Separated, how much should I provide?

JackRS

onetomany wrote: »

also ring credit card up and tell them your not using it and she has no income hopefully they might cancel so she carnt run up debts in your name x

It's ok it's her name only, I just ignored it as I already told her last month that I wouldn't pay this one. I've got 2 cards that are 0% interest to take care of that are currently at £10K with family holidays and solicitors bills, these are in my name only! Hers is just her last months spends total £1100 for household, food and petrol.

onetomany

im struggling to work out what she spends that ammount on hang on im gonna work out what i get

onetomany

ok im not working at mo i get my rent and council tax payed i get the followering, £100 tax creidts, £70 esa £34 child benifit and a bit of csa hoping to recives soon i manage i only food shop every 2 weeks and i run a car if shes spending that on top of her child benifit and tax credits she need help

onetomany

we go without holidays etc and i only get my hair done when i can afford to but i dont expect it any other way untill i go back work

kelpie35

JackRS wrote: »

It's ok it's her name only, I just ignored it as I already told her last month that I wouldn't pay this one. I've got 2 cards that are 0% interest to take care of that are currently at £10K with family holidays and solicitors bills, these are in my name only! Hers is just her last months spends total £1100 for household, food and petrol.

If that is how much she spends per month that goes to prove she needs a job to manage her life style.

Please be strong and only give her the minimum you need to pay.

Hope your flat hunt has gone well and you can soon be settled into your new home. I hope it will give you a sense of security.

Any developments on the sale of your old home?

JackRS

onetomany wrote: »

ok im not working at mo i get my rent and council tax payed i get the followering, £100 tax creidts, £70 esa £34 child benifit and a bit of csa hoping to recives soon i manage i only food shop every 2 weeks and i run a car if shes spending that on top of her child benifit and tax credits she need help

Yeah I know and she doesn't drink or smoke but not changed her lifestyle for 5 months we've seperated and expecting me to carry on paying because I always used to but stopped from May.

JackRS

kelpie35 wrote: »

If that is how much she spends per month that goes to prove she needs a job to manage her life style.

Please be strong and only give her the minimum you need to pay.

Hope your flat hunt has gone well and you can soon be settled into your new home. I hope it will give you a sense of security.

Any developments on the sale of your old home?

No offers on the house. It's mainly supermarket and fuel.

Seen 5 places now so making progress

RAS

JackRS wrote: »

Yeah I know and she doesn't drink or smoke but not changed her lifestyle for 5 months we've seperated and expecting me to carry on paying because I always used to but stopped from May.

Except of course

The old life led to a £10K debt.
And the old income now has to cover two households.

JackRS

RAS wrote: »

Except of course

The old life led to a £10K debt.
And the old income now has to cover two households.

Indeed..........!

onetomany

im gonna sound harsh but it takes two to have kids and two to make a marraige work and two to provide even if it means bitting the bullet and claiming benifits untill you find work