Worst Dating Experience?

miss_independent

Orlando_Virgin wrote: »

Don't underestimate yourself, I read all of that stuff nodding my head. Well, either that, or I'm on a par for being the most clueless individual in love in the world. I haven't really had the chance to speak to my friends and most importantly my Mum about any of it yet!? But yeah I think you're right, if it happens, it will just have to be slow and steady and DEFINITELY with a clean slate, I can't carry any baggage over. x

Lol, well if you are on a par with me then God help you! No, you definitely aren't, from what you post on here I'm pretty sure you've got it together.

Good Luck with it and please keep us posted. We are all rooting for you OV.

Oh and yeah, speak to your mum, I swear they've got magical, intuitive powers when it comes to our relationships.

Orlando_Virgin

miss_independent wrote: »

Lol, well if you are on a par with me then God help you! No, you definitely aren't, from what you post on here I'm pretty sure you've got it together.

Good Luck with it and please keep us posted. We are all rooting for you OV.

Oh and yeah, speak to your mum, I swear they've got magical, intuitive powers when it comes to our relationships.

Thanks, that's so sweet. I will keep you posted, I'm going round to Mum's tonight, I guarantee I will say "Mum, can we talk" and she'll say "you're getting back together?" lol.

miss_independent

Orlando_Virgin wrote: »

Thanks, that's so sweet. I will keep you posted, I'm going round to Mum's tonight, I guarantee I will say "Mum, can we talk" and she'll say "you're getting back together?" lol.

See? Magic powers I tell you! Sometimes I love it, sometimes I hate it. But they are nearly always right.

miss_independent

SandC...not wanting to hijack but just be careful. I've spent far too long waiting for a guy where the feeling is mutual but nothing is happening because we've both had other issues we've been dealing with. I've finally got to a point where if I see him again under different circumstances I'm going back to square one and starting afresh (I've known him 20 years, since I was 9). But until I see him again, I'm switching my feelings off and stopping the overanalysis. I've wasted 2.5 years on him, closing my eyes to other guys and, more importantly, still feeling for him and I'd hate anyone else to go through that (not that you'd be as stupid as me). Just do what you are doing and live your life, like you said. If it's meant to be it will be, overanalysing won't help it happen any quicker, you'll just start over-idealising him and drive yourself crazy (like me lol.)

But........I really hope it does work out for you!

lostinrates

miss_independent wrote: »

Oh and yeah, speak to your mum, I swear they've got magical, intuitive powers when it comes to our relationships.

Hhmmmm. Maybe I'm adopted.

SandC

miss_independent wrote: »

SandC...not wanting to hijack but just be careful. I've spent far too long waiting for a guy where the feeling is mutual but nothing is happening because we've both had other issues we've been dealing with. I've finally got to a point where if I see him again under different circumstances I'm going back to square one and starting afresh (I've known him 20 years, since I was 9). But until I see him again, I'm switching my feelings off and stopping the overanalysis. I've wasted 2.5 years on him, closing my eyes to other guys and, more importantly, still feeling for him and I'd hate anyone else to go through that (not that you'd be as stupid as me). Just do what you are doing and live your life, like you said. If it's meant to be it will be, overanalysing won't help it happen any quicker, you'll just start over-idealising him and drive yourself crazy (like me lol.)

But........I really hope it does work out for you!

Thank you so much, such kind words! I spent 4 years not going near any men before a short period of dating someone a year or so ago and nothing since then so I'm actually far more comfortable on my own than with someone - it actually causes much anxiety even thinking about dating sometimes. So, yes, I will try to avoid analysing and business as usual and just see what happens. I'm actually quite pleased with myself that I know have the door open to offers (if I fancy the look of the 'offer' that is :cool:) rather than slammed shut like it has been for some time.

Orlando_Virgin

SandC wrote: »

Thank you so much, such kind words! I spent 4 years not going near any men before a short period of dating someone a year or so ago and nothing since then so I'm actually far more comfortable on my own than with someone - it actually causes much anxiety even thinking about dating sometimes. So, yes, I will try to avoid analysing and business as usual and just see what happens. I'm actually quite pleased with myself that I know have the door open to offers (if I fancy the look of the 'offer' that is :cool:) rather than slammed shut like it has been for some time.

You're in a fantastic place! Comfortable and happy with your own company, not in a direct need of having someone, but open to the idea of someone coming along and being the right person. That is definitely the way to look at it

miss_independent

SandC wrote: »

Thank you so much, such kind words! I spent 4 years not going near any men before a short period of dating someone a year or so ago and nothing since then so I'm actually far more comfortable on my own than with someone - it actually causes much anxiety even thinking about dating sometimes. So, yes, I will try to avoid analysing and business as usual and just see what happens. I'm actually quite pleased with myself that I know have the door open to offers (if I fancy the look of the 'offer' that is :cool:) rather than slammed shut like it has been for some time.

Gosh, are you my twin?! I'm single for nearly 7 years now, had a (horrendous) date at the weekend but was nearly having a panic attack before it lol and I realised how happy I really am on my own. And the date was so bad, it's put me off dating for a while. Don't get me wrong, I'd like that special someone but, I actually also get on fine by myself and if it never happened, then I'm sure I could still look back and say that I had a full life. Can well relate to the door slammed shut thing!

I think you are doing amazingly well and have a great attitude.

Good luck - it will all work out for the best whatever happens!

Orlando_Virgin

miss_independent wrote: »

Gosh, are you my twin?! I'm single for nearly 7 years now, had a (horrendous) date at the weekend but was nearly having a panic attack before it lol and I realised how happy I really am on my own. And the date was so bad, it's put me off dating for a while. Don't get me wrong, I'd like that special someone but, I actually also get on fine by myself and if it never happened, then I'm sure I could still look back and say that I had a full life. Can well relate to the door slammed shut thing!

I think you are doing amazingly well and have a great attitude.

Good luck - it will all work out for the best whatever happens!

What happened on the date? Or would you rather not talk about it?

miss_independent

Orlando_Virgin wrote: »

What happened on the date? Or would you rather not talk about it?

It was on one of my threads but if you want I can copy and paste it here. It was funnily bad.