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  • :eek:

    I've already told about my first date with otherwise lovely chap who turned up in grubby awful clothes (bus driver style trousers anyone?) that looked like he'd raided a 90 year old man's wardrobe, and with Max Wall hair, and the personality just couldn't make up for it!

    When I was a teenager went out with a lad who was half French, half Spanish, so quite dark looking. Got followed round by a bunch of mental teenage girls who were shouting racial abuse at us thinking he was Indian. Put rather a dampener on it all. Poor lad. And I already knew he walked with a bit of a limp, which was ok, but something he said that day made me wonder if it was a false leg. Which at 15 years old was not something I could deal with, but I didn't like to ask...
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  • krustylouise
    krustylouise Posts: 1,501 Forumite
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    I am LOVING these stories!!! Right I'll share 2 stories with you. The first is quite rude but the second isn't.

    So I went on a date with a guy off a dating site. He lay across the seat(?!) and randomly declared "I bet I could make you c*me more than once when we go to bed!!!" Needless to say he didn't get that far....

    Second "date" wasn't a blinking date! A guy from work asked me where was good to take his daughter locally, I suggested a few places and because our daughters are a similar age I mentioned we could have a "play date" for the girls. He seemed cool about it so we casually arranged to meet a couple of Saturdays later. It all being innocent to me and not finding this guy (a good few years older than me) attractive at all, thought nothing of it, until the Friday night before......he rang me asking if people are work would be ok us going on our date. Oh my days....I gently put the record straight and he claimed to understand.

    So the next day we meet with the girls, having a lovely time but he's very touchy feely and I keep pushing his hands off me. I then get a text message and he got off his chair and stood behind me asking who had text as what were they saying?!?! The cheek. Then he tried to grab my bum in the soft play centre, AND THEN!.....dropped his daughter off with his ex wife WITH ME IN TOW!.....cringe.

    Needless to say after this unexpected "date" and the texts he sent me afterwards referring to me as "sexy" I firmly nipped it in the bud!

    Jeepers creepers...

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  • marisco_2
    marisco_2 Posts: 4,261 Forumite
    We've had a few texts since and she wants to do something this weekend

    Next time you find yourself over analysing, reading in to things and trying to predict what may happen next, bare the above in mind. You met up with a woman and spent time with her and she liked you enough to contact you and want to suggest that you do something together again this coming weekend. Take things one step at a time and just enjoy the moment. Dont waste time worrying or suffering from self doubt. That just puts you under unecessarry stress and pressure when this is meant to be a good time for you.
    The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own, no apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.
  • LilChel
    LilChel Posts: 22 Forumite
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    It went really well! This is going to sound really high maintenance but a bit too well really! Because I've only been single about 6 weeks now I didn't really go expecting too much but we had a lovely time. She had brilliant conversation, really interesting to listen to, very pretty, and for the LAD in me, what a body!!

    She EVEN HAD A PIZZA. I must have had the stupidest smirk on my face as she started to cut it up!! As it turns out she just ate it normally with a knife and fork. I was dying to start laughing, I just thought of everyone on this forum! You were all with me!

    Problem is, and I know you'll see this coming, I don't know what to do! We've had a few texts since and she wants to do something this weekend, and I do to, but I'm a little bit scared it's too soon for me as well, what kind of 2nd date should I do.

    For info, she knows about my recent break up as I have been totally honest. I didn't talk about it at all (I'd be putting myself on the horror date list:rotfl:) but beforehand she knew my situation etc.


    Thats great to hear that the date went well, really pleased for you:) Loving the walk along the prom...maybe even get a bag of chips too...have a lovely time on date 2....let us know how you get on, oh and just continue to be you, its better to see the real person than the act that some put on:)
  • Hezzawithkids
    Hezzawithkids Posts: 3,018 Forumite
    Loving all these stories - reminds me of a few of my own dating disasters.

    Agreed to meet a chap from work in a pub. The place was rammed but we managed to find a table in the corner. I sat down and he went straight to the bar without asking me what I wanted to drink. Eventually he came back with his pint, sat down and said to me: "You'd better go and get your drink now this place is really busy". I got up and walked out.

    Met a man in a bar and agreed to meet up with him at my local the next day. Some friends of mine happened to be there and we had a reasonably pleasant evening with them but at the end of it he said "Why do you keep calling me John, my name is Joe". We saw each other a couple more times after that but it soon fizzled out.

    Got up close & personal with a guy in a nightclub. He asked me what I'd like to drink I said a white wine spritzer (this was the 1980's). He said he was too embarrassed to go to the bar and ask for such a girlie drink but here's some cash, go and get it yourself. I walked away, drinkless. With hindsight I should have taken the cash with me!
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  • tayforth
    tayforth Posts: 1,884 Forumite
    Loving all these stories - reminds me of a few of my own dating disasters.

    Agreed to meet a chap from work in a pub. The place was rammed but we managed to find a table in the corner. I sat down and he went straight to the bar without asking me what I wanted to drink. Eventually he came back with his pint, sat down and said to me: "You'd better go and get your drink now this place is really busy". I got up and walked out.

    Met a man in a bar and agreed to meet up with him at my local the next day. Some friends of mine happened to be there and we had a reasonably pleasant evening with them but at the end of it he said "Why do you keep calling me John, my name is Joe". We saw each other a couple more times after that but it soon fizzled out.

    Got up close & personal with a guy in a nightclub. He asked me what I'd like to drink I said a white wine spritzer (this was the 1980's). He said he was too embarrassed to go to the bar and ask for such a girlie drink but here's some cash, go and get it yourself. I walked away, drinkless. With hindsight I should have taken the cash with me!


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  • wik
    wik Posts: 575 Forumite
    I am sat here cringing at the thought of my worst!!
    Thing is it wasnt just 1 date!
    I was working as a chef in a pub and one of my regular customers set me up on a blind date with her grandson!!

    He met me at the pub - he seemed very nice, and arranged a 'date' for my next night off - I gave him my address - at the time i was living at home, and my parents lived in an unmade road...

    well he picked me up and was in a low slung sports car - not a very flashy one!!! anyway, as we set off down the road, i said to him you need to go slow and keep right to the left! well he knew better - floored it and went down the center! about 2 seconds later there was a graunch noise and then that awful blown exhaust noise!! opps... back half of exhaust on the road behind us! and me now trying not to giggle!:rotfl:
    so that was end of the night, We walked back up to my house and he called a friend to come tow him!!

    So the next weekend, we did get to the pub, and it went well, he then said shall we go for a meal next week with my gran and your parents, and he suggested a harvester restaurant.

    So following Sunday, me and mum n dad headed out, now i am not being snobby, but a harvester is hardly haute cuisine! so we dressed casual. We got to the harvester, walked in and there he was with his gran, he was suited n booted!! and she was in a dress :o

    We had the meal and after it he asked to speak to me, and he DUMPED me!!! because I had been disrespectful for not dressing up!!! PAH :rotfl:
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  • lizziebabe
    lizziebabe Posts: 1,115 Forumite
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    Hi everyone, what a laugh :rotfl:

    I went on a date with a guy from a dating site. We had chatted on the phone and got on really well. I hadn't posted my photo but he had put his on. We met, he was like his photo and seemed really nice. We got on very well and I was pleased that he had taken a chance with me without a photo. We walked through town to the Christmas fair and he held my hand. I thought it a bit odd for a first date. He asked me what I was doing at the weekend and I said I was due to go to a Party with a chap who grew up where I did but I didn't know him. The Birthday girl knew him. The date guy started getting very jealous and clingy. Red rag to a bull, I'm afraid and I didn't see him again. It's a shame because he was nice and took a chance on me, without seeing my photo. So at least he wasn't shallow, but I had only just met him and he was getting jealous.

    I think I am destined to be on my own but I am not desperate or clingy or unhappy about being single. :D
  • Orlando_Virgin
    Orlando_Virgin Posts: 482 Forumite
    LilChel wrote: »
    Thats great to hear that the date went well, really pleased for you:) Loving the walk along the prom...maybe even get a bag of chips too...have a lovely time on date 2....let us know how you get on, oh and just continue to be you, its better to see the real person than the act that some put on:)

    Thank you I will! I'm not concerned about being myself, just like to be as upfront with people as I can be!
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  • Rachylou1981
    Rachylou1981 Posts: 714 Forumite
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    On one date I was due to meet guy at end of my road in his black Clio. So when I was walking down road and a black Clio went by and beeped and then turned round and pulled up near me, I ran over and jumped in....it wasn't my date :o

    Had a meet up with a guy I met online in a pub where we were both driving so it was completely sober which worried me as I like to have a drink to relax. Anyway the date went really well and we both said we wanted to see eachother again. However he put me off my proceeding to be a complete sleaze by texting all the time asking what I was wearing and trying to get me into dirty talk. It felt like a completely different person! :eek:

    Another online date was gorgeous in his pics, he was a model and when I googled his name all was genuine so I was really excited. When I met him he looked entirely different, it was the same guy facially but the modelling pics failed to show me he was actually very small and half my body weight so I felt like I was on a date with a little boy. He also was very clingy and too forward so I had to politely put him off after the date. Stupidly I kept him on Facebook and when I went on another date about a month later, he went nuts and asked why I was dating someone else. Weirdo.

    For all the singletons, hang in there because on my first date with my boyfriend (he's 'The One') I got so drunk that I fell over and couldn't remember much of the end of the date but he still wanted to see me again :D
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