Ex wife lied to where she has taken kids abroad. Where do i stand?

neverdespairgirl

aliasojo wrote: »

I'm not sure most would? I think most parents would tell the kids to go and have a lovely time and they would see them when they got back and I don't think the parent with care would be saying 'go phone your Mum/Dad'. It's a short holiday, not 3 months in care.

We aren't separated, true, but when OH has taken our 7 year old son for a week in Israel without me, which he's done twice for family or religious holidays, I've spoken to my son every evening while they've been away.

I'd absolutely hate to go for a week without talking to DS! I'd also hate to go for a week without talking to OH, too, but that's rather different, as OH is all grown up.

aliasojo

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

We aren't separated, true....

And that's what makes the difference.

I'd be hard pushed to believe the OP saw or spoke to his kids every day when they are at home.

elisebutt65

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel wrote: »

I was told i needed to legally tell my ex when we was going on holiday abroad - Even though he hasnt seen DD in years. I also, legally, needed to inform him of the dates, and country (not exact area, hotel name and room number!), and a contact number (He has my mobile) for emergencies.

As for ex's feelings towards a wedding - Why would you even think about this? Its not really got anything to do with the OP whether his ex gets married or not. Presumably they have been together a while before getting married so its not as if its some random stranger coming into the family.

Who told you that? I've never given my kid's dads any of that information, let alone asked permission!! I've been all over the world with them & the only person I've ever given any information to is my mum in case anything happens at home.

Same if they take them away. Littlie is at his dads at the mo and from DS's texts, I think they were in Torquay yesterday, but I'm not bothered as long as he's safe, which he would be with his dad.

She obviously isn't making it a big secret if its all over Facebook AND letting the OP have access to her wall though?

Calien27

As an aside, the OP could use this time to think of some fun things to do with the kids for when they get back/during their school holidays.

Come up with some ideas for day trips out, places to take them.

janninew

aliasojo wrote: »

And that's what makes the difference.

I'd be hard pushed to believe the OP saw or spoke to his kids every day when they are at home.

I would think at least speaking to your children everyday if you are separated is quite common. My brother has split up from his partner and calls their son every night after school for a chat.

peachyprice

janninew wrote: »

I would think at least speaking to your children everyday if you are separated is quite common. My brother has split up from his partner and calls their son every night after school for a chat.

I really don't think it is, especially after 6 years separation.

janninew

aliasojo wrote: »

And that's what makes the difference.

I'd be hard pushed to believe the OP saw or spoke to his kids every day when they are at home.

Also meant to say, how do we know who the resident parent actually is? Are we assuming its the Mum?

peachyprice

The children live with their mother.

paulineb_2

peachyprice wrote: »

The children live with their mother.

They have shared parenting responsibilities according to the OP hence the need for her to get his written permission to take the kids out of the country.

Calien27

Written permission for a holiday abroad?

My cousin frequently takes his little girl on holiday, like wise the mum (his ex wife) takes her to Turkey to visit family, there's no written permission involved. Just the usual planning and informing of the trip away.