Savings when seperating- scared I will lose it all

RAS

teawithmilk wrote: »

Ive left a voicemail message for the lady at the agency to contact me.

Well done.

teawithmilk wrote: »

Thank you. I did do it mainly for DD. Yes, I had stuff still in the house but that wouldnt have mattered in the end. Its just stuff. She was already upset that I had moved out, in her eyes I will always be the be who left "Daddy"...even though we were arguing ALL the time and she hated it and was starting to get very affected by it she still says that she wishes we were a "normal" family like her best friends.

She was starting high school this September- another stressful thing for her. I didnt want to add the stress of her Dad accusing me of making him homeless when she needed to be concentrating on making new friends and settling in and enjoying her new school.

I was also stuck between juggling that house and the other house that I rented short term to escape and also trying to buy a house (perhaps I shouldnt have taken that on but what the hell, its done now) and trying to deal with the onset of my mums dementia, visiting mum up to three times a day, up to twenty phone calls per day from my confused mum while I was at work, taking her meals, finding stuff she had lost, meeting the wardens at the sheltered housing complex to sort out the latest scrape that mum had got herself into - so many things happened in September/october that I just couldnt have coped with another thing without breaking down.

Just explain all this to the EA and add that you wanted to give him time to approach them re the taking over the tenancy.

I think you need to talk to DD before Friday and explain that the EA has asked what is happening and Daddy has not spoken to them about taking on the tenancy as you asked him to do. Otherwise there is a risk she is going to get a blasting coming from nowhere

RaspberryRipple

As you can see, I very rarely post on the MSE forum, but I read it almost every night and after reading an earlier post saying that they were getting frustrated with your lack of action I had to post in your support as I didn't want you to feel down about it and for it to knock your confidence.......you do not have to justify your actions on here.

As the well known saying goes, you have shown yourself to be a true teabag.....
Women are like teabags, you don't know how strong they are until you put them in hot water!

x x x

PlymouthMaid

I started reading Teawithmilk's traumatic divorce saga last night and have to say that I agree with the above. You are a true 'teabag' - hopefully this tenancy trouble will all be resolved soonish for you and then you really are out of the woods. Fingers crossed for you. It really doesn't pay to be too nice sometimes does it?

RAS

How you doing twm?

DigForVictory

twm,
just so you know - no matter how hairraising it feels right now, you are doing the right thing.

I just wish you could see the orderly queue of MSE folk wishing they could give you a big hug, a strong drink, a platoon of furniture shifters (who also do major deep cleaning) & so on.

We're all here, we're all rooting for you.

Let us know how you are doing when you're ready.

stripey1969

Yep, what DigForVictory said! xxx

teawithmilk

Hi, Im still here, but things arent going to plan. Im having a pretty rough time, and I was wanting to come back with positive news but things are going a bit pear shaped. Just wanted to say I havnt just disapeared and not listened to any advice.....

Ex decided at the last minute that he wanted to take on the lease and contacted the letting agency but now they are chasing him for info and he isnt answering his calls etc.

I'll post a proper update later but am having to work extra hoursand its all getting on top of me....

tattycath

Hugs TWM. You will get there with the same determination that has got you this far. Hope things improve for you soon. Deep breaths, don't work too hard, try to make some relax time for you.

neneromanova

I would say that's massive positive news TWM!! soon he won't be your problem

DigForVictory

teawithmilk - please look after your health, try not to work crazy hours & Hurrah! Final ribbon in sight!