First time post - wwyd and wdyt?

Dunroamin

AnnieO1234 wrote: »

My DS won't eat chicken he's eighteen months old and it's my friend whose the grown up who won't tolerate chicken salad due to lack of substance.

Huh??.....

Mojisola

AnnieO1234 - Please let us know what you decide to do.

Dunroamin

AnnieO1234 wrote: »

To be clear on what she can't have:

Lemons to do with sulphites
Ham or cured meats again sulphites
Bagged salad or anything in modified atmosphere packaging
Nothing that's made near nuts so bread isn't standard
No mayo, quiches, coleslaw, potato, carrot salads
No bottled or can drinks including water, only fresh fruit juice. Squash all now seems to contain sulphites.

Here's what I had planned and the V means it was vetoed

Garden salad with radish peppers watercress V
Coleslaw V
Carrot & raisin salad V
Potato salad V
Cheeses
Tuna
Continental meats V
Selection bread rolls V
Coca-cola, Fanta, Buxton maybe some robinsons all V
Ice cream from van V
Cheesecake V
Fresh fruit salad pre done V
Scones jam and cream V

This has all been drip fed to me since we first set it up. I am erring towards princess syndrome especially as sulphite abstinence seems to be the "it" thing at the mo.

Groan

Why on earth have you given her/them the power of veto? If you've been given a list of her allergy requirements and you've catered on that basis then she should just shut up and eat!

*max*

Pardon me, but she sounds weird...I can understand not liking children or being nervous around them, but even if they were in a restaurant, it's not like she would be chained to her chair and forced to make conversation with the kid for the duration. The child will probably have zero interest in her anyway once they've met her.

As for the food thing...wow. I can't imagine inviting people to a picnic, having them ask me what I'm bringing and them "vetoeing" everything without suggesting alternatives at least!

BitterAndTwisted

I think you should stop going through an intermediary and speak to her directly yourself. If she's that difficult to cater for then she should have very clear ideas of what is suitable or appropriate and what is not rather than just having your suggestions vetoed.

For myself, I'd have thrown the towel in a long time ago. I've never heard of anyone who has a problem meeting new ten year old kids. She sounds like a loon to me.

*max*

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

I think you should stop going through an intermediary and speak to her directly yourself. If she's that difficult to cater for then she should have very clear ideas of what is suitable or appropriate and what is not rather than just having your suggestions vetoed.

For myself, I'd have thrown the towel in a long time ago. I've never heard of anyone who has a problem meeting new ten year old kids. She sounds like a loon to me.

Don't throw the towel, it could be what she ends up eating at this rate...

GBNI

Honestly, I would ask them to bring their own. Especially as you have tried to make an effort but it was all veteoed.

I have food intolerances (not allergies) but I ensure that I bring my own food to anything like that so that other people don't stress out!

fireyfirenze

I can't believe this woman has had the cheek to 'veto' so many of your suggestions. That is so rude. If somebody was offering to bring food for me to a picnic and I had to veto even one of the suggestions I would be offering to bring my own straight away. Never mind so many. I don't have allergies but I'm quite fussy with my food so if we're going out for dinner etc i always make sure there's something I can eat and this lady should be doing the same by providing her own. Please, use the line people suggested and ask her to provide her own in fear of making her ill. Don't waste anymore time worrying over this lady.

AnnieO1234

Thanks everyone.

I'm glad I am not going mad!

I have veto power on the basis of not knowing how sensitive she was. Having seen the effects of residual peanut butter from three hours before on an allergy sufferers face I just didn't want to take the risk at all of having things that my youngest might decide to get all over.

There's a great picnic spot nearby where I live that's got "enough" including a covered play area and covered eating area for bad weather, but I am forever hopeful the weather will be okay.

But to be honest the more I have tried the more I feel that it's a bad idea from the start, that's why I sought other opinions in case I was just overthinking things and running around on a tare.

I think I will go with the bring your own option. But whether this sits well I don't know what the fallout will be.

What mojisola said too, it wasn't such an issue before catering for my friend at home because they don't cook so it's not really an and I don't mid either but this really could set a precedent that I don't think I will be comfortable with at all xxx

shegirl

AnnieO1234 wrote: »

Hi all,

Long time reader, occasional commenter but first post so please bear with me

Basically in a few weeks time DH, DS and I have a picnic planned with one of my oldest friends to meet their new partner for the first time - for once she seems like someone who will stick and their future seems like it could be rosey.

However she's got a list of (I am told) allergies which I am happy to accommodate for the food but the more I have tried to plan the more it feels like she's fussy not allergic. And more importantly I am also thinking that were it me with the allergies etc I would take my own food and drink to not inconvenience the other person.

What do you all think of this?

Peanut allergy but doesn't bother to read packaging ever.
Egg allergy - can't have cakes or quiche but can have mayonnaise?!
Sulphites - basically can only drink fresh chiller or home made fruit juice or water, all sodas etc are off limits. But it's okay in sandwich meats even though according to allergy charities it's carte Blanche if you're sensitive.
Processed food like pastas and white bread are off limits too.

Am I just being sensitive or is this a fussy eater trying to make everyone jump for her????

Thanks in advance!

Ax

Sounds like a 'clean eater' more than anything!But you can't take chances and given the circumstances I think you should accomodate her to make her feel welcome.