Worst Dating Experience?

Orlando_Virgin

miss_independent wrote: »

It was on one of my threads but if you want I can copy and paste it here. It was funnily bad.

Get it in the mixer!! :j

miss_independent

OK, Orlando, you asked for it...

Copied and pasted from my thread;

Sorry folks...

It's one of those date horror stories .

As you can probably tell from the time, it didn't go too well. I couldn't wait to get away.

There is a Bistro in a beautiful country estate near us - its a bit like a National Trust place with grounds you can walk in. As it was a beautiful evening. We decided to go there - it was my suggestion. Anyway, as we were texting arrangments, he text me saying - "You'll have to drive me.". He didn't ask, just told me. He only lived round the corner so I couldn't see why he couldn't walk but I still thought, ok give him a chance.

I don't know how to say this without sounding big headed, please don't think I am. I looked as nice as I could, in a natural way. I wore a pretty but simple sundress, very natural make up and had done my hair nice. My friends and family had been popping in the house all afternoon and I got comments that I looked, "perfect", "had got it just right" etc. I was confident I looked nice . When I pulled up outside his door, he took a while to come out and when he did, he was dressed really shabbily (not at all like he was at the BBQ). He honestly looked like he had rolled out of bed. In fact I think he had. He was actually dressed like a scruffy teenage boy. I'm sorry, I know I sound like a b*tch, what I'm trying to say is he had made NO effort at all. In my head I berated myself and said that the way he looked had nothing to do with how nice a person he was.

Within 3 seconds of our date he had said the F word a few times. I tried to tell myself this was just nerves but it did turn me off. His language the whole time was foul.

Within ten minutes he started boasting about recreational drug use and told me he had done a runner to the UK to escape his debts. He later confessed to stealing for fun and told me about his parents crazy sex lives. The whole time he spoke about himself. I had asked the usual questions and shown interest in his life hoping he would reciprocate but he did not ask me one question about myself nor did he offer me a compliment in any way. I did try to praise him as much as I could and was sympathetic, polite and caring. He laughed at my jokes but quickly got back to his favourite topic - himself and his crazy life. I actually feel very sorry for him, nobody deserves the kind of life he had and to be honest its going to be hard for him to turn it around. I sense he is sensitive to rejection and I hope he doesn't take the fact I don't want to see him again too hard.

He kept trying to get close to me, and I started to feel really uncomfortable. Part of my job includes analysis and intentional use of body language so I tried my best to show I didn't want to get close to him (leaning back and away, crossing arms in front of me, avoiding prolonged eye contact etc). I don't see HOW he could have misread that. Our waiter caught me eye and chuckled at me as he could tell we were on a first date and it wasn't going well. Anyway, he still persisted and touched my leg. I decided to plan my exit strategy. After two hours, I said I was sorry but I had to meet some friends later on so I would have to go.

He seemed surprised! I could tell he thought things were going really well. I thought he was walking back to my car but to my surprise he got in! So he assumed I was just automatically giving him a lift home. In the car, he kept talking about "next time" and I was thinking that I didn't know how to tell him I really don't want to see him again. I didn't say anything when he was saying, so confidently, about "next time" as I didn't want to lead him on. As we pulled up outside his house, he just sat there. He wasn't getting out. I said, "Thank you for meeting up with me and for your conversation. Enjoy the rest of your weekend." He asked me when we were going out again, when I was free. I know I shouldn't have done this but I felt quite vulnerable alone in the car with him so I said, I didn't have my hours for this week and I couldn't let him know. He looked a bit shocked, like this was his first inkling that it hadn't went well to me. He said, "So why is it you had to leave again? What is it you are doing now?". I lied as convincingly as I could. Again, I tried to bring it to an end.

I was so uncomfortable, I was practically pinned against my car door as I didn't want to be close to him. He finally said, "Well, Bye then." and started looking into my eyes and leaning in. I knew what was coming so I attempted to turn so he'd get my cheek but he saw what I was trying to do and he kissed me on the lips. Except he missed and got my chin . This is one bad kisser I am NOT intending to reform. He finally got out the car, again referring to "next time" .

I drove away feeling disgusted. I don't want to hurt him though so I am praying he doesn't contact me again.





It is resolved, I sent him a polite text saying I didn't feel we connected and he seemed to take it well.

SandC

Oh no Miss!

But, sorry you're right, it's funnily bad. :rotfl:

Orlando_Virgin

Pahahahaha, I shouldn't laugh but what on earth is he thinking on so many levels there?! Talking about his parents' sex life? REALLY? Recreational drug use?

I'm sorry Miss, may there be many more chin kisses in the future

markbarr

Before going to a date everything looks nice and excited but if on date the friend of the girl you are dating with is compening her then it is going to be the worst date ever

miss_independent

Orlando_Virgin wrote: »

Pahahahaha, I shouldn't laugh but what on earth is he thinking on so many levels there?! Talking about his parents' sex life? REALLY? Recreational drug use?

I'm sorry Miss, may there be many more chin kisses in the future

_pale_

God, I hope not!

ETA: I was thinking, "Why are the hell are you telling me this? What makes you think this is the kind of guy I'm looking for? I'm not Amy Winehouse (bless her)!" If that's how he was on a first date what was he going to be like further down the line?!

Orlando_Virgin

markbarr wrote: »

Before going to a date everything looks nice and excited but if on date the friend of the girl you are dating with is compening her then it is going to be the worst date ever

Is that you, Borat from Kazakhstan?