Would you tell?

Cooper18

jetplane wrote: »

why can you not wait to see him again, why will you look at her colleagues differently and why would you have a word if he does it again?

Don't mind if I never see him again, I'm disappointed her colleagues would expect my OH to be anything less than open with me, but as I've said I won't hold it against them. And if he does it again, I'll have a word if she wants me to. They work together and if his inappropriate behaviour makes her feel uncomfortable, and she can't handle it herself, I'll try to help her. By asking him nicely to back off, not by breaking the guys legs.

heartbreak_star

I'd be terrified if some girl made a pass at my OH that he would realise he can get better than me...

If I was propositioned I'd tell my OH. It would feel odd not to.

HBS x

tattycath

heartbreak_star wrote: »

I'd be terrified if some girl made a pass at my OH that he would realise he can get better than me...

If I was propositioned I'd tell my OH. It would feel odd not to.

HBS x

(((Hugs))) the point is he chose to be with you and you him. And don't beat yourself up hun I'm sure your OH thinks you're wonderful. My husband seems to think I am...

Fag_ash_lil

I am single at the moment ... but when i was back in my last relationship i probably wouldn't have mentioned it to my OH ...

I'm female and for years have worked in a mainly male enviroment and still have a fair share of passes made at me ... but i just see them for what they are ... people just trying their luck lol ... therefore i feel they are insignificant ... so that's the only reason that i wouldn't have told him ...

I think if somebody repeatedly tried it on with me and it worried me , then i would obviously mention it to him ..

Pixiechic

I would tell my OH, prob have a bit of a giggle about it!

No harm done and no reason not to mention it.

southcoastrgi

I guess it depends what you mean by a "pass" if he just asked her out then i'd agree with the way you have delt with it, but if it was any more i think i'd be having a word in his shell like, but yes i'd want to know

Savvy_Sue

It happened to me, a chap who used to do consultancy where I worked would sometimes take me out for lunch, long after I'd left that company. That wasn't a problem, but then he indicated that he'd like a little more than lunch: he backed off when I said no, no way, and that I'd have to tell DH and let him decide whether or not we met up again.

I was fairly confident this chap would behave like a gentleman in future (and he did), but I didn't want DH to think I didn't care what he thought.

coolcait

I would mention the 'pass' to my OH.

If my colleagues told me that they would act differently in the same situation, I would respect that difference.

If that difference of opinion moved into an area where I felt that they were not respecting my (different) choice, I would say so to them.

I'm not sure that I would mention that bit to my OH.

Kynthia

I'd tell my hubbie. Not necessarily because I'd worry he'd find out in the future and wonder why I didn't, but because possibly I would think it amusing and I generally tell him about my day. I probably don't mention the odd bit of flattery I get as it's a non-issue and probably wouldn't remember it.

I'm not sure my hubbie would tell me. Not because it was a secret or his untrustworthy, but because he's terrible at telling me general stuff. It drives me insane!!!!!!! He didn't think to tell me his diploma had finished and I found out from the newsletter at work! Fair enough it wasn't an exam that he sat and passed, it was workplace tasks that just ended but i'm sure I would have gotten round to mentioning it.

bugslet

I'd have told mine and he'd not take that much notice. Just the type of relationship we had.