Separated, how much should I provide?

CH27

JackRS wrote: »

Sitting in new place broadband working, washing machine connected and running, had a cup of tea now time to put bed together!

Fantastic!

onetomany

nice one jack

kelpie35

JackRS wrote: »

Sitting in new place broadband working, washing machine connected and running, had a cup of tea now time to put bed together!

That piece of news has brightened up my weekend :j

Hope you managed to have a good sleep on your new bed.

This is the start of your new life :beer:

JackRS

Thanks for the support everyone, yesterday was busy sorting everything out.

Got all need in place now to live, can survive without a freezer for a while!

Next door neighbor knocked on my door yesterday to introduce himself, nice guy similar age, he's not long been divorced and is living with his 18 year old son. So will be nice to have someone around who can relate to me. Also maybe I can rent his lawnmower for a cost of a beer or two!

thorsoak

Jack - join up to your local freecycle/freegle site - people are always passing on freezers and other useful stuff! You could have one by the end of the weekend!

kelpie35

That is good to hear you have a good neighbour. I am sure you will both be a support for one another.

Enjoy your new home, you deserve time and space to relax now.

JackRS

The ex has been sorting out the loft (where she'd put my clothes) so I've collected most of my things, I need to sort through it and probably chuck alot, have a few charity bags through the door so...

She's asked me to clear the shed, which take a few trips. also asked me to clear any rubble and bricks etc which was the sort of things I could have done when I had the time on those weekends when she didn't want me there, so we'll have to see if I have time to do it all?

Took my daughter to the cinema this week which was nice, I really feel for her as she is in the middle of this and feels split in two. I said I'd take her to the new place but I don't want her mum knowing where I am until things have been finanlised as I've no idea what's she's capable of? Although my solicitor says that my address will be on documents shared with her solicitor so they will know soon, not sure how to keep it a secret?

Finance are tight with paying £1850 for deposit and months rent, another £240 went through for the driving lessons. Obviously there's all the setting up home costs mostly on the 'never never' (0% card). I also had pay an additional £150 on the allowance to the ex. They compromised their demand from £2900 to £2000, so my solicitor proposed a compromise otherwise they would begin proceedings for a maintenance pending suit case which would of cost £4000 in fees on both sides. We haven't heard yet if they've accepted it?

I also got my first bill from my new solicitor £550 for few emails and phone calls! This morning I'm working on E forms, still waiting for pension value from work so can't submit it. The form for me won't have much in it as all I have is debt on the 0% card. My bank account is about to go overdrawn and I've 3 weeks to pay day!

Still living the dream...

justme111

Tx for an update
Good re daughter
Never mind money
Hope your solicitor is on ball , has he/she agreed to 2000 or suggested other amount ? Just being nosey , that's all.
Have a nice weekend

JackRS

justme111 wrote: »

Tx for an update
Good re daughter
Never mind money
Hope your solicitor is on ball , has he/she agreed to 2000 or suggested other amount ? Just being nosey , that's all.
Have a nice weekend

No we agreed to increase from 1000 to 1150 in response to this request and reminded them that I have just also ordered her another lease car through work (18K car) at a cost to me of £170 a month all insurance road tax included and that I continue to pay £50 each to the young adults and I am paying £240 a month on their driving lessons plus test costs. I wasn't so comfortable agreeing to this increase but solicitor advised me it may prevent maintenance pending suit court case. Actually I can't really afford it. I now have £12K on 0% credit cards which I want to start cutting into.

justme111

Ah , its a token increase. fingers crossed payments will be temporary anyway and it will not go to court.
If you are thinking about cutting into your 0% credit cards on a brink of divorce you are in a very good position