Separated, how much should I provide?

neneromanova

JackRS wrote: »

As many readers of this thread know I am frustrated at the low value for money my solicitor is adding and so I wondered if it was possible to proceed without one and just employ a barrister for the court case? It has been suggested on here before just wondered if anyone had some relevant experience that identified the disadvantage?

http://www.barcouncil.org.uk/instructing-a-barrister/how-to-instruct-a-barrister/#tabs-1

Look at Public Access Scheme.

JackRS

neneromanova wrote: »

http://www.barcouncil.org.uk/instructing-a-barrister/how-to-instruct-a-barrister/#tabs-1

Look at Public Access Scheme.

Thanks, not sure how to find a good one, need a recommendation.

CH27

JackRS wrote: »

Thanks, not sure how to find a good one, need a recommendation.

Could the person who looked over your case make a recommendation? Or more importantly tell you who to avoid!

Caroline_a

If it helps, I represented myself in court when my husband went for residency of my daughter, and all the other hearings afterwards including financial hearings. I did have a solicitor to advise me and do the paperwork, but the rest I did myself. You just need to remember that you can only speak when it's your turn...

It was ok, and not that bad at all. I think that the judge was impressed that I had chosen to save money to do this.

justme111

You are female , what impresses in female can be interpreted as greed in male car scenario

Caroline_a

justme111 wrote: »

You are female , what impresses in female can be interpreted as greed in male car scenario

Totally disagree! I think it shows an attempt at being responsible rather than being greedy whoever you are. Had we both represented ourselves my ex might not have appealed as many times as his ambitious solicitor did. After 5 appeals the judge was well and truly fed up with them!

I was working full-time and my ex was on full legal aid.

ampersand

Jack -
http://www.ftadviser.com/2014/09/24/pensions/divorce-lawyer-s-error-shows-need-to-engage-advisers-mX0xsQOxaQBeFyxHE68RIL/article.html
[and the 2nd comment on that.]

-from which[nothing like a selective quote to bolster spirits]

'I am often amazed at the lack of knowledge exhibited by professionals who I used to think knew everything.'
The barracuda barrister I used is now a Judge.

Wishing you and your daughter a close, happy and fruitful time today and every good wish to her at Uni. She will find you a thoughtful, experience-wise anchor during these coming years - and that, Jack[pause], is[pause] true:-)

Indian summer continues. Absorb it this w/e.
#
ch27's point is very strong: 'Or more importantly tell you who to avoid!', at all times being aware of when and why such views gelled, just as in these posts.i.e. old advice, experience and 'given's are not necessarily pertinent now.
British justice is not based on any Napoleonic code, but on precedent and evolution.
Otherwise, you'd have solutions in Dalloz:-)

JackRS

I had a meal with my daughter Friday as she starts uni in London today. Had a deep discussion about things, which was obviously upsetting for us both. She’s in the middle and finding it difficult as she’s been her mums moral support. She sees it from both sides but said that her mum is being told that she’s entitled to be able to live the same lifestyle as when together. Her view is ‘you paid for everything before why can’t you just continue. She said her mum had been applying for jobs but with no recent experience not getting interviews, I had to be careful not to say the wrong but I suggested that she may need to register with agencies and do some temp or voluntary admin work to get some experience.

I’m considering as the house isn’t selling, maybe worth renting it out and allow her to have the proceeds in lieu of reducing voluntary payment to CSA level (£650). This will enable me to take a Bank loan (£16K) out to pay off credit cards. This will then allow her to go south and find a job there. However it’ll take time and money to get the house ready to rent out. I’m trying to work out how to word the email, either way I know she’ll react with a maintenance pending suit court case. I will also get no more response from my daughter.

19lottie82

JackRS wrote: »

I had a meal with my daughter Friday as she starts uni in London today. Had a deep discussion about things, which was obviously upsetting for us both. She sees it from both sides but said that her mum is being told that she’s entitled to be able to live the same lifestyle as when together. Her view is ‘you paid for everything before why can’t you just continue.

Your daughter sounds like an intelligent girl Jack, so I'm sure she will realise this isn't realistic. I'm glad you got to have a chat with her and offer up your side of the story.

rpc

JackRS wrote: »

her mum is being told that she’s entitled to be able to live the same lifestyle as when together

Who is telling her that?

It is simple maths to work out that two people together can afford a more expensive lifestyle together than they can apart (benefit traps excepted). When two people split, they both need to accept a drop in disposable income.