Ex wife lied to where she has taken kids abroad. Where do i stand?

stir_crazy

Calien27 wrote: »

As I posted before...

Yes she should have been honest about going to Vegas, but she has no obligation to tell the OP why they were going there, and I have a feeling if she had said that's their destination, the OP would have quizzed her about the reason for going to such a place.

So it's better to lie rather than face some potential questions? And if there was no obligation to tell OP then why bother mentioning Orlando at all?

Calien27

stir_crazy wrote: »

So it's better to lie rather than face some potential questions? And if there was no obligation to tell OP then why bother mentioning Orlando at all?

If the ex didn't want to tell the OP she was getting married then it's entirely up to her. I would rather not have my excitement and happiness of my impending nuptials ruined by 20 questions from the ex. As I said before, if she had said they were going to Vegas I suspect the OP would have rolled off a list of questions about why because it's more geared towards adults than young children.

As has been mentioned before, Vegas and Orlando are just a few hours apart by plane, going to both is entirely possible. Go to Vegas, get married, do the adult stuff (bar crawl etc) and hop on a 4-5 hour flight to Florida, it can be done.

If the OP decided to go to Gretna Green and get married he has no obligation to tell his ex about the wedding, it's entirely up to him if he want's to just say he's off to Scotland for a weeks holiday.

stir_crazy

Calien27 wrote: »

If the ex didn't want to tell the OP she was getting married then it's entirely up to her. I would rather not have my excitement and happiness of my impending nuptials ruined by 20 questions from the ex. As I said before, if she had said they were going to Vegas I suspect the OP would have rolled off a list of questions about why because it's more geared towards adults than young children.

As has been mentioned before, Vegas and Orlando are just a few hours apart by plane, going to both is entirely possible. Go to Vegas, get married, do the adult stuff (bar crawl etc) and hop on a 4-5 hour flight to Florida, it can be done.

If the OP decided to go to Gretna Green and get married he has no obligation to tell his ex about the wedding, it's entirely up to him if he want's to just say he's off to Scotland for a weeks holiday.

But she didn't just not tell him about the wedding - she missed out the part that she was taking the children to an entirely different state. For 5 days. Which is the part the OP is concerned about. Not the weddiing. The two issues seem to have been mixed up by some people.

peachyprice

stir_crazy wrote: »

But she didn't just not tell him about the wedding - she missed out the part that she was taking the children to an entirely different state. Which is the part the OP is concerned about. Not the weddiing. The two issues seem to have been mixed up by some people.

Some people are also considering the possibility that the wedding was a surprise and that she didn't know when she told OP where she was going.

stir_crazy

peachyprice wrote: »

Some people are also considering the possibility that the wedding was a surprise and that she didn't know when she told OP where she was going.

Possible, but unlikely. Unless the new husband knew exactly where the OP's ex-wife kept her copy of the decree absolute so he could take it with him.

janninew

I really hope the OP comes back to let us know what happens. I have serious doubts that his ex didn't know about the wedding. A secret wedding in Las Vegas seems very far fetched to me, the new husband would need to have all the relevant paperwork, did the ex wife not get involved in the booking or see the tickets etc? Sorry, just seems very unlikely to me. Plus the OP says she has form for lying in the past which makes a person hard to trust in my opinion.

balletshoes

stir_crazy wrote: »

So it's better to lie rather than face some potential questions?
And if there was no obligation to tell OP then why bother mentioning Orlando at all?

because thats where they went/are going, and thats where the kids had been told they were going?

peachyprice

stir_crazy wrote: »

Possible, but unlikely. Unless the new husband knew exactly where the OP's ex-wife kept her copy of the decree absolute so he could take it with him.

You don't need a decree absolute in Las vegas, just your passport so that wouldn't be a problem at all.

stir_crazy

balletshoes wrote: »

because thats where they went/are going, and thats where the kids had been told they were going?

Why mention any destination if she's not obligated to as has been said by other posters? If she is not obligated to tell the OP anything except that she wants to take the kids on holiday then that's all she could have said. Then told the kids they were "going to America/ Disney". If they are under 10 then they probably wouldn't ask which place.

balletshoes

stir_crazy wrote: »

Why mention any destination if she's not obligated to as has been said by other posters? If she is not obligated to tell the OP anything except that she wants to take the kids on holiday then that's all she could have said. Then told the kids they were "going to America/ Disney". If they are under 10 then they probably wouldn't ask which place.

who knows? only the ex-wife really.