First time post - wwyd and wdyt?

peachyprice

AnnieO1234 wrote: »

I think I will go with the bring your own option. But whether this sits well I don't know what the fallout will be.

Honestly, if this really is food allergies with health risks rather than faddy eating she should be more than happy to bring her own food that she knows is 100% safe. If she/they get shirty about it it will speak volumes.

thunderbird

I think you just need to say to her - 'what do you want me to bring for you or would you rather bring your own?
You can't keep offering choices which she then turns down.

She sounds extremely rude, hope she turns out to be a lot nicer than she currently appears.

pulliptears

Mojisola wrote: »

AnnieO1234 - Please let us know what you decide to do.

I'd go with smack the loon around the head with the picnic basket and skip off to the local Toby for a carvery and a pint personally.


She sounds like one of those people that thinks it's cool to have allergies and illnesses. I think we all know one somewhere, I know I do.

Mojisola

pulliptears wrote: »

I'd go with smack the loon around the head with the picnic basket and skip off to the local Toby for a carvery and a pint personally.

I was thinking to myself that AnnieO1234 can always deploy her secret weapon if the GF is unbearable - encourage the 10 year old to sit next to her, talk to her all the time, ask her to come and play on the swings, etc.

pulliptears

Mojisola wrote: »

I was thinking to myself that AnnieO1234 can always deploy her secret weapon if the GF is unbearable - encourage the 10 year old to sit next to her, talk to her all the time, ask her to come and play on the swings, etc.

I have a 15 year old I'd happily lend her as well , in fact, between the forum I think we could round up a few of all ages

I had a 'friend' like that at school, she was allergic to fresh air I'm sure. Her lactose intolerance seemingly never stretched to chocolate or Mac D's Milkshakes either, it was done to suit and for maximum inconvenience to people. In short, I think she just liked the idea of others dancing to her tune.
She has a son now who's about 8 and oddly enough he is intolerant of everything as well.... Now everyone is supposed to pander to her AND her son. I didn't believe her 20 years ago and I certainly don't believe her now.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

AnnieO1234 wrote: »

I've laid my own bed since having DS that I have got meals prepared whenever my friend has visited so its just sort of the accepted thing. I suppose the girlfriend could be saying all that about "I will make my own etc" but might be being told to not worry.

She can't/won't do an at home meal or cafe/restaurant setting until she gets to know my DS. We're all clear that my DS and any future DSs and DDs be closest they'll have to kids, the girlfriend was really clear not going to happen and my friend has always flip flopped on it depending on whims of the particular person they're with. That's why this is such a big deal.

Well it's been an interesting first post thanks all xxx

Get out of here :rotfl:

...stop pandering to this nonsense - it's absolutely ridiculous.

sassyblue

pulliptears wrote: »

I'd go with smack the loon around the head with the picnic basket and skip off to the local Toby for a carvery and a pint personally.


She sounds like one of those people that thinks it's cool to have allergies and illnesses. I think we all know one somewhere, I know I do.

I hope the OP updates us afterwards. Someone like this must surely be stick thin with all those deadly allergies and the worry of eating something she shouldn't.

(My bets on her being a porker, sorry)

jellyhead

pulliptears wrote: »

I have a 15 year old I'd happily lend her as well , in fact, between the forum I think we could round up a few of all ages

I had a 'friend' like that at school, she was allergic to fresh air I'm sure. Her lactose intolerance seemingly never stretched to chocolate or Mac D's Milkshakes either, it was done to suit and for maximum inconvenience to people. In short, I think she just liked the idea of others dancing to her tune.
She has a son now who's about 8 and oddly enough he is intolerant of everything as well.... Now everyone is supposed to pander to her AND her son. I didn't believe her 20 years ago and I certainly don't believe her now.

:rotfl:

My children are lactose intolerant. It's quite common in the males in my family, for some reason, but they gradually grow out of it. it's a pain for babies and toddlers though, especially when they vomit on the carpet at toddler group because somebody was determined to 'prove' that my son could eat cheese despite my saying he couldn't. A reception teacher wasn't convinced about youngest's lactose intolerance after I said he could have an ice cream during a special day at school where they were all given an ice cream. After that she gave him milk to drink every day, then wondered why he had such a high absence rate due to D+V.

Nobody has to pander to my children though. If I think there won't be enough suitable food at a party I make sure I take enough of my own. I wouldn't dream of dictating about a picnic like this! Given the OPs list, I would tell her to take all of those things, and I would take suitable bread and make cheese or tuna sandwiches, and simply avoid the other dishes.

My children 'save up' the small amount of dairy they are allowed by avoiding it all week so they can have an ice cream on a day out. We're still eating the easter eggs because they can only have half an egg per week, poor souls! They're not allowed creme eggs either, yet my siblings always buy them creme egg easter eggs. I wouldn't dream of making a fuss - I just eat their creme eggs for them

pulliptears

jellyhead wrote: »

:rotfl:

My children are lactose intolerant. It's quite common in the males in my family, for some reason, but they gradually grow out of it. it's a pain for babies and toddlers though, especially when they vomit on the carpet at toddler group because somebody was determined to 'prove' that my son could eat cheese despite my saying he couldn't. A reception teacher wasn't convinced about youngest's lactose intolerance after I said he could have an ice cream during a special day at school where they were all given an ice cream. After that she gave him milk to drink every day, then wondered why he had such a high absence rate due to D+V.

Nobody has to pander to my children though. If I think there won't be enough suitable food at a party I make sure I take enough of my own. I wouldn't dream of dictating about a picnic like this! Given the OPs list, I would tell her to take all of those things, and I would take suitable bread and make cheese or tuna sandwiches, and simply avoid the other dishes.

My children 'save up' the small amount of dairy they are allowed by avoiding it all week so they can have an ice cream on a day out. We're still eating the easter eggs because they can only have half an egg per week, poor souls! They're not allowed creme eggs either, yet my siblings always buy them creme egg easter eggs. I wouldn't dream of making a fuss - I just eat their creme eggs for them

I know there are plenty of genuine people, but she really wasn't one of them. She could eat her own bodyweight in chocolate at lunchtime most days, her only allergy was to the truth I think.

I think you've hit the nail on the head though, genuine people who live with these type of problems don't expect others to have to second guess what is safe to eat and help menu plan wherever possible. This woman just seems to enjoy being awkward for the hell of it.

meritaten

anyone with all those allergies wouldn't be eating out anyway! far too dangerous! and quite frankly anyone who requested my child be kept away from them..............wouldn't have the pleasure of my company either! What a diva! I wouldn't even want to meet her after all this fannying about!