Would you tell?

Cooper18

peachyprice wrote: »

Of course I would, I can't think of any why I wouldn't.

Perhaps the other women would have been more willing to take him up on his offer and are looking at the situation through less than trustworthy eyes?

That's a point, I'm going to be honest I'll probably see them through different eyes in future. Funny thing is the only single girl she works with was adamant she was right to tell, while the married ones thought she was crazy. They obviously have very different relationships to the one I have.

Tropez

I would expect to be told.

I wonder if the women who say they wouldn't tell are likely to have husbands who might think that the other bloke needs "sorting out" or such?

Cooper18

Graham2704 wrote: »

Well !! Having been in a similar situation I would confront HIM.. for taking the !!!!!!!!:mad:

Clearly he knows your wife is married good looking and being some kind of PLAYER ! blaming it on the fact he has had a few drinks and thinking he can be a little embarrassed about the whole thing don't wash. Stand up for yourself tell him your wife has told you about the pass he made and get HIM to apologise to you for disrespecting your married wife .

With 20 years of marriage and 2 kids behind me Whilst not condoning violence no one is taking the !!!! out my family.

Take your point Graham, but I think we live in a society where it's now socially acceptable to stick your tongue down someone's throat of an evening and then act as if nothing happened when you go back home to your significant other. I've been out in a bar recently and witnessed folk moving from one person to another like a kiss and a grope are the new way to shake hands. I feel very old, I don't remember it being this easy when I was a lad! :rotfl:

I'm happy to give the guy a break this one time, but I'll have a word if it happens again - if OH wants me to. She might have already kicked him to death.

NAR

She had nothing to hide and knew you would believe her, it is a matter of trust between a couple. Fair play to the guy for admitting his mistake to everyone, thus exonerating your OH completely.

Cooper18

NAR wrote: »

Fair play to the guy for admitting his mistake to everyone, thus exonerating your OH completely.

That's true as well. He didn't have to do that. He went to her first and apologised, then by lunchtime had told just about everyone else. I'm not sure which one of them is more embarrassed though to be honest. She just doesn't see herself that way, but that's part of the attraction for me if I'm honest.

podperson

I had a slightly similar situation in that a good friend of both me and OH tried it on with me. I did actually consider whether to tell OH or not but just because I knew he would be very upset with the friend and see it as a betrayal of trust. I did tell him as I don't really have any secrets between us, plus if for some reason it ever came from the friend I wouldn't want him to think there was more to it then there was.
It did affect their friendship though and while I know it's not my fault I do feel bad about that.

Stephb1986_2

I would tell my partner, because if he found out from someone else that I didn't tell him he would be pretty upset. Honesty is the best policy.

Steph xx

justme111

Depends . I probably would not tell and not because I would have hold me and my so to any lower standarts of openess but because it is an insignificant incident. If someone on a street says "hey beauty" to me I am not going to run to my so telling it , its a trivial matter unless a pass is too insistent /repeated / from a good friend. You seem to read a lot into it , just married ?:)

ciderwithrosie_2

Wouldn't have a problem telling my OH, nor him me, I know he's been propositioned at work by more than one female colleague. Poor deluded women obviously mistake him for some sort of catch :rotfl:Seriously though, we've been married too long to get stupidly jealous or mistrust each other.

Tropez

Thinking about it though, while I did say earlier I would expect to be told, I have to be honest and say that about six months ago a female asked me out for a date and I obviously declined, but I didn't actually mention it to my partner.

It might be because, as justme says above, I just didn't actually consider it significant at the time, though perhaps if my partner were in the country at the time I may have mentioned it. I think it just went in my head and straight out again.