3 year old girl in hot tub with 6 males who were drinking !

notanewuser

valk_scot wrote: »

I hate it too. I recall my big, very gentle BIL telling me about seeing a small girl get caught up in some equipment at a swing park and though he was the closest person he felt he couldn't go over to help until her mother came up. He was there with his two year old son and did go over to assist (being 6'6" tall is a huge advantage sometimes) eventually but he said "What if they thought I was hurting her, or trying to touch her?"

I knew another man who wouldn't change his newborn DD's nappies in case he was accused of unnatural thoughts, despite having been fine with changing his two sons. It's a sad world we live in, really.

My DH was very hesitant about DD's nappies for the same reason, and it was a while before he felt comfortable having a bath with her.

pulliptears

Pollycat wrote: »

I see the OP has thrown a strop and deleted all her posts on this thread, presumably because she didn't get the overwhelming 'How shocking!' responses she expected. :cool:

Not surprised, I'd be ashamed and embarrassed to admit I thought the way OP does.

peachyprice

A most of OP's posts for those that missed what she said:

Anyone else please find this rather odd and inappropriate.

Friend of mine posted a remark on facebook saying her 3 year old daughter was in a hot tub with 6 males. People were posting remarks and asking for pics etc.

So she posted a pic of 6 males (none of which were her family) all age d over 21 with drinks and bottles in their hand in the hot tub with her 3 year old daughter in it (I am guessing she didnt have suitable attire on as could see she didnt have any top on).

I was totally gobsmacked and several friends in work who also seen it were shocked too. Is this appropriate behaviour. or am i being over cautious.

I think yes the gender but also the fact they looked drunk and were still drinking. i could understand if it was the mothers brother in there or the girls dad, but not random 6 males

Yes as I said previously I did not recognise any of the men from any other pics she has posted and I used to work with this girl so it wasnt friends from work. If a 3 year old was in there with her father at a family party with relatives I wouldnt think anything of it, however it looked like just 6 guys from a party in the hottub and the young girl.

This was the original posting before the pic was put up
So... My daughter is currently in a hot top with 6 men

Sorry let me change that. it obviously wasnt just random men off the street it was men invited to the party, but thats not to say the mother knew everyone at the party. Who normally goes to a party and knows everyone. She could well have known them, known them in liberal sense however they were certainly not close friends or family.

Originally Posted by pinkladyof66
Well I must be over cautious and strange then cause myself and 4 other female colleagues at work all agreed it was not right to see such a pic posted on facebook for all to see.

I am not saying they were likely to be !!!!!philes I am just saying i didnt think it appropriate given her age. I am assuming the mum took the photo yes otherwise someone else might have and messaged it to her as I do know she farms her daughter out on anyone who will have her.

snapshot is just of 6 men and little girl in hot tub no one else was seen and i dont know who took the pic

Georgiegirl256

pulliptears wrote: »

Not surprised, I'd be ashamed and embarrassed to admit I thought the way OP does.

I don't think there's anything to be ashamed and embarrassed about thinking the way the OP did, and unfortunately (rightly or wrongly), it's how society is nowadays, it's the way people think.

I don't think there is anything wrong, and nor should the man feel awkward if he is sitting there with his daughter, close family friends etc, and it's sad that a lot of Women have mentioned that their OH's feel tat way....that shouldn't be the case But, I have to admit, I wouldn't feel comfortable with any daughter of mine sitting in a hot tub with 6 random men....would you?

Georgiegirl256

With quoting all the above posts etc, it is now turning into bullying of the OP She's entitled to her opinion as are we all. I'm not surprised she deleted all her posts with people jumping down her throat like that....

paulineb_2

The OP uses the word random. She wasnt there. A picture is a snapshot at a point in time. The mum took the pic, she was there, feet away from her daughter.

And it probably wasnt the wisest thing to do, to have the pics all over facebook afterwards, it really isnt any of the OP's business.

Shes entitled to her point of view, she can discuss it with whoever she wants. But far more shocking things happen to kids all over the world, all the time.

Ive seen pics on facebook with someone and their own kids in a hot tub, I would imagine some people wouldnt be happy at pics like that being on facebook either.

Unless someone has real concerns that this child might be at risk, Id say mind your own business.

heretolearn_2

Random men? No. but that's probably not what is happening in the photo.

But there's nothing here to make anyone think they were random men.The OP seems to have decided that as she did not know the men herself, the mother couldn't really either - despite only having quite a loose connection to the mother herself as a work colleague so no reason to know all the mothers friends and family.

And gasp! they were all holding a drink! Doesn't mean they were drunk.

Mountain out of a molehill.

Some people could watch this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uZDGWICVQ3w Brass eye !!!!!geggon episode and take it seriously!

Marker_2

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

With quoting all the above posts etc, it is now turning into bullying of the OP She's entitled to her opinion as are we all. I'm not surprised she deleted all her posts with people jumping down her throat like that....

Well the OP threw all her toys out of the pram and deleted all her posts, which is not really in the spirit of the forums.

As for bullying, to label 'this' bullying is very extreme. The OP should really have thought about what she said before she said it. She is making some serious insinuations on this thread, regarding a picture, which by everything she has said, including the added extras like 'random' delivered the responses she got.

If I was the mum I would be furious with her.

podperson

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I don't think there's anything to be ashamed and embarrassed about thinking the way the OP did, and unfortunately (rightly or wrongly), it's how society is nowadays, it's the way people think.

I don't think there is anything wrong, and nor should the man feel awkward if he is sitting there with his daughter, close family friends etc, and it's sad that a lot of Women have mentioned that their OH's feel tat way....that shouldn't be the case But, I have to admit, I wouldn't feel comfortable with any daughter of mine sitting in a hot tub with 6 random men....would you?

But it's the OP who has decided that they are 'random men' just because she doesn't know who they are - despite the mum being only an ex-work colleague so there's no reason why she would know all of her friends.
The fact that she started out by implying that the child was on her own with 6 strangers and then changed it to they might not be strangers just she didn't recognise them, and oh yes the mum was there was well. Sadly, it's that kind of implication and jumping to conclusions without any knowledge of the facts that leads to men being made to feel uncomfortable about being in completely innocent situations.

Robin_TBW

Don't know what the original post actually said as it seems to have been removed but from the title my initial thought is;

Would you be as concerned if the three year old was in a hot tub with six women drinking wine? No? Then you need to take a look at yourself, women are just as capable of abuse, stop being a !!!!!!.