Too late to back out? (Meeting a guy from Facebook)

balletshoes

tigercubx wrote: »

I want to have sex with him. But, I also want him to stay here forever with me and get our own house and have kids blah blah blah.. I get attached far too easily and I know that he will shag me, leave me, maybe speak to me on Skype every now and again after so he can have a 'release' every time he's feeling like he wants sex but his wife isn't there....and even though I know this I still can't get my head around turning him down because I genuinely like him a lot even though I know he probably sounds evil to everyone reading this, I feel like he's the only guy I want

you feel this way because he's pursuing you right now, its a very nice feeling to think someone so good-looking and exotic is chasing you, wanting you. But you know all he wants is sex, he doesn't want you. Once he has had you, he'll forget you. Thats the bottom line.

He'll destroy you if you meet him.

There is no happy ending with you and this man - never ever will be.

tigercubx

balletshoes wrote: »

you feel this way because he's pursuing you right now, its a very nice feeling to think someone so good-looking and exotic is chasing you, wanting you. But you know all he wants is sex, he doesn't want you. Once he has had you, he'll forget you. Thats the bottom line.

He'll destroy you if you meet him.

There is no happy ending with you and this man - never ever will be.

I know all of that but my mind is blocking it out, like I feel happy every time I speak to him and I feel guilty at the same time,and I know if I meet him I will be like delirious and want to be with him 24/7 but at the same time not want to be any where near him, because he isnt mine, and never will be. I think about him all the time I know how sad it is because I've never even met him but I speak to him almost every night and stay up until like1am so I can talk to him while he's on his lunch break

marisco_2

tigercubx wrote: »

Lol it's not a wind up at all I have got the proof (Skype logs, pictures etc)

You write that as if it is something to be proud of. Which says an awful lot about the kind of person you are and your lack of any morals and values.

If you meet this guy and anything goes on between you, then you are complicit in him having an affair. That is the ultimate betrayal to his wife and could cause so much harm and devestation. Would you really lower yourself to be part of something so awful coming about?

tigercubx

marisco wrote: »

You write that as if it is something to be proud of. Which says an awful lot about the kind of person you are and your lack of any morals and values.

If you meet this guy and anything goes on between you, then you are complicit in him having an affair. That is the ultimate betrayal to his wife and could cause so much harm and devestation. Would you really lower yourself to be part of something so awful coming about?

But I'm not forcing him to meet me and I have told him that I'd feel bad for his wife but he's always saying let me see how we go I've always wanted to live in England, like surely even if I don't meet him he will meet someone else in the future and cheat on his wife anyway? I have been cheated on before by several of my exes s I definitely know how it feels but if he isn't happy with her anyway then what's the point in staying with her if he realises he likes me more?

27col

balletshoes wrote: »

He's a married man, he wants a shag and then to go home to his wife and kids and forget about you altogether. All you are is an English shag. Thats it.

I'm sorry to be harsh, but this man is an awful excuse for a human being, he really really is.

Do yourself a huge favour and delete delete delete him from your life.

He has the cheek to call himself a Christian. Some Christian.!

geri1965_2

tigercubx wrote: »

But I'm not forcing him to meet me and I have told him that I'd feel bad for his wife but he's always saying let me see how we go I've always wanted to live in England, like surely even if I don't meet him he will meet someone else in the future and cheat on his wife anyway? I have been cheated on before by several of my exes s I definitely know how it feels but if he isn't happy with her anyway then what's the point in staying with her if he realises he likes me more?

You are an idiot. Stop wasting people's time.

Troutwrestler

He is married. He wants to cheat on his wife and has no concern for the hurt that would cause his children should that ever be found out.
That should tell you all you need to know about this ..I won't call him a man...

Have some respect for yourself.

marisco_2

tigercubx wrote: »

But I'm not forcing him to meet me and I have told him that I'd feel bad for his wife but he's always saying let me see how we go I've always wanted to live in England, like surely even if I don't meet him he will meet someone else in the future and cheat on his wife anyway? I have been cheated on before by several of my exes s I definitely know how it feels but if he isn't happy with her anyway then what's the point in staying with her if he realises he likes me more?

What horrendous logic.

balletshoes

tigercubx wrote: »

But I'm not forcing him to meet me and I have told him that I'd feel bad for his wife but he's always saying let me see how we go I've always wanted to live in England, like surely even if I don't meet him he will meet someone else in the future and cheat on his wife anyway? I have been cheated on before by several of my exes s I definitely know how it feels but if he isn't happy with her anyway then what's the point in staying with her if he realises he likes me more?

you don't get it do you - he is NOT going to be with you. He is NOT going to leave his wife for you. He DOESN'T like you more than his wife.
You might as well just roll over, you are making this so easy for him to shag you then leave you, without a backward glance. Do you enjoy being treated like a piece of cr*p by men?

heartbreak_star

Fine. You're not going to listen and therefore you won't take your blinkers off.

Just don't expect any of us to have any sympathy when you post a tearful thread saying "the man of your dreams has left you heartbroken after using you for sex".

I have been cheated on in the past, and sadly have been the one that cheated. Thankfully things worked out OK in the end, but I've never been proud and it took a lot for me to sort myself after both incidents.

Don't cheat. Don't be an accessory to anyone else cheating. It's not worth it.

HBS x