Affair = Marriage and happiness?

paulineb_2

I would imagine that not everyone who cheats tells their partner that they have done so.

geoffky

A serial cheater i know very well who has children all over the place has just been killed and i am going the funeral as it will be interesting to say the least..
I have never seen him socially with his wife but his mistresses are a plenty..

Cooper18

As I've said previously I've never cheated on any of my partners, and to the best of my knowledge I've never been cheated on. I recognise that people are entitled to their opinions on this but many are guilty of lumping everyone into the same category when that just simply isn't the case. Every single person is different and every single relationship is different. It is not true that once a cheat, always a cheat. People here have proven otherwise and I have several peers who have proven it to me. I also believe that to live your life in a constant state of mistrust or depression because of the way you have been treated in the past is a waste of your life. You get one go on this merry-go-round, try to live it, enjoy it. There will come a day when your time is up and I for one don't intend to have regrets that I spent time on negativity and bitterness.

Hanging_by_a_thread

VestanPance wrote: »

Personally I'd never trust a cheater. One a cheat, always a cheat. It's a specific selfish and vile character trait in the people that would perform that type of action.

You have got this right. My ex cheated on me. It now appears he was cheating on two other women at the same time. It takes a certain type to do that doesn't it.

So in answer to the OP, no I dont think all people who cheat can go on and have long term, happy relationships. Lots of them dont want to make that kind of commitment to another person.

POPPYOSCAR

Cooper18 wrote: »

As I've said previously I've never cheated on any of my partners, and to the best of my knowledge I've never been cheated on. I recognise that people are entitled to their opinions on this but many are guilty of lumping everyone into the same category when that just simply isn't the case. Every single person is different and every single relationship is different. It is not true that once a cheat, always a cheat. People here have proven otherwise and I have several peers who have proven it to me. I also believe that to live your life in a constant state of mistrust or depression because of the way you have been treated in the past is a waste of your life. You get one go on this merry-go-round, try to live it, enjoy it. There will come a day when your time is up and I for one don't intend to have regrets that I spent time on negativity and bitterness.

I agree.

I also know people who have had affairs and are now blissfully happy and settled with the person they had the affair with.

I was cheated on and it was the best thing that happened to me in the long term. It was tough at the time but then I went on to meet the love of my life and we have now been together for over 25 years and I trust him implicitly.

So in retrospect I am glad he cheated.