My partner is always in a bad mood with me so sad

j.e.j.

Mojisola wrote: »

Did you read the first post?

Fair enough, she's looking after the child while still drunk/hungover from the night before. I still wonder, though, if it's a communication problem between the two of them. OP wanted to chill out a bit. All he can see is a messy house and OP avoiding him.

sunflower_2

OP I really feel for you

my OH is often like this - i am walking on egg shells most of the time to ascertain what sort of "mood" he is in.
it is like he has at least 2 dif personalities.

i know how hard it is to consider leaving - all the disruption, lack of money, the kids emotions etc.
mostly i feel it is better just to ride it out until his mood changes.

it is ok for him to go out 11am on the drink, stay at a friends' house and come back 10am the next day.
but when i go to a friends house 7pm, come home 1am but very hungover the next day - all hell breaks loose (and I can totally picture those "dog poo on shoe" looks).

sorry - i dont want to hijack your thread - just wanted to know you are certainly not alone.

xxx

tayforth

FBaby and others who are having a go at the OP - do you know how hard it is to start a thread on here admitting how badly your OH treats you? If the OP had anyone else she felt she could tell, she wouldn't be posting about it here.

Just my tuppence worth, based on my experience from my thread.

j.e.j.

I don't think FBaby is having a go at the OP, neither am I. We're just saying there are always 2 sides to every story. If someone is being badly treated I'm not saying go back for more. It just strikes me that this COULD be a breakdown in communication. Hence I am not on here shouting things like: oh he is abusive, leave him, etc

justme111

Yeah , I disagree if I see "you did nothing wrong" as well. I just felt for op being bullied as from what she says it fits the picture very well. disgusted look that makes a partner want to disappear is not acceptable whatever partners crime is ,uch less if it is a hangover. What to do - look into yourself , change yourself . Once you do it no "talk " will be needed as he will see a change in you and will treat you different.

justme111

j.e.j. wrote: »

I don't think FBaby is having a go at the OP, neither am I. We're just saying there are always 2 sides to every story. If someone is being badly treated I'm not saying go back for more. It just strikes me that this COULD be a breakdown in communication. Hence I am not on here shouting things like: oh he is abusive, leave him, etc

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So you do not think "we will talk about it later" is abusive then ?

tayforth

I know that there are two sides to every story. But what the OP is telling us sounds like abnormal behaviour. What he said was threatening and nasty. And no matter the reasons, nobody has the right to speak to the person they claim to love in that way.

Macca83_2

justme111 wrote: »

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So you do not think "we will talk about it later" is abusive then ?

not really..

Its suggests someone who is annoyed and wants the chance to calm down first before discussing it.

tayforth

Forgive me btw - those who have read my thread will understand that my tolerance for nasty partners is zilch ATM.

I've spent years trying to understand why my OH behaves the way he does. But I've wasted my time. I don't give a sh*t WHY he's like this. I deserve better. And so does the OP.

justme111

Macca83 wrote: »

not really..

Its suggests someone who is annoyed and wants the chance to calm down first before discussing it.

Well , if that was the case how about "could we talk about it later please".