First time post - wwyd and wdyt?

Dunroamin

If two out of your family of three won't eat chicken salad, you're not on very strong ground describing someone as fussy.

Why not just take salads with a variety of cold meats so she can have the chicken and the rest can have some other kind of meat?

AnnieO1234

My DS won't eat chicken he's eighteen months old and it's my friend whose the grown up who won't tolerate chicken salad due to lack of substance.

CH27

Stop pandering to everyone.

skintchick

If its your friend and his new GF who are the difficult ones then just tell them to bring their own food. It really is that simple. He doesn't sound a very good friend to me TBH and the new GF sounds just as awful.

securityguy

AnnieO1234 wrote: »

She can't/won't do an at home meal or cafe/restaurant setting until she gets to know my DS.

Then tell her to get stuffed. Spoilt princesses are able to behave like spoilt princesses because too many people are frightened of causing offence.

peachyprice

So what are you going to do if it rains and she won't tolerate your child indoors?

Sorry, but I'd tell them to re-arrange for a time they have both grown up. They both sound as bad as each other, she's being a complete prima donna and he's being a wimp.

sassyblue

AnnieO1234 wrote: »

She can't/won't do an at home meal or cafe/restaurant setting until she gets to know my DS.

Sounds more like nerves than anything else.

But l wouldn't pander to your friend, tell him to bring his and hers stuff because you're too frightened of making her ill - or killing her.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

AnnieO1234 wrote: »

I wish they would even offer to bring something.

The reason I know she's doesn't check labelling is because ever since we set this up I have been asking multiple questions and that's one of the things I have been told.

The distance between us would mean us all going shopping that day together which would put pay to the whole idea. One of the reasons for doing the picnic at a country park thing is because she doesn't deal well with kids.

I guess the gist of it is am I being unreasonable to expect them to bring their own drinks or sides? Some think no others yes.

I am already planning for me ODS and DH's needs and it almost feels like I will need thousands of dishes to please everyone; plus extra spend on ingredients I wouldn't use myself. Chicken salad would be awesome but useless for at least two of the group. Salad I am doing but reading into sulphites I will struggle with any bagged stuff.

There's part of me that thinks if she doesn't want to clue me in fully then ill just serve as normal but then if there's nothing for her it's a little harsh.

At this rate I really am going to end up cancelling. It's too darn stressful.

Ax

Tuna?

Cheese?

Turkey?

Pork?

Lamb pieces?

Hummous?




Basically, what is required for this picnic is meat and some fruit and salad vegetables. Plus some water and/or fruit juice.

Use oil and lemon juice for the dressing - and if you do lamb bits, a little plain yoghurt with chopped fresh mint and salt & pepper.

Have pittas cut into fingers for dipping into hummous and some carrot sticks. Seedless grapes are good, too.



Well, that's my idea of a picnic, compared to a few scotch eggs and a packet of cooked mini sausages from the Tesco Express.


I'd be bothered about being stuck in a room with a whole family of strangers/somebody else's children that I don't know. So I think a picnic is a much better idea for all concerned, rather than an example of princesshood.

securityguy

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

I'd be bothered about being stuck in a room with a whole family of strangers/somebody else's children that I don't know.

And a good host/ess will go out of their way to make their guest feel comfortable. But a good guest equally goes out of their may to make themselves low maintenance. If they can't deal with other people and they can't eat normal food and they can't clearly define the food they can eat, then the simple answer is for them to stay at home. There's "being a welcoming host" and there's "dealing with the hangups of strangers", and just because you're happy with the former does mean you have to deal with the latter.

The missing people in this account would also appear to be the OP's children. Why should they have to go on a picnic with someone who doesn't like children?

podperson

So she will have wholegrain bread and sandwich meats - that sounds easy for a start. Add some fruit, maybe some raw veggies with dips, a salad - either normal or wholegrain pasta/rice salad. Some fruit juice or water to drink. Surely that's not a million miles away from what you'd choose for a picnic anyway?

Does she possibly have some kind of anxiety problems as the issue with the kids sounds a little odd and like it might be something more than plain fussiness.