First time post - wwyd and wdyt?

sooty&sweep

Hi

I'm sorry but I'm probably going to get shot down for this. I've not read every post so apologies if I've missed something.

This person may well be trying it on in terms of being a fussy eater and is using allergies to try and control the situation but you''ve not even met them yet and you are already building a negative image in your mind and becoming resentful.

If you're not happy trying to meet their needs then ask them to provide their own food but would some salad + cold meat or fish meet their needs ? You don't all have to eat the same as her and do some extra things for everyone else.

This is your friend's partner and you've indicated that it could be serious so for their sake I thing you should hold off judge ment and give them a chance.

Jen

Mojisola

sooty&sweep wrote: »

This person may well be trying it on in terms of being a fussy eater and is using allergies to try and control the situation but you''ve not even met them yet and you are already building a negative image in your mind and becoming resentful.

I think the negative vibes are coming over because those of us who have restricted diets or have friends with restricted diets wouldn't put a stranger in the awkward position of trying to provide suitable food. We would bring our own food with us, especially for the first get-together.

mrcow

It's one meal. She's not going to die of hunger if there isn't a whole load of stuff she can eat. Take fruit and then whatever you are doing for everyone else.

I am vegetarian and have been for 25 years.
I realise that it causes some people distress because they panic over food.

I would NEVER expect someone to cater their picnic just for me. As a fully grown adult, I realise that sometimes, the world doesn't revolve around me!

Stop being such a pushover. Stop asking them about the food. Stop pandering to it - you're making it worse! By treating all this like it's an acceptable way to behave, you are vindictating her behaviour. Fuelling the fire!

Make what YOU fancy and stop fretting about it. You owe no one any apologies or excuses.