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marisco_2

Cloudydaze wrote: »

I was purely thinking about what's best for the wife right now. I understand that everyone wants to see the OP punished & not get away with what he's done but its going to crush his wife and completely ruin her time with the new baby.

The advice given has nothing to do with wanting to see the OP punished and not to be seen to be getting away with what he has done. If that is the consequence of his actions that will be between him and his wife and has no effect whatsoever on anyone on this forum.

To think of the wife would be to consider how she would feel, if she ever found out that this had gone on, and that it had been kept from her for weeks, months or years. Especially as all the while she will have continued to have close relationships with a husband and sister who had betrayed her.

As and when she discovers what has happened and when it took place, it will ruin the memories she has of this time with her newborn anyway. The longer the lies go on for the worse it gets for the innocent party. In all honesty who would want to feel that they had been made a fool of, used and lied to over a long period of time.

Tropez

SuzieSue wrote: »

Exactly, she is the innocent party in all this. From what the OP says she has done nothing to deserve his disgusting behaviour.

Could it not be argued that she also does not deserve to be deceived by a man she loves?

barba

Whose the best in the sack?

annie_d

Say nothing

magneto1st

we were drinking at a family bbq everybody was there, later my wife said it was ok for me to go to pub with my brother in law then sil decided to come too, we all went then we walked home and sil asked me to open her front door as didn't know which key it was she then asked fir a hug good night and started kissing me and it went in from there we only started having sex when i stopped and said i can't do this and ran out of the house crying and went home

barba

If you get through the next month and she aint pregnant then you'll be fine.

Everyone makes a mistake so don't worry about it.

Tiddlywinks

barba wrote: »

Whose the best in the sack?

Helpful, really helpful...

Spendless

FBaby wrote: »

Ok, I'm going to come across as very naive, but how does it come to this?

For one, how did you end up drinking all day with her sister? Her sister alone, no-one else there from morning to evening? Why?

Then you are having normal drunken conversation and somehow, it lead to you two doing it? Where? In the toilet, car, her home? If so, how does the conversation goes from innocent talking about the weather to 'why don't we get into the toilet/car/my place and do it?

And if you are so utterly drunk, both of you, that you can do the unthinkable, how did you manage to get there AND actually do the deed?

Sorry but I just can't understand how no matter how drunk you are, you would end up sleeping with someone you are not at all attracted to, who is a close family member if you truly absolutely wouldn't do it if you were sober? Surely you wouldn't do it with your own sister, so why your wife's?

And wake up the following day and decide just before 5pm that the best course of action is to register and post on a moneysaving website about it? :think:

Paradigm

I can't believe that people are advising 'fessing up???

If it were an affair with someone the wife didn't know then I could possibly go for it but it isn't... it's her sister !!!!!!!

How is admitting it going to help anyone? It will certainly kill the marriage & the repercussions in the wifes/sisters family aren't worth thinking about.

They were both incredibly stupid but, as it stands, only the two of them know & it needs to stay that way.

No-one will benefit from a confession... no-one!

Wicked_witch

I'm torn. On the one hand, my husband had a guilty snog with a 'friend' of ours while I was very pregnant and told me about it after I'd had the baby because he felt guilty. I'd rather he'd kept it to himself, since I wasn't in any position to easily leave him anyway and it was a one off.

HOWEVER, this was her sister and frankly she probably won't keep quiet forever. She doesn't have a partner to lose and I'm interpreting 'she's annoying' to mean she's likely a drama queen who will feel she has to have her Eastenders moment sooner or later. So you probably will have to tell her.