do you go out on your own or with others?

Frogletina

I go to the cinema alone, holiday alone and 'shock horror' even the pub.

Last week I went to a pub and after a bit a young guy sat down beside me and asked why I was sitting on my own. I said 'because I came on my own'. He asked if I was on the 'pull' and I laughed and said no. He was with some other guys and a girl and they came over and chatted to me for a bit which was nice. Another guy recognised me from previous nights and came over and said hello but he was just passing through.

I do miss having a partner to share evenings out with. I'm not one for 'girly'evenings out, and don't have any female friends who go on them anyway.

It's not just the actual event anyway - it's discussing what to see/do, the planning and at the end of the evening/holiday talking about it. I always say that you know if a film is good when you spend all the time going home talking about it.

I think my tastes are quite individual anyway. I love going to the ballet. Likewise Gilbert and Sullivan. I like art house films. Mention cinema and most people talk about the latest blockbusters. My favourite film this year was 'In the House', a French film with subtitles.

valk_scot

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I have never gone on holiday alone and being married I don't need to and personally find it strange when couples holiday seperately.

I think that's quite insulting tbh. It implies you feel there's something amiss with their commitment to their marriage. There's plenty of couples that are very happily married and who wouldn't dream of being otherwise, in any sense, but who still like a bit of space to pursue their own interests or hobbies for a few days, or just get a bit of space for themselves. What's strange about that? You don't cease to be an individual completely on the day you married, you don't fuse into a single entity that can't or isn't allowed to do anything apart without it being strange.

mum26

I go to the cinema alone often, I much prefer it! There are actually quite a lot of people who go alone, especially in the afternoons so it is not an odd thing at all, go enjoy yourself

I enjoy my own company too, i've been to spas by myself, I will happily use the single rider queues at theme parks (as will my OH to cut down queue times, the other will wait with the children or take them to play a game etc while we each take a turn on things they are too small for) etc. I don't wait around for other people because you get let down too much at the last minute and miss out on things. I learnt that lesson the harsh way as a teenager with !!!!!y friends but it sparked an independent streak which has served me well over the years

mum26

fluffnutter wrote: »

I always go to the cinema alone. I think it's weird that people see it as a social occasion. If I were into the theatre I'd do that alone too. Walking is an activity best enjoyed solo, as are all keep fit things like swimming, the gym etc. And shopping. Who on earth wants to shop with other people?? Far better when you can please yourself where you go.

Yes this! I HATE going swimming, which is not a cheap thing to do these days, at a women's only hour or lane swimming session, only to find the bottom half of several lanes inaccessible because of a gaggle of women standing talking, not swimming and talking, standing in a pool for a good hour, talking. I swear the majority do not even do one length! Why not just pay and sit in the cafe? Get out of the way :rotfl::rotfl:

cloudy11

I do lots of very happily things on my own- shopping, walking, visiting art galleries, going to the gym, going into cafes etc. I would never think of going to the gym or shopping with someone else anyway tbh- I like doing my own thing.

My sister (early 30's) can never do anything on her own. Not even get on a bus in a new place. She always thinks people are staring or commenting and just won't believe me that that's not the case at all- no one cares. Why would they? I just really don't get this attitude.

My husband and I often want to do different holidays, but we have to compromise and go somewhere we both want to go as we can only afford to do one! If we had the money we would both be off doing different trips as well as joint holidays. And we're very happily married and not that strange

seven-day-weekend

panagia wrote: »

I definitely would not go into a pub on my own! But I like the thought of going to galleries, exhibitions, classes, special-interest stuff like genealogy, guided walks.. or just going out for a walk! But people seem to go along to stuff with someone, usually.

I like the idea of the theatre or cinema, but that might be a bit awkward on your own, wouldn't it.

Why would it?

seven-day-weekend

I often do things on my own and like nothing better than to have a coffee and bun and read the newspaper in a nice little cafe. I have been into pubs on my own to eat and have been to the cinema on my own. My husband does things on his own too (gym, swimming and going out on his motorbike).

We do many things together as well and also both of us do things separately with friends.

Don't see a problem with it.

stir_crazy

I go shopping, to the gym, walks, cycling, etc on my own. I've not been to the cinema on my own, but wouldn't think twice about going if there was a film I really wanted to see and noone else wanted to come. I've been to eat in fast food and cafes on my own, but don't think I would go to a restaurant as it seems to be a more sociable setting (my family and friends only go to restaurants for celebrations so this might be where my mind creates a difference). I've only ever gone to a pub to socialise so I wouldn't go on my own. Holidays and weekends away are a social thing to me and unless it was for a job I dont think I would elect to go on my own.

ETA I know many of my friends are comfortable going out on their own, to places like bingo, shopping or the gym.

duckeggblue

:)I have come out of an abusive relationship and while I get myself out and about I am still working on the social side.

It's the great moments that really lift me.

Yesterday morning I observed this heart warming moment.

I was at a car boot sale when I saw a small boy only about 18 months, make a beeline for a very old striped traffic cone slightly elevated on a pavement there, throw his arms round it and stand there hugging it like it was the loveliest thing in the world, for about three minutes, when his father noticed , we had a chat and suggested he take a photo.

Moments like that are life affirming , and you never know when they are coming.

treeze

Sooo happy I came upon this thread today,it's cheered me up.:)I live alone,am in my early 50's and normally have plenty on to keep me entertained-I do a lot of acting. Last couple of weeks there's been a lull and I've found myself with time on my hands. With a Bank Holiday coming I've been thinking of what I can do as I still do get daunted doing stuff alone.I have friends but they work and do other stuff and you can't expect family and friends to be free when you want. I had one holiday alone last year and relaxed into it by the third day when I realized not everyone was looking at me like I'm some sad loner:rotfl:and I got on with it. Lovely to read other people are getting out there doing stuff on their own and breaking down that initial fear. I think it's just making the effort as if you're not going with someone it's easy just to not bother and stay at home. Next thing for me to do-cinema and theatre on my own!