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Too late to back out? (Meeting a guy from Facebook)

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  • tayforth
    tayforth Posts: 1,884 Forumite
    tea_lover wrote: »
    Is this man working as a psychiatrist?? It sounds like he's grooming you. Surely there are professional standards he should be keeping?

    That was my first thought too.
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  • tigercubx
    tigercubx Posts: 67 Forumite
    tea_lover wrote: »
    Is this man working as a psychiatrist?? It sounds like he's grooming you. Surely there are professional standards he should be keeping?

    No he is a speech therapist for children. :)
  • ognum
    ognum Posts: 4,879 Forumite
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    I know this man has never been your psychologist but you started your relationship with him while discussing your depression and in his role as such you have opened up to him in a way you wouldn't to another person.

    I think this man had gravely overstepped his position, he has an influence over you that he should not have and is seeking to develop a sexual relationship based on counselling relationship.

    You need to back off, this will severely effect your depression when he meets you has sex with you and then moves on to another desperate soul in need of help and support.

    This is real misuse of his priveliged position as a psychologist.
  • tigercubx
    tigercubx Posts: 67 Forumite
    ruby-roo wrote: »
    This has got to be a windup. No-one could possibly be this naive and stupid.

    Lol it's not a wind up at all I have got the proof (Skype logs, pictures etc). A lot of people say that I'm naive & I have got a lot of issues because of stuff that happened in the past.
  • tigercubx
    tigercubx Posts: 67 Forumite
    ognum wrote: »
    I know this man has never been your psychologist but you started your relationship with him while discussing your depression and in his role as such you have opened up to him in a way you wouldn't to another person.

    I think this man had gravely overstepped his position, he has an influence over you that he should not have and is seeking to develop a sexual relationship based on counselling relationship.

    You need to back off, this will severely effect your depression when he meets you has sex with you and then moves on to another desperate soul in need of help and support.

    This is real misuse of his priveliged position as a psychologist.

    He's not a psychologist, he studied it as he works with emotionally damaged children who refuse to speak as well as kids who've had strokes and stuff. x
  • Skippycat
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    ruby-roo wrote: »
    This has got to be a windup. No-one could possibly be this naive and stupid.

    I honestly hope this is a wind up! If we are reaching the stage where people have to ask a bunch of strangers on the internet whether it's wrong to sleep around with married men then it says a lot about the shocking lack of morals in the world today...
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  • He won't be coming all this way just for the one shag. You will probably be on the list of 'things to do in the UK'. Nice.
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  • make_me_wise
    make_me_wise Posts: 1,509 Forumite
    marisco wrote: »
    He sounds like a manipulator who has been grooming you.

    This is spot on. He knows you are vulnerable and is taking advantage of that.
  • neverdespairgirl
    neverdespairgirl Posts: 16,501 Forumite
    Think about what you really mean about him being your "dream man".

    Does your "dream man" say things like, "that he isn't happy with his wife and that I'm nicer looking" to another woman, behind his wife's back?

    Sounds more of a nightmare than a dream to me.

    This thread is kind of like watching someone walk along a road wearing ear-phones, and you can see a massive pothole in front of her. You are shouting "stop! don't do it! stop now!" but you have a horrible feeling that she will just keep going and the predictable accident is going to happen.
    ...much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.
  • tigercubx wrote: »
    Lol it's not a wind up at all I have got the proof (Skype logs, pictures etc). A lot of people say that I'm naive & I have got a lot of issues because of stuff that happened in the past.

    You are naive. Please don't do this. You will regret it - one way or other. He is not going to leave his wife for you.
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