Separated, how much should I provide?

quidsy

She should be grateful to be getting whatever share of the house sale and be thankful she has furniture so that she can furnish her new house.pathetic.

Grateful? Why? 50% of the house & joint equity is entirely hers, the sticking point is the extra she wants of top of that.

kezzygirl

quidsy wrote: »

Grateful? Why? 50% of the house & joint equity is entirely hers, the sticking point is the extra she wants of top of that.

Well, she should be grateful for what she has instead of grabbing for whatever else she can get...that's my point.

duchy

I think what was meant was that she should be grateful that the marriage has assets and no matter if she gets 50% she'll still be financially viable.

JackRS

Just got thisfrom my solicitor:

Thank you for your latest comments on the draft letter to exMrs JackRS solicitors. This was somewhat overtaken with the need to adjourn thehearing and ensure that the pension’s Actuary has all relevant documents forthe preparation of their report.

I now attach the amended draft proposal which does notinclude any offer for spousal maintenance. I would hope by putting this offeron the table now, you are starting at your ideal position and her expectationsand further counter offers will be lower. Although your offer does mean thatyou retain 60% of the capital and pensions, she will have more of the cash assets whereas youwill have to wait for your pension assets.

I do also think it is an appropriate time to send yourupdating disclosure to Mrs JackRS solicitors so that we are working withcurrent figures while we negotiate. I attach copies of both letters which Iintend to send, subject to your instructions.


Next hearing

We have now been informed by the Family Court at Oxfordthat your case has been listed for the 2April 2015. I know that this is slightly further forward than we had hopedbut it does guarantee us a good period in which we can negotiate upon havingreceived the pension report, sometime in February.

I have retained Mr Roger Thomas for you as Andrew Day ison holiday that week. Mr Thomas is vastly experienced and although slightlymore qualified than Mr Day, commands a similar fee. Mr Thomas's fee is£1000-£1250 plus VAT dependent on the amount of paperwork. As we have hadsignificant disclosure in your case, I would anticipate his fees to be £1250plus VAT and I would be grateful if you could please arrange payment in theweek beginning the 23 March 2015 to ensure that I can have sufficient funds tosend Mr Thomas a Brief to him in that week.

JackRS

barbiedoll wrote: »

Does he know that you watch his Twitter account, are you "following" him?

Looking at it from a different angle, maybe he wanted you to know that he loved the present but he couldn't find another way of telling you this, without upsetting his mum? She may well be using emotional blackmail to get him to ignore you. If he hated you that much, he would have sent the tickets back, surely?

I do think that it is very rude of your ex not to insist that your son acknowledge the present though, no matter what has happened between you and her. When my parents split up, my mum always made sure that we wrote "thank you" letters, both to my dad and to his relatives if they sent any presents/cash etc. Even though she hated her in-laws!

No he doesn't know as I'm not on Twitter, I found it by putting his name in google click the link and I found that I could read his posts which is the only way I get to know what's happening in his life this was how I discovered he was working over Christmas and his comments about the match day present but obviously no reference to who gave them, not that I would expect that. It is where I also read some nasty comments that he wrote about me during summer 2013.

As a family we always insisted that we all wrote hand written thank you letters to all we received gifts from at Christmas and Birthday. This is something that both myself and ex Mrs JackRS had also been brought up with.

I do understand your views and welcome them, obviously I am not sure what to do but deep down we know that there is a great deal of pleasure in giving to one you love, so I will continue to give to my son as I will always love him unconditionally. I appreciate that makes me weak and to some you may think it is not giving him a good message but I have little opportunity to show him my love and so I will not miss this one as I may well come to regret it.

JackRS

quidsy wrote: »

Grateful? Why? 50% of the house & joint equity is entirely hers, the sticking point is the extra she wants of top of that.

Actually she's asking for 80% of house sale in lieu of pension share, but she would have the advantage of cash now.

Yes the sticking point is the extra maintenance.

ampersand

Jack, again, you show us the good man you are.

When, one day, your children read this.....

Wish Andrew Day was available. Have had a peep at RT, don't know of him, but that type of Accountancy b/g should help. Better someone like this is pleading for you, rather than for ex. Forensic acid attack on ex's cloud cuckooland figs and dreams.
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Any update on whether Rent Review will precede 2 April[ref.#2246]?

Jack, how you are keeping going with all of this is a miracle. You are a special person and pray God, someone will eventually tell you this daily, during the rest of your long and happy life together.

JackRS

ampersand wrote: »

Jack, again, you show us the good man you are.

When, one day, your children read this.....

Wish Andrew Day was available. Have had a peep at RT, don't know of him, but that type of Accountancy b/g should help. Better someone like this is pleading for you, rather than for ex.
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Any update on whether Rent Review will precede 2 April[ref.#2246]?

Jack, how you are keeping going with all of this is a miracle. You are a special person and pray God, someone will eventually tell you this daily, during the rest of your long and happy life together.

Very kind of you I think I've got too much baggage for anyone to want to take me on not too mention very little money to my name....

ampersand

'........not too mention very little money to my name....'
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....which will matter not one iota to The One. Chuck that non-reason for a start.

This is not some MkII ex-OH we're talking about.
There are other sorts of female a.k.a. REAL women - your daughter, for a start, seems decently en route to becoming one, thanks to her Dad.

When this person hoves into view, any 'baggage' will vaporise:-) It's your mind that's weighed down right now, understandably.

kelpie35

I will start the count down again for you Jack.

10 weeks tomorrow.

I have to agree with you that you are doing the right thing with regards to your son's birthday.

You are a loving and caring dad and your children should be proud to have a dad like you.

As Ampersand said I too hope when all this is behind you, you will find the "one" who loves you for who you are.

You are very strong young man who has been put through the wringer but has always tried his best for the people whom you love. You should be so proud of yourself.

Take care