Too late to back out? (Meeting a guy from Facebook)

tigercubx

Treevo wrote: »

Christian Bale in American Psycho or Christian Bale in The Machinist?

Lol I've actually told him he looks like the machinist, he honestly is the double in his face! Not in the body though, he's not emiciated but he's skinny! Id post a pic but i dont want anyone he knows to see this, if they even use this forum in nz, but he is honestly amazing looking.

coinxoperated

Also to add and put something else into perspective.

You are a vulnerable person. You are mentally and emotionally vulnerable. He's using that to attempt to get his end away. Don't forget it!

Pechow

Don't do it, and don't let him manipulate you into meeting up anyway because he's already bought the ticket or rubbish like that. Don't go thinking it will be "just as friends", you won't be fooling anyone, let alone yourself. Don't answer the door or call the police if he shows up at your home! Or even go somewhere else for the time being if you're that worried.

lizziebabe

icklejulez wrote: »

Unless you've ever been a wife who's been cheated on you can never understand the pain it causes a woman.

Don't do it, save someone the hurt. If he's going to do it anyone, let it be another female. No matter what kind of dream man he is, who would want a man that would cheat on his wife and destroy his children's future for sex?

He is a liar and a cheat. Why would you want to have a relationship with someone like that. I was cheated on and know what it feels like and so do my children. How could there be trust in this relationship. :eek:

tea_lover

Is this man working as a psychiatrist?? It sounds like he's grooming you. Surely there are professional standards he should be keeping?

Skippycat

tigercubx wrote: »

I think he's amazing, he's gorgeous, he's my dream man basically and far too good for me

If your dream man is a bloke that is quite happy to cheat on the mother of his kids for the sake of a quick and convenient fling then you seriously need to start aiming higher! Delete him from FB and cut off all contact with him and take comfort in the fact that you have had a lucky escape (it's a shame the same thing can't be said for his poor wife).

fizz

He is a married man with 4 kids who lives on the other side of the world! Just tell him that you aren't going to meet him,delete his fb profile and find yourself a proper therapist who won't try and get inside your knickers.:eek:

fizz.x

Pechow

tigercubx wrote: »

You're definitely right but I don't know how to go about telling him, I've already told him I know I will miss him too much if he comes then goes and that I feel bad for his wife but he is always just saying its okay baby I will come and see u every weekend when I can(as if) and that he isn't happy with his wife and that I'm nicer looking etc. I know if I stop talking to him though I will miss him so much and just feel like part of me is gone he's the only person I can talk to and I have a psychiatrist but I feel more comfortable speaking to him.

He is manipulating you. If he was really that unhappy with his wife, he would leave.

Yes, it will hurt when you stop talking. It will feel like you'll never find anyone else like him, like no one else understands you, like he was the one and you missed your chance-but the pain of losing him will pass, you will find someone else (hopefully someone who isn't married), other people can and will understand you, and there will be many more out there far better for you.

tigercubx

coinxoperated wrote: »

It depends what your expecting from the 'meet'.

If your expecting him to never return home and stay weigh his new wonderful 21 year old wife no 2 and live happily ever after - its extremely unlikely to happen. + you'll never be able to trust him as he's clearly a scumbag

If you fancy 'a bit' and want to 'scratch an itch' so to speak, go for it. I'm sorry, but his wife and kids are his problem not yours. If you don't he'll just find someone else that will, so feel free.

Do not expect him to declare love / leave wife etc for you.

I want to have sex with him. But, I also want him to stay here forever with me and get our own house and have kids blah blah blah.. I get attached far too easily and I know that he will shag me, leave me, maybe speak to me on Skype every now and again after so he can have a 'release' every time he's feeling like he wants sex but his wife isn't there....and even though I know this I still can't get my head around turning him down because I genuinely like him a lot even though I know he probably sounds evil to everyone reading this, I feel like he's the only guy I want

ruby-roo_2

This has got to be a windup. No-one could possibly be this naive and stupid.