Ex wife lied to where she has taken kids abroad. Where do i stand?

peachyprice

janninew wrote: »

Right, thanks. Things could have changed though in 4 years, who knows. Just another assumption banded about that Dad doesn't see/speak to his children everyday at home when in fact we have no idea!

Very true, he may not have them any night a week now.

peachyprice

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I speak to my mother on the phone most days, and she's definitely a non-resident parent, as I'm 35 and have my own house and child!

That's very different, you are not a pre-teen/teen with a very busy and important social life

tattycath

peachyprice wrote: »

As time goes on and children get older they just aren't interested in talking to their non-resident parent every day TBH. They know when they're seeing them next, they know they are there if they want to talk, but making them speak on the phone every day just becomes a chore they resent doing.

Maybe not every single day, but some children do like to talk to the non resident parent several times a week and don't feel it's a chore.

19lottie82

peachyprice wrote: »

That's very different, you are not a pre-teen/teen with a very busy and important social life

Its not so odd, my OHs 2 daughters aged 9 and 13 who spend 4 nights with him then 4 nights with their mum and they phone whoever they are not with twice a day - before school and before bed

loopylass

Equal shared parental responsibility means that

parents are required to consult each other on

major long-term decisions concerning their

children and make a genuine effort to come to a

joint decision.







What are major long-term decisions?







Examples of major long-term issues include:

•4 the child’s education - both current and

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•4 the child’s cultural upbringing;

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If there is a residence order in place then she can take them abroad for upto a month without your permission
but if there isnt then you should be informed
I can understand your concern but if there is no danger for the children and shes only going on holiday id leave it, i think its disgusting she lied but if she is capable of doing that then she can make your life hell in future contact with your children unless of course you go to court and get a court order for contact so she cant stop it
I would think very carefully about how to deal with this as she is more than likely to do this again if you make a fuss but if you just talk to her and mention how you felt when you found out she had lied pointing out that if an emergency had happened you wouldnt know how to contact the children maybe talking calmly about it will make her realise she had done wrong and hopefully wouldnt do it again

Person_one

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I speak to my mother on the phone most days, and she's definitely a non-resident parent, as I'm 35 and have my own house and child!

I don't, and I don't think most adults speak to their mums every day. Nothing wrong with it, but its not the norm I wouldn't have thought!

paulineb_2

Person_one wrote: »

I don't, and I don't think most adults speak to their mums every day. Nothing wrong with it, but its not the norm I wouldn't have thought!

I speak to my mum most days. Not always every day, but at least 5 or 6 out of 7. Im 44.

Possibly because shes my only parent and always has been. And I see her at least once a week, we live in the same town and I have no other family apart from my brother, what I mean is, we are a small family but we are close.

Its normal to me to check in with my mum, even if its a quick 5 minute phone call.

I dont know what the norm is, it will be different with every family, one of my friends lost his mum to cancer about ten years ago and he also used to talk to her daily.

ttc39

I'm 39 and talk to my mum every day whether it be phone call or an email :-)

tayforth

I speak to my mum every day. I used to phone my parents every second or third day, but since my dad died I phone her (or she phones me) every day without fail

shellsuit

I'm 37 and speak to my Dad every day.

I may speak to my Mum a few times a week, or once a month, it depends.