Separated, how much should I provide?

duchy

And neither do we !

victory

As I have said before, I have no advise to offer as I am clueless on the legalities but I feel there must be something your wife values greatly that she would hate to give over/ share with you ( I know you said no to her inheritance) that if you brought it up at mediation it would make her back off/ back down? Is there such a possession ? Can you find something?

kelpie35

I don't either Jack

There has been so much money wasted because you are being financially abused.

I know you have taken the advice from other posters as to how you should go forward and that i understand.

Have you decided whither to still continue with mediation or just go to court?

Hope you manage to find some "me" time this bank holiday weekend.

Take care.

JackRS

kelpie35 wrote: »

I don't either Jack

There has been so much money wasted because you are being financially abused.

I know you have taken the advice from other posters as to how you should go forward and that i understand.

Have you decided whither to still continue with mediation or just go to court?

Hope you manage to find some "me" time this bank holiday weekend.

Take care.

Yes we've agreed to one more mediation for this friday where she is going to propose alternative, which I won't like to will have to propose my compromise or let it go to court and lose even more out the pot!

duchy

For what it is worth I think she's realised you have finally run out of patience and she needs to give a bit ........however I think she'll offer something still nowhere near fair in the hope you will decide that a huge compromise is better than giving up almost everything .
I hope you go into mediation with a very clear idea of what is your minimum acceptable offer and don't settle for less.

(Incidently how does one become a mediator -seems like an interesting job if done right Anyone know ?)

justme111

The following may sound sacrilegious to many:
It is just money. Life is too short. If you losing money it is not nice but having the life consumed by hurt of losing money is far worse. Have a good rest of the weekend !

duchy

It sounds sanctimonious
(not sure if you are using a big word you don't understand as there's nothing religious about this thread so sacrilegious makes no sense at all . Perhaps you could look both words up in a dictionary so you actually understand what each mean.)

It also is clear you haven't bothered reading the thread -but hey you have a good weekend too !


<shakes head>

kelpie35

justme111 wrote: »

The following may sound sacrilegious to many:
It is just money. Life is too short. If you losing money it is not nice but having the life consumed by hurt of losing money is far worse. Have a good rest of the weekend !

Jack has been more than generous to his ex.

I think you really need to read through the whole thread to understand how Jack has really been financially bullied.

Hope u enjoy your bank holiday weekend

JackRS

duchy wrote: »

For what it is worth I think she's realised you have finally run out of patience and she needs to give a bit ........however I think she'll offer something still nowhere near fair in the hope you will decide that a huge compromise is better than giving up almost everything .
I hope you go into mediation with a very clear idea of what is your minimum acceptable offer and don't settle for less.

(Incidently how does one become a mediator -seems like an interesting job if done right Anyone know ?)

The mediator we have was previously a solicitor practicing family law. I don't know if it's a requirement but you need to know the law. Also be able ensure mediation takes as long as possible to earn as much as you can from the couple. A number of times she wanted to review things which would have taken more time but I suggested that it wasn't a key factor and steered the discussion round to the fundamentals of dividing the assets.

madvixen

Hi Jack,

I hope you're managing to get some peace and relaxation this weekend.

Out of curiosity, who recommended the mediator? Your lawyer or hers?