Feeling disgusted and upset

Shushannah

If most people were helping to clear up and you left without helping, a pointed comment is to be expected.

Just a thought.

snozberry

I think that some of these comments are unreasonable. You are clearly upset and, when we are upset, we sometimes say things without thinking as your hubby has every right to take your child there. However, you have the right to feel happy and secure there are well.

The most sensible thing would be to not lower your standard and have a quiet word with this woman at the end of the next playgroup session. Just tell her, in a clear and calm manner, that, as you are not on the committee you are not in a position to help. Tell her that calling things out after you is inappropriate especially when there are still children about.

Tbh, her attitude would rile me as well but I would refuse to lower myself. As hard as that may be lol

Treevo

Hushpuppie wrote: »

and how does this woman sound? considering her day job is a teacher

She sounds perfectly fine to me. Obviously your husband finds her to be good enough.

She also sounds like she's got the measure of you.

snozberry

Shushannah wrote: »

If most people were helping to clear up and you left without helping, a pointed comment is to be expected.

Just a thought.

not like that though. A quiet word, yes but calling out across the room? no. It is rude.

gingin_2

Have you not come across people like this before? Give her your pity rather than your anger and leave it be. It sounds like your husband has done a good thing in setting up this playgroup and I would continue to offer him your support.

There is no reason why you can't be civil to her without putting her on your christmas card list.

POPPYOSCAR

snozberry wrote: »

not like that though. A quiet word, yes but calling out across the room? no. It is rude.

And unprofessional.

snozberry

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

He organised this playgroup because he believed there was value in it. And now you're doing everything you can to undermine him and humiliate him in front of a bunch of strangers. And making demands and threats instead of dealing with this woman on your own like a grown adult. And you think I'm the one who is being ridiculous? Honestly, if you can't see how appalingly you are behaving you need help.

a saucer of milk for table one!

What right have you got to make this unnecessary and uncalled for comment?! Opinions should be given in a clear and concise manner. Telling someone that they need help is downright rude and disrespectful.

Treevo

Hushpuppie wrote: »

so do the last 2 posters agree with a playgroup leader shouting at a mother leaving with her daughter? simple question

She shouted 'thanks for your help'. If you can't deal with that, then I'm afraid I agree that you're the one in need of help.

barbarawright

Are you 100% certain, hand on heart that the woman was being sarcastic and rude? You admit you weren't feeling well anyway - maybe she was having a bad day too. Maybe your husband had assured her you were going to join the committee and she was counting on a bit of extra help. Maybe you just misinterpreted her tone. Maybe she knew were new in town and wanted to draw you into a new social grouping. Seriously - I would say nothing, go to playgroup and be nice to her and it hopefully will blow over. It seems foolish to throw away a chance of social interaction when you're in a new town and tied with small kids.

Amanda65

OP I am trying to make sense of the situation regarding the playgroup. Is your OH running this as a commercial venture and has he employed the woman who is running the playgroup or is it purely manned by volunteers? If mainly run / managed by volunteers then I think as a parent with a child there, regardless of your husband's input, you have a duty to help whether on the committee or not (as does every other parent).

To be fair to the lady running it, if she was under the impression that everyone was going to help out and some aren't - rightly or wrongly - whilst it doesn't give her the right to blank or shout at you I can see why she would be a bit p'eed off. Also she could not possibly have known that you felt unwell and may have thought you were being off with her.

I think the way forward is to clear the air with her as adults rather than putting her and you OH in a difficult position. Explain that from the outset you did not intend to have any involvement other than using it as a facility for your DD and maybe you will find out where the confusion has arisen. However pulling your DD out of a playgroup where she is making friends and gives you the opportunity to meet others locally isn't really going to help you or her socially in the future.