do you go out on your own or with others?

mishmogs

Some years ago I had a job which meant frequent nights away and you soon get use to eating in restaurants/pubs and the book is eventually not required. I found a smile, hello and most people respond as they probably wanted to have a chat too!

I usually do my shopping on my own, go to the cinema, have a meal out, go into the pub, museums, places of interest, etc and haven't noticed people looking oddly at me. My DH didn't want to go on holidays so off I went and I think because I am happy in my own skin, it made travelling easier. So, as others have said, start with a cinema trip and then two and then try something else and there you go, you are doing want you want and building confidence!

Torry_Quine

I think it very much depends on the person. While I admire those who can do things on their own I'm definitely not one of them. I find even going into a cafe very awkward and could never contemplate going to a restaurant, museum etc.

I have never gone on holiday alone and being married I don't need to and personally find it strange when couples holiday seperately.

balletshoes

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I think it very much depends on the person. While I admire those who can do things on their own I'm definitely not one of them. I find even going into a cafe very awkward and could never contemplate going to a restaurant, museum etc.

I have never gone on holiday alone and being married I don't need to and personally find it strange when couples holiday seperately.

thats fine, but we're not all the same (life would be very boring if we were ).

Torry_Quine

balletshoes wrote: »

thats fine, but we're not all the same (life would be very boring if we were ).

Hence the use of the word personally.

dawyldthing

I often go to the local social club on my own as no one usually has money to go out. I've been travelling by myself as well. Like someone said take one step at a time as most people are friendly. The other thing to do is to try and join local clubs. I now go to our local darts and dominos games at the pub and have met friends through that and stuff so you can build up your friend network

Person_one

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Hence the use of the word personally.

I think the issue was more with 'find it strange' than 'personally'.:rotfl:

Dunroamin

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I think it very much depends on the person. While I admire those who can do things on their own I'm definitely not one of them. I find even going into a cafe very awkward and could never contemplate going to a restaurant, museum etc.

I have never gone on holiday alone and being married I don't need to and personally find it strange when couples holiday seperately.

I wouldn't want to gp on holiday without my husband but we have different ideas on films/theatre/music we want to see so obviously I do those things alone, especially now his health is so poor.

Being happily married isn't supposed to mean being joined at the hip!

Torry_Quine

Dunroamin wrote: »

I wouldn't want to gp on holiday without my husband but we have different ideas on films/theatre/music we want to see so obviously I do those things alone, especially now his health is so poor.

Being happily married isn't supposed to mean being joined at the hip!

We certainly aren't joined at the hip. :rotfl::rotfl:

Having different tastes means that I see films which I wouldn't choose myself as does he.

Person_one

gibson123 wrote: »

It's about validation isn't it? Some people need others to validate their experiences, as in it's not worth something unless some-one else recognises that it was. Others don't need that type of validation, the difference I think is in how comfortable you are in your own skin, ultimately it comes down to confidence, self esteem and a sense of maturity.

Its not a competition. I do lots of stuff alone, but I still enjoy talking to my friends and family every now and then about the sort of stuff we've all been doing recently, alone or not.

If we all just did stuff alone and then never discussed any of it with other people, the world would be a much quieter place, and there would be far fewer film/play/exhibition/restaurant recommendations by word of mouth!

Dunroamin

Torry_Quine wrote: »

We certainly aren't joined at the hip. :rotfl::rotfl:

Having different tastes means that I see films which I wouldn't choose myself as does he.

What a waste of time and money!