Ex wife lied to where she has taken kids abroad. Where do i stand?

duchy

janninew wrote: »

I would think at least speaking to your children everyday if you are separated is quite common. My brother has split up from his partner and calls their son every night after school for a chat.

I think after the initial seperation that wears off a bit with most absent parents-not because they don't care just that it becomes easier and the absent parent doesn't need it so much to still feel involved. Mind you I know some resident parents who don't get to see speak to their kids every day as they leave early/return late or work away too so there isn't a blanket rule for any parent.

peachyprice

paulineb wrote: »

They have shared parenting responsibilities according to the OP hence the need for her to get his written permission to take the kids out of the country.

Confused. Janninew asked who the resident parent is, not who has PR.

paulineb_2

peachyprice wrote: »

Confused. Janninew asked who the resident parent is, not who has PR.

Well if Ive misunderstood the question and got it wrong, theres no need to be confused.

As its obviously my mistake.

balletshoes

janninew wrote: »

I would think at least speaking to your children everyday if you are separated is quite common. My brother has split up from his partner and calls their son every night after school for a chat.

my brother is separated from his daughter's mum, daughter (4) lives with him permanently, mum hasn't called to speak to her child for weeks.

I think thats certainly the optimum, for both parents to be in contact with their child every day when they are young, or at least be available to their child every day.

balletshoes

janninew wrote: »

Also meant to say, how do we know who the resident parent actually is? Are we assuming its the Mum?

yes, I'm assuming its the mum.

janninew

balletshoes wrote: »

my brother is separated from his daughter's mum, daughter (4) lives with him permanently, mum hasn't called to speak to her child for weeks.

I think thats certainly the optimum, for both parents to be in contact with their child every day when they are young, or at least be available to their child every day.

I think that's really sad going that long without talking to your child, god forbid I split with my husband I know for sure I would want to at least talk to my daughter every day, its not difficult to pick up the phone is it.

I have a friend in a similar position to your brother, little boy lives with him and Mum goes weeks without seeing or calling, poor little lad is only 6 and often asks to speak to Mummy, yet they can never get hold of her.

thegirlintheattic

janninew wrote: »

Also meant to say, how do we know who the resident parent actually is? Are we assuming its the Mum?

Past posts say OP is non-resident and only has kids 1-2 nights a week, but that was in 2009.

janninew

thegirlintheattic wrote: »

Past posts say OP is non-resident and only has kids 1-2 nights a week, but that was in 2009.

Right, thanks. Things could have changed though in 4 years, who knows. Just another assumption banded about that Dad doesn't see/speak to his children everyday at home when in fact we have no idea!

peachyprice

janninew wrote: »

I think that's really sad going that long without talking to your child, god forbid I split with my husband I know for sure I would want to at least talk to my daughter every day, its not difficult to pick up the phone is it.

As time goes on and children get older they just aren't interested in talking to their non-resident parent every day TBH. They know when they're seeing them next, they know they are there if they want to talk, but making them speak on the phone every day just becomes a chore they resent doing.

neverdespairgirl

I speak to my mother on the phone most days, and she's definitely a non-resident parent, as I'm 35 and have my own house and child!