Separated, how much should I provide?

nicegirl

kelpie35 wrote: »

I know this is no consolation to you at the moment Jack, bit I have faith to believe that in time you and your son will have a great relationship.

At them moment you and him are hurting so much that it is probably clouding his thoughts and also you don't know what is being said to him re your situation.

I know how much you love both your children. You are showing them what a caring, loving father is.

Keep strong and take care.

Totally agree with kelpie. It's obvious how much you love your children by keeping going as you are, even though it must be hurting you. Hang in there and I have faith that one day this will all be history.

Lunar_Eclipse

JackRS wrote: »

Thanks no my son is still not responding, I got him 2 tickets for premiership football match for New Years day for the team he supports and some spending money. I wrote that I'd love to go with him but no response. I know he did like it as he posted on twitter that it was his best present and hat a great day it was but no reply. It's his birthday in 3 weeks so I'll continue to provide and keep sending my love.

Heartbreaking.

And based on the above, I wouldn't send much of a gift for his birthday! The fact that he failed to acknowledge the gift and your request but went to the game and posted about it on Twitter (?!) sounds like he's deliberately trying to hurt you, which I find totally unacceptable and therefore wouldn't facilitate a repeat. I know it's hard and the goal is to focus on the long term relationship, but I do think there is a line of decency in terms of behaviour. He should be ashamed of himself and you continue to be a Saint. No wonder they're not happy with the family being broken up, you sound like gold glue.

kelpie35

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

Heartbreaking.

And based on the above, I wouldn't send much of a gift for his birthday! The fact that he failed to acknowledge the gift and your request but went to the game and posted about it on Twitter (?!) sounds like he's deliberately trying to hurt you, which I find totally unacceptable and therefore wouldn't facilitate a repeat. I know it's hard and the goal is to focus on the long term relationship, but I do think there is a line of decency in terms of behaviour. He should be ashamed of himself and you continue to be a Saint. No wonder they're not happy with the family being broken up, you sound like gold glue.

It is heartbreaking for Jack, but he is still a young adult and we do not know what he is being fed from the other side.

I do think that Jack is doing the right thing by keeping the avenue of contact available.

I also think and believe, given time his son will be able to have a great relationship with his dad, well that is what I am hoping and praying for.

I do think it is sad that his son has not acknowledged his Christmas gift and maybe he will have second thoughts regards acknowledging the forth coming birthday gift.

Lunar_Eclipse

kelpie35 wrote: »

It is heartbreaking for Jack, but he is still a young adult and we do not know what he is being fed from the other side.

I do think that Jack is doing the right thing by keeping the avenue of contact available.

Absolutely.

I don't disagree at all, but I do think it's possible to keep the relationship going without spending a fortune, especially given the circumstances.

neneromanova

How much longer until you can stop paying her the £650 child support Jack?

JackRS

neneromanova wrote: »

How much longer until you can stop paying her the £650 child support Jack?

Theoretically June 2015 but will depend on the final agreement what I am expected to pay in terms of SM going forward

supersaver2

kelpie35 wrote: »

It is heartbreaking for Jack, but he is still a young adult and we do not know what he is being fed from the other side.

I do think that Jack is doing the right thing by keeping the avenue of contact available.

I also think and believe, given time his son will be able to have a great relationship with his dad, well that is what I am hoping and praying for.

I do think it is sad that his son has not acknowledged his Christmas gift and maybe he will have second thoughts regards acknowledging the forth coming birthday gift.

I don't think it's sad he hasn't acknowledged his (extravagant might I add!) present I think it's damm rude! He is an adult and yes divorce is painful for families, but at his age I wouldn't let the situation excuse such poor manners.

I speak as a parent and a child of divorced parents (divorced when I was 10 years old) I wouldn't be happy with my child's behaviour and would certainly be thinking long and hard before buying more presents.

Sorry if that sounds harsh but I'm a stickler for manners and not acknowledging the present yet writing on Twitter is not the way an adult should be acting.

duchy

And with all the stuff going on at the moment I think Jack is wise to pick his battles ......and moaning on about manners to a lad who is been fed poison not just from his mother but also his maternal grandparents who he currently lives with is a battle that he is unlikely win and in the bigger picture hardly essential at this point..

JackRS

lulu_92 wrote: »

Is it the 123 card, Jack?

That'ss 3% on petrol and 1% on supermarket spend

0% on purchases and BTs for 23 months

Sorry lulu 92 you were correct it is the 123 as you stated. BT is 0% at any time during the 23 months provided less than 95% of credit limit. This makes this a very useful card so relieved it was approved. Credit limit not massive £6300 but it will cover the card that has £3K and stops being 0% in the summer and some of my solicitor fees going forward.

olibrofiz

barbiedoll wrote: »

What with the inept solicitors and the grasping ex both bleeding Jack dry, I doubt that he could afford to set up a bog roll in a bathroom suite, let alone a "stunner in a penthouse suite"! :mad:
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Sorry barbiedoll, angry face unnecessary if it was aimed at me - apols to anyone else that read my comment the wrong way.