My husbeast is a cretin

BugglyB

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Quite right, I'm one of a minority it seems. So he made a passing comment on a woman's picture who lives on the other side of the world.
Er... and?

I could say some other stuff that the ladies on here wouldn't want to hear, despite it being true for most men. But as I say, ladies don't always want to hear the truth about men, just want them to be the way THEY want them to be.

I suppose it comes down to what you want/expect from a relationship. My love for my partner comes from a place of mutual respect, which wouldn't involve writing something like that where my family, his family and our friends could see it.

Do I think he only looks at me? No of course not. I know he watches !!!!!! and looks at other women. I fully expect/enjoy the fact that when he's not with me he probably flirts with other ladies.

People forget facebook is a public forum. Just as I wouldn't expect him to crack onto another lass while we're in the pub with his family, I wouldn't expect him to do it on facebook either.

[Deleted User]

marisco wrote: »

I disagree. I guess it depends on how much a woman values her self worth. No amount of money could ever make me do anything like that.

But we live in a society where everyone has choices. You don;t want to do that but maybe someone else does.

[Deleted User]

ruby-roo wrote: »

I think strip clubs are sleazy places.

Dont go then.

[Deleted User]

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

That is great for her.

But how sad that men in real life do not make her feel that way.

I want a man to want me for who I am not what I look like. I do not see personally how men lusting after my naked body would make me feel sexy and beautiful. They probably do not even look at her face!

I'd feel sexy and beautiful if women paid to see my body lol. Cant see it happening any time soon though. :-)

bitemebankers

BugglyB wrote: »

People forget facebook is a public forum. Just as I wouldn't expect him to crack onto another lass while we're in the pub with his family, I wouldn't expect him to do it on facebook either.

This is the crux of it, really. I'm more broadminded than most, but I can see why the OP feels offended.

aileth

[quote=[Deleted User];60704241]I'd feel sexy and beautiful if women paid to see my body lol. Cant see it happening any time soon though. :-)[/QUOTE]

Well, sling us some risque pics and we will make a judgment

mumonashoestring

bitemebankers wrote: »

This is the crux of it, really. I'm more broadminded than most, but I can see why the OP feels offended.

That was precisely the point for me. I've never minded him having crushes on celebrities, wouldn't mind if he wanted to go to a strip club (beyond thinking most of them are just grubby, run down excuses to charge through the nose for second rate drinks), but to start openly dribbling over someone in writing in a setting where friends and family have access to what he's written was just hurtful.

And FWIW our next door neighbour is a lap dancer and she loves her job. Absolutely loves it. She's intelligent, articulate and is working as a lap dancer by free choice.

neverdespairgirl

bitemebankers wrote: »

If you engage with and actually talk to people, you'll find that a lot of sex workers do not fit the stereotype of abused and vulnerable. Some have deliberately chosen that career and don't want or need anyone's pity. For those people, it's really very tiresome and more than a little irritating to hear these blanket assumptions trotted out as fact every time there's a debate like this.

I first commented on this in the thread, and I said:

I've dealt, professionally, with quite a lot of strippers. And many are exploited, abused, and highly vulnerable.

You'll notice that I do engage and talk to people, and that I didn't say all sex workers were abused and vulnerable. Quite a lot aren't, and have made a free choice and are happy with that choice.

But if you go to strip clubs, you will be in an environment where a good proportion of the women working there are vulnerable, abused or exploited. And you can't get around that by saying my-neighbour-does-it-and-loves-it. Because there are an awful lot of women who don't fall into that catagory.

Person_one

My opposition to strip clubs and lap dancing is more ideoligical anyway. Even if every woman doing it has made a free choice to do so, I'd much prefer that there was no market for this kind of thing because we'd decided to start viewing all women as actual human beings and nobody felt the need to spend time objectifying and dehumanising them.

Joons

aileth wrote: »

Well, sling us some risque pics and we will make a judgment

Yes, immediately please....:j