Separated, how much should I provide?

CH27

Stay strong Jack.

justme111

Ps. As I take it most of debt was incurred while still living together so divorce would not been a reason for that one

LannieDuck

JackRS wrote: »

Yes court date is set for October, so have a schedule of events e.g. E forms to be exchanged by end of August.

Oh good, that's only two months. Glad they can see you relatively quickly.

JackRS

Not so much has happened in the last 2 weeks. Main change is the house sale has hit a problem as is often the way. The couple have had their mortgage rejected, so estate agent is helping them find alternative sources. So it’s gone back on the market and has had another viewing.

Ex is still I believe planning to move south as both children have now on courses in that area, I found out through my parents as they were visited by the ex and my daughter last week. The ex did say to me some weeks back that she’d expect me to pay rent for somewhere on the coast if financial settlement not sorted and house not sold, not sure where she thinks I’m going to get that from?

I’m completing E forms at the moment, few areas not sure about, things like my outgoings and capital needs. Obviously I want o buy so would like at least half the proceeds of the house sale for deposit. Outgoings are always difficult to know so a few guesses etc.

duchy

From that money tree presumably ?

As her folks live down that way - presuming the courses are close enough to their home (I think you've already stated the in-laws have the room) it's probably a case she wants you paying rent down there rather than her having no "housing costs" to claim. Prepare for a stand off and to be told you are compromising the kid's education by depriving them of a home (despite the fact SHE chose to disrupt their education by moving ). Of course had she moved to enable her to take up a job it might be different - but I'm assuming that's still not the case.

JackRS

duchy wrote: »

From that money tree presumably ?

As her folks live down that way - presuming the courses are close enough to their home (I think you've already stated the in-laws have the room) it's probably a case she wants you paying rent down there rather than her having no "housing costs" to claim. Prepare for a stand off and to be told you are compromising the kid's education by depriving them of a home (despite the fact SHE chose to disrupt their education by moving ). Of course had she moved to enable her to take up a job it might be different - but I'm assuming that's still not the case.

Job? Why would she need one of those? Yes it's possible for them to opperate from her parents.

kelpie35

Have no suggestions to make on your continuing dilemmas.

All I can say is stay strong and keep plodding along searching for that bright light at the end of the tunnel.

JackRS

Had a request from her solicitor to agree to exchange form E's by end of the month to give both parties the time to negotiate before they have to be filed to the court by 23 Sep.

I've sent my forms plus all the additional documents to my solicitor this morning, so see what they think no doubt some adjustments?

heartbreak_star

Ooooh I really want to kick your ex in the derriere!!

It's women like her that give us a bad name.

Good luck and keep strong!

HBS x

solventsoon

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Ooooh I really want to kick your ex in the derriere!!

It's women like her that give us a bad name.

Good luck and keep strong!

HBS x

Hello Jack
I'm de-lurking again to agree with HBS, quite frankly I'm appalled by what your ex is doing. She may well be angry at you but this is the limit!

Stay strong and keep plodding, karma will have its way in the end.

Chin up
spoon x