Savings when seperating- scared I will lose it all

thorsoak

when you drop the papers into the solicitor tomorrow, tell her/him of your fears. Also - have a word with Womens Aid - they'll be able to help you.

teawithmilk

thanks. . .whatever he has said to her tonight it has made her cry and her mood is completely different to last night. im so angry now as i have to calm her down and settle her down for bed, why does he have to be so childish

tayforth

Definitely mention this to your solicitor, and to WA - and possibly to the police. It sounds very much like a threat.

Is your daughter in bed yet? Sending hugs to you both xxx

Treevo

Phone the police immediately and log it. He's terrifying your child for crying out loud! Don't have her worrying about daddy hurting mummy when a report to the police will most likely warn him off. And at the very least teach him that you won't play his games anymore.

teawithmilk

yes she has only just got to sleep. I sorted out internet access for my phone so at least i can get online. Im angry cos I feel like a mug. . .ok Im the one who has left but He is sitting pretty in the house with no disruption. he has his nice kitchen and home comforts. He might not even give me any contribution towards rent or Other utilities next month. then he goes and upsets DD and has agreed with her that she will stay at the old house tomorrow night. IS he going to be filling her head with poison all night?
He is a clever bloke, can be very sneaky himself and has no qualms about lying about all sorts of stuff . . .even said his Mum died just to get a day off work once (I only found out this by accident recently)
Id rather DD didnt go round now without me being there. Still feel uneasy somehow about what hes going to do next now that he has realised im seriuos about leaving. . .just a gut feeling that he could be planning something really nasty and vindictive. I think it was the look on his face when i picked DD up tonight.it was pure hatred towards me.

teawithmilk

and if i tell him that i know what he said to DD then that is betraying her confidence and dropping her in it and he will be furious with her

tayforth

It's a really tricky situation. On the one hand, you don't want to betray your DD's confidence, but, on the other, you have to protect her - and yourself.

If you log it with the police, he won't find out. But if he threatens you in future (or worse), you'll have this incident logged and it'll serve as evidence if needed. And if it comes to that, annoying him will be the least of your worries.

I would phone the police, log it, explain your concerns and see what they advise.

xxx

teawithmilk

Do you know what is also wierd. . .he didnt even ask for the address where we are staying. Im glad he didnt ask but its strange.It would have been the first thing I would have wanted to know if situation were reversed. I Am definately e mailling solicitor tomorrow for advice.

thorsoak

Does your daughter WANT to stay with him tomorrow night - or has he told her that she MUST stay with him? If she is unhappy with the prospect, then don't force her to go - she is, I believe, 11? Her wishes/views would be considered by any court on deciding access.

tayforth

Good point, thorsoak.

TWM - I am sure that your solicitor will advise you on what to do.