First time post - wwyd and wdyt?

Ms_Chocaholic

What do you think I presume

sassyblue

AnnieO1234 wrote: »

That's sort of my point and why I am getting annoyed. If you really had all that list, and like has been said you could die, you would bring your own stuff surely??? It feels like a power trip.

Yes it's the new girlfriend xx

If its honestly life threatening you wouldn't let anyone else prepare your food, surely someone like that would barely eat out? . Sounds like a drama llama (dons tin hat), enjoy. :cool:

marisco_2

Personally I wouldn't want to take on the responsibility, of choosing and providing food for someone who advises they have severe allergies to certain foods.

Best to air on the side of caution in these situations. No-one should take offense, to you asking them to bring foods they know they can consume and enjoy, as you dont want to make a mistake and cause them an adverse reaction.

As others have wisely said you have to be so careful as some allergies can be really serious.

Errata

Just take her seriously. If she suits your friend and their future looks rosey, that's good enough for you to show her some courtesy.

meritaten

my son was dairy allergic - the joke in our family was he used to TAKE his own party bag! Seriously, I would contact your friend and tell her you are too scared you may include something banned so could they bring their own food. which they should anyway! otherwise, why is it up to YOU to provide all the food?

Mrs_Imp

Ask the new partner for advice on what to make, and also ask her to bring a couple of things along, just in case. It'll show that you're prepared to make the effort for her, and won't be offended if you don't quite get it right. Then at the picnic you could discuss recipes etc with her and get a better idea of her allergies/intolerances.

It may be that she says 'allergy' just to make life easier. I have a caffeine intolerance, but find it easier to say 'allergy' as people understand it better, and are more likely to check what they give me. When I've said 'intolerant' to people I've ended up with things like a chocolate chip cookie with my herbal tea, and when I politely decline they say 'I thought you'd be ok with a little bit of caffeine'

I hope the picnic goes well.

j.e.j.

AnnieO1234 wrote: »

What do you all think of this?

Peanut allergy but doesn't bother to read packaging ever.
Egg allergy - can't have cakes or quiche but can have mayonnaise?!
Sulphites - basically can only drink fresh chiller or home made fruit juice or water, all sodas etc are off limits. But it's okay in sandwich meats even though according to allergy charities it's carte Blanche if you're sensitive.
Processed food like pastas and white bread are off limits too.

I'd do a brown rice salad, and bring some juice, and then ask her to bring some of her own food, as it's quite a restrictive list you've got there.

nearlyrich

My daughter's lodger has a peanut allergy, it is very serious she has ended up in hospital more than once and she is careful. I would also ask the new GF to bring food she was happy to eat...you don't want to kill off the love of his life do you?

claire16c

I'd just bring normal food but avoid obvious stuff like peanuts. And if she's truly allergic she will know to check labels on your stuff & bring her own bits too. As people have posted above, if you're allergic to something you are careful about what you eat so I guess you'll find out if she just starts eating any old thing she's clearly not that bothered.

My friend is allergic to egg so she can't eat cakes, but if I went to a picnic with her I know she wouldn't mind if some of us ate cake, we'd just make sure to bring non egg sweet stuff too. If you are allergic to stuff you will tend to know what types of food it's in or you would ask before eating.

whitewing

Why don't you and your friend go food shopping together, so that he can check the food - and come prepared with a list. It would be a pity if the stress of the unknown colours your view and makes it awkward. Especially if it is genuine, although I have to say it would sound princessy to me.