably already have a toaster if they want one!

goldenbutton121284

I agree that probably most people that specify no gifts, usually wouldn't mind a monetary donation! Maybe it would be easier for the guests if they just stated they would prefer a gift of cash, would save you pounding the streets for that maybe I should gift!

Torry_Quine

goldenbutton121284 wrote: »

I agree that probably most people that specify no gifts, usually wouldn't mind a monetary donation! Maybe it would be easier for the guests if they just stated they would prefer a gift of cash, would save you pounding the streets for that maybe I should gift!

Well they shouldn't say no gifts if they do want something as I for one would give them what they said, nothing.

seven-day-weekend

Errata wrote: »

I haven't said I'm offended, please don't put words into my mouth. Someone telling wedding guests what they can and can't do is the imposition of the inviter's overbearing will on their guests without so much as a by your leave.

I agree with you about dress codes and such things, but still can't imagine why requesting that someone does not spend their money on you is a no-no.

I think we will have to leave it there.

(I will just add once again, so that no-one misunderstands, that our saying 'no gifts' was not a veiled request for money. It meant what it said).

seven-day-weekend

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Well they shouldn't say no gifts if they do want something as I for one would give them what they said, nothing.

So would I.

CKhalvashi

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I agree with you about dress codes and such things, but still can't imagine why requesting that someone does not spend their money on you is a no-no.

I think we will have to leave it there.

(I will just add once again, so that no-one misunderstands, that our saying 'no gifts' was not a veiled request for money. It meant what it said).

I can agree with this.

We've both agreed that when we get round to the wedding (we've only been together 13.5 years) that we'll do venue/reception, and everyone that wants to come is going to have to get themselves to Tbilisi and accommodate themselves.

I certainly wouldn't ask for gifts after this.

CK

ailuro2

If it says no gifts, then no, I'd not take a gift.

But... just to ease the "what will other people think if I turn up empty handed" thoughts that would swirl round my head against my better wishes, I'd make sure I took a really nice card with me, one that was big enough for other people to assume it could contain money.;)

I can't help that - it's being brought up by a mother who always cared what other people thought!

MrsDrink

burnoutbabe wrote: »

if anyone bought us a toaster, i'd find it a very un-thoughful present. Why would you buy one for a couple who live together, who presumably already have a toaster if they want one!

It isn't a wedding without a toaster! :rotfl: